Peri high sex drive - how long did yours last?

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Following from the recent thread asking when your perimenopause symptoms started and when they hit their peak...

For the last year or so, I've been driven crazy with an insanely high libido. I'm 41.

Don't get me wrong, it's a lot of fun, but I'm genuinely concerned I'm going to either lose my job or get arrested at this point!

For others who experienced this when you either hit peri or hit your early 40s, how long did it last? Or did it never end, and if so, how old are you now?

I kind of want it to last forever, but would also like a break from feeling quite so insatiably horny! 🫠

Yes your body's been through a lot I guess. It's encouraging your libido hasn't totally dropped off a cliff, as lots of women report that it does.

I can pretty much name the date that I woke up extra horny last year. It's like a switch flipped over night. I'm finding it quite fascinating. Has your DH explored taking testosterone at all?

is random crushes normal?

I thought it was just me!! The most random people I meet to, and I have many dreams about these people then too!

It lasted about 8 years for me. It was so, so intense I nearly went to the doctor, as I didn’t know at the time it was linked to peri. It gave me a lot of energy and I loved it… I felt irresistible 😂. It’s calmed down a little now, sadly.

I've not really experienced this before this age. But I develop crushes often at the moment. I'm married so wouldn't act on any of them, and its all just nonsense. But it's a bit embarrassing sitting in a work meeting or whatever, like a love struck teenager!

Lose your job or get arrested how?!

Sounds great, I’m envious. Bring on peri!

Do you have kids? Does this only hit women who don’t have kids, as a last hurrah biologically? Curious.

Haha, I can relate to feeling irresistible! I think I'm the sexiest person in the world! I think it...even if noone else does 😂

I can also relate to feeling it needs a doctors appointment, it feels like a medical affliction at this point.

I'm pushing 63😂 DH is 71 - 72 in Oct Frankly we are rampant. 😍Since I reduced my hours to work 3 mornings a week, we at it at least twice a week.

Admittedly DH benefits from the blue pills (Viagra) but our sex life has never been better.

I find the concern about getting pregnant the fact that after over 40 years of marriage DH still fancies the pants off me so sexy. I also so fancy him - he's my sexy silver fox

We've also become more adventurous in the bedroom since we did'[t have the danger of a small child coming in, I won't go into detail, but let's say that 'Auntie Ann (Summers) has been very kind to us supplying toys & sexy outfits.

Unfortunately DH is rather vocal when he comes - we've had comments from neighbours about him 'praising the Lord' there's no shutting hm up as he tends to call out 'OMG I'm coming' Although we close all doors & window.

However we live on an estate for over 55's & he has rather a reputation for being a super-stud. My female friends on the estate are rather envious that I'm getting some & they not 😂

I've not got kids, but it seems to hit women who do have kids just the same (although they might not find the time and energy to actually have as much sex).

It's joked about as the ovaries "going out of business" sale. Everything must go!

This is brilliant! Was your sex drive lower before your 40s though, or was it always high?

Hit peri 2 years ago , sex drive went through the roof ! I’m 49 & it’s still the same !
Like you open to trying lots 😂…

I was 50 when I couldn’t get enough sex, it lasted about 5 years for me then I just dried up! 🤣 now I’m in my 70’s alone as my partner died and quite often pleasure myself. I certainly haven’t gone off sex.

Isn't it just fascinating what hormones can do!

Sorry to hear about your partner. It's encouraging to hear you're still sexual at 70.

This was me. Similar gap and that was the age it all kicked in. V nearly ruined my marriage.

I'm now mid 40s and don't really have any desire. Which is both a shock, because sex was massively important to me since my teens, and kind of a relief.

I feel a bit like a neutered cat and, clearly hormones are in play, because I just don't want sex. Never, ever thought I'd be like this. Have wondered if hrt will help, but I'm just not that bothered. I totally understand why wealthy women used to join convents in the olden days. All that peace, space, reading.

Mine went on for about 3 or 4 years from the age of around 43 to 47 ish. Then it dropped off a cliff about 18 months ago and hasn't been seen since.

I had ridiculous crushes on people. One was so bad that I could hardly sit still next to him and unfortunately we were desk partners in an amateur orchestra.... (constant fanny gallops basically and the bloke's gay so it was never going to go anywhere).

It was fun while it lasted and then it just stopped overnight.
Enjoy it but try not to get arrested or lose your job. It'll be over soon enough.

Jesus. I’m envious.

I’m 44, peri, and dreaming of which men I’d shoot in a face point blank if I had the opportunity. If Jason Momoa turned up at this point and offered me ANYTHING, I’d give him garden work.

Oh very similar here.

OMG she is just exaggerating/joking. Some people....

Oh I can't help smiling at the idea of having a massive crush on a gay guy!
I've got mixed feelings about this phase ending. I'm definitely going to enjoy it while it lasts. I'm hearing a lot of 3/4/5 years, so wonder if that's about average.

Haha, he'd be good at that, with all of that brawn!

Yes, when there’s a sex mismatch in your relationship is awful. Really soul destroying. Especially because having this massive surge feels all-consuming, and its beautiful and powerful. It’s an incredible source of energy.

Would you consider exploring options other than your partner?

So glad it’s not just me! I’m 56 and still in the peri stage. Divorced ten years ago, new partner didn’t have such a high libido as me but we had fun but since he died, I’ve felt zero desire until about A month ago when I started getting crushes on actors the same age as my son 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️and can’t stop thinking about sex!
just Treated myself to a vibrator to see if it sorts me out 😊😊 but a friend suggested paying an escort but I’d need to pay so much for someone to have sex with me that I can’t afford it 🤓

Thank you.

Sex with my bullet suits for now, I know what I like and what to do. Afterwards I don’t have to be polite, the bullet gets washed and put in the drawer. 🤣🤣

You need to pay no one. Just go on Tinder! Explore! Don’t let this precious feeling die. A ton of men are attracted to older women so why not indulge? 🙂