AIBU to think this is too much cricket time?? Or am I too demanding?

[justatadannoyed]

My DH is a lovely man but the amount of time he spends playing cricket is driving me insane. It's at least one if not two evenings training a week, then the full Sunday playing each week, sometimes all across the county, so he is out at 12 and back at like 10pm. We have a young DC and I'd prefer it to be family time. But what really angers me is that there are so many things that need doing in the house- garden waste to be ferried away, things need fixing etc.- but unless I do them he won't because it's simply not his priority/ I think he finds it a bit tedious or trivial. Same if anything needs fixing, it's always me phoning the workmen etc. I got upset last night as he came back from cricket at like 9pm and had already agreed to play again next weekend, when it's supposed to be sunny and wonderful and I thought we could have a family day out... he is so quick with organising the cricket stuff but I organise everything else- AIBU to be upset about this or am I being the one asking too much? Please do let me know as I genuinely don't know if it's me being unreasonabl!

I think it’s his lack of effort/taking on household duties that’s the issue. I think he needs to step up and do those if he wants to play cricket.

We have one DC and I think having a balance of hobbies for oneself are really important but not at the expense of the partner. DH and I do different things- he does football once a week and sometimes tennis. I’ve just started a Pilates class on a Sunday so DH is now on the hook for getting DC to junior park run.

Some stuff I do is seasonal or comes in fits and starts (Am Dram type stuff).

Has he just taken this up since you had children?

Being out all day for cricket sounds typical, plus an evening a week, from the people I know who play.

What does he do in the winter?

If cricket is his chosen sport, then yes, it's a long game, and team sports rely on all their players. DD plays in three teams, only one has more than 11 players signed up, but only one if them plays an indoor winter league.

Cricket is an excellent family pastime too. Both dc started playing at 5. I don’t play (well, I very occasionally make up numbers), but I make a mean bacon sandwich, cups of tea, I’m a first aider and I do a bit of grounds maintenance.