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To ask Is nursing really horrific?

87 replies

scotchbonnetface · 17/06/2025 18:47

It’s a bit of a pipe dream, but I always felt I had a “calling” for nursing.

Im getting to the stage where if I don’t do it soon, I never will. But I’m scared.

Maybe I’ve read too many horror stories, but if there are any nurses or HCA that could give me your feelings on the job, I’d really appreciate it.

OP posts:
GiddyDog · 18/06/2025 17:13

Would never return to wards, a band 5 wage for the stress you're under is not worth it.
Also NHS management in my experience was horrific. Lazy incompetents fail upwards to get themselves away from having to actually care for patients, cliques reign supreme and if your face doesn't fit you'll know about it.

That said, I now work in primary care, which is variable as GP practices are independent entities but mine pays far better in line with my skill and experience than my previous NHS job and is a lovely place to work so I now find my job very rewarding.

I'm in Scotland and got a bursary when I trained, I would not take student loans to train as a nurse as it's unlikely you will ever earn enough to justify that amount of debt.

I would also caution against the rose tinted 'it's a vocation' angle.
In my opinion that hobbles us as a profession and is part of the reason our pay is so poor.... 'i wouldn't strike, it's not about the money', 'i don't mind staying late to finish x,y,z' and so on.

It's a job, one that can be great- both challenging and rewarding but still a job not a calling and I'm a professional not a martyr or an angel.

You need to go into it with your eyes open.

OrlandointheWilderness · 18/06/2025 17:44

I went back to education to become a nurse. I did two years of the degree before left. It gave me serious panic attacks and was definitely not for me.

Larose123 · 26/02/2026 17:55

Ive been a care assistant for 3 years and Im also considering becoming a nurse. I cant imagine doing anything else. Currently reading through threads so Im hoping they dont put me off!

NotanNHSnurseanymore · 26/02/2026 18:16

Hi OP

Some really good points raised here, I'll add a couple:

Uni is horrific. Most of my placements treated me as an HCA. I understand that in perhaps your first year, but not afterwards, after all, you're training to be a nurse and not an HCA. I got to my third year having never done a drug round - and I was persistent about requesting this. I remember crying in the sluice because I was so scared that I was going to qualify but be unskilled and incompetent. The sister found me and told me I was ridiculous and to go to X ward and help them out as their HCA had gone off sick. I complained to uni and I didn't even get acknowledged.

The press and SM love painting nurses as "too posh to wash". Comments like "Where is Matron, she ruled the ward with a rod of iron" yadda yadda unoriginal rubbish.

Matron didn't live in a world with a vastly expanded population, an older, a sicker population. She didn't deal with highly complex technology, with a post Covid era; back then patients who were well enough pottered around filling up flower vases etc. Can you imagine keeping someone in that long today?

I've found a very niche and non clinical role that works brilliantly for me, whilst allowing me to keep my registration. And I'm paid well. I love my job and couldn't do it without my background.

Would I choose nursing again? Yes and no. Yes if I could guarantee my current job at the end of it. Otherwise, absolutely not.

One thing that slightly bothered me about your post is that your said you felt you had "a calling ". What does that mean? It sounded a little starry eyed, so please do unpack it now, I'm interested!

As PP said, another reason not to do it is the fact you will acrue more debt than you'll earn. I'm old school and we were lucky enough to get a (totally inadequate) bursary. Not so the case now.

And don't even think about applying without working as an HCA first!

notatinydancer · 26/02/2026 18:30

I’ve been a nurse over 20 years. It very much depends what area you’re thinking of.
In your training you’d have placements in different areas.
The money is rubbish, but you can climb the ladder. NHS pension is good.

countingthedays945 · 27/02/2026 11:47

@NotanNHSnurseanymorehow did you manage that when there’s a practical medicines management assessment connected with every placement throughout the three years?

NotanNHSnurseanymore · 27/02/2026 13:50

That certainly wasn't part of our syllabus because you are quite right, I would not have passed it in the first 2.5 years. I did train a long time ago though.

MildlyAnnoyed · 27/02/2026 14:00

No! I qualified in 2001 then retrained as a hairdresser in 2013 but went back in 2014 because I missed being a nurse. I can’t imagine doing anything else. A different role, yes but within the nursing field.

countingthedays945 · 27/02/2026 22:57

Well I don’t think it’s fair to say uni is horrific then when it was so long ago!

NotanNHSnurseanymore · 28/02/2026 07:56

No, I stick by that. My memory is intact.

I do hope it's better for student nurses nowadays.

Lex345 · 28/02/2026 08:06

Nursing is one of those jobs that in my experience is either the best, most rewarding and satisying role in the world-or the complete opposite-and when the shit hits the fan, the support is woeful.

I left nursing because when the shit hit the fan-pandemic, managing an independent nursing home-it nearly broke me as a person. But of course, those were very extreme circumstances. I also have some increible memories and real wins during my career and if I could go back and relive those, I would.

I would say go in with open eyes, recognise your limits for your own wellbeing, and crucially learn how to say no-24 hour shifts because the night nurse did not show up for example.

I loved uni, although the schedule can be brutal when juggling assignments, placement and eventually your dissertation. I would second getting some relevant experience before diving in-it is not always what people expect and is a lot more mentally amd physically draining than people realise.

And I say this next part as someone who worked in the profession whilst moving and handling regulations were still being developed-protect your back at all costs-trust me, you will thank me for that later. I can still feel the twinges of poor practices in mine.

Cakewalk7 · 28/02/2026 08:07

I also felt that calling and retrained as a nurse. I think it is an absolutely brilliant job…..away from the wards! So hard to give good care when you are so short staffed. I left to do a few years in intensive care and now I work in research. I absolutely love my current job. Lots of patient contact and I can go above and beyond for them. Still nhs and work for a fab team. Exciting being part of new treatments coming through and such a good feeling when we have patients who were told there were no more options and then our treatment u turns that. Would highly highly recommend.

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