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AIBU?

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to not want ds to go to a party and jump on a trampoline without a net?

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rosybud · 23/05/2008 13:28

Ds (8) has been invited to his friend's party to swim in an (unfenced) pool and jump on a trampoline without a net.

I am not happy about this.

We don't have a trampoline so ds is not an experienced jumper, the other boys are bigger/heavier than him. Dh is very concerned as I am...but I know ds will feel i am being overly cautious and spoiling the fun!

Do I stand my ground and insist he is not to go on the trampoline or am i over-reacting?

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RubySlippers · 23/05/2008 13:29

let him go

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rosybud · 23/05/2008 13:30

I am letting him go to the party but don't know whether to say to the mum that I'm not happy about the trampoling bit.

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fluffyanimal · 23/05/2008 13:30

He's 8, not 3. I'd let him go.

Meeely2 · 23/05/2008 13:30

over reacting sorry - he's 8, he'll be fine

CombustibleLemon · 23/05/2008 13:30

Agree with RubySlippers, let him go.

fluffyanimal · 23/05/2008 13:31

On the trampoline and in the pool, that is.

FairyMum · 23/05/2008 13:32

I'd let him go if I knew and trusted the parents.

RubySlippers · 23/05/2008 13:32

don't say anything to the mum

Nbg · 23/05/2008 13:33

My dd has been invited to a party next week with a trampoline but the mum has what I thought, been very sensible and bought an enclosure for it.

Sorry but its very easy to fall off one of those things especially when there are loads of other children on it and they are quite high.

Nagapie · 23/05/2008 13:33

Rosy - in light of recent newspaper reports, I can understand your concern...

Can you not explain your concerns to him and let him choose what he wants to do? My mum always managed to phrase things in a way that made me not want to do them...

Twiglett · 23/05/2008 13:34

what are the rules for the trampoline usage? will it be supervised?

what about the pool? how many adults will be in the pool whilst the kids are in?

(isn't it too cold for an outdoor pool?)

I don't think you're being unreasonable ... if only 1 child was allowed on trampoline at a time that's fine .. I can imagine a group of kids roughing, tumbling and one falling off .. serious accidents can easily happen

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rosybud · 23/05/2008 13:35

I am not worried about the pool as he is an ok swimmer so that's not an issue.
I suppose I am being a bit precious aren't I?

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snice · 23/05/2008 13:36

Could you stay at the party or would that embarass him too much?

forevercleaning · 23/05/2008 13:38

maybe offer to help at the party, then you can keep an eye if you really are worried.

i'd just let mine go though

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rosybud · 23/05/2008 13:38

Don't know if any adults will be in the pool but supervising from the side, and yes it probably will be pretty cold so they won't be in for long!

They don't have rules for the trampoline and when i have been there before they don't watch the kids on it. That is why I feel a worried...

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littlelapin · 23/05/2008 13:38

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Twiglett · 23/05/2008 13:40

I think 8 year olds would probably be one of the worst ages to allow on a trampoline unsupervised and without rules ... I have to say that would totally freak me out and I wouldn't let DS do it

AbbeyA · 23/05/2008 13:41

I think you either let him go to the party and join in or you don't accept the invitation. It isn't very fair to let him go and make him watch the others. If you want him to go could you speak to the mum and ask her how she is supervising it, or volunteer to stay and supervise it for her? It would worry me if a lot of excited DCs were using it at the same time.

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rosybud · 23/05/2008 13:41

I won't be at the party as ds has been invited to go early and have a play before the others arrive.

The mum will think I'm neurotic won't she?

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ProfessorGrammaticus · 23/05/2008 13:43

I hate trampolines. Last year I tried to insist on a "2 children at a time" rule for my DSs but as the trampolines in question weren't mine it didn't really work. This year they have only been on once, we were nearby and I just gritted my teeth and felt anxious, but didn't say anything until one 11yo started doing somersaults.

Bloody things!

littlelapin · 23/05/2008 13:44

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LazyLinePainterJane · 23/05/2008 13:44

YANBU. Serious harm can be done on trampolines and I think one of the main issues is that people underestimate how much and just say "yeah let them on, they'll be fine"

Agree with Twig, 8 is probably the most dangerous age for this sort of thing. I would have a word with the host.

snice · 23/05/2008 13:45

If she doesn't think its necessary to have an enclosure for her own children then yes, she will think you are neurotic. However there is a big difference between the way one or two children behave on a trampoline than with a big group all egging each other on - I would be nervous in your position.

AbbeyA · 23/05/2008 13:45

I would still have a word even if she thinks that you are neurotic.

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rosybud · 23/05/2008 13:46

Twiglett, that is exactly what I think, a group of 8 year olds very hyped up and excited jumping around...

AbbeyA, I agree it is hard on ds to let him go but then he has to watch everyone else. I think i will speak to the mum.

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