Driveway wars - awkward petty neighbour

[Tarytino]

We live on a shared drive way (shared with 3 houses). We’re in the middle. Yesterday we had a friend over and I told him to park just outside of our house (on the shared driveway) as house 3 was out. An hour or so later house 3 arrives home - instead of simply asking him to move the car they sat there honking on the horn. It’s a short driveway, they could have parked at the end and walked down to their house (plenty of parking on street at end of driveway) but no. Friend went out and moved his car - no thanks, no acknowledgment. Once they had got passed friend moved his car back where it was.

10 mins later - horn honking outside. House 3 had decided to go out again. Friend goes out to move car. 20 minutes later more honking outside. I went out and approached neighbour asking why she is honking her horn rather than using her words. She said “I need to get to my house and there is a car in the way” 🙄 I said “yes, but you don’t need to honk the horn, just knock”. She said “can’t be arsed getting in and out of car”. I left her to it and friend moved car. Needless to say, 20 mins later, more honking outside.

now it was very obvious that neighbour was deliberately going in and out of driveway to make some kind of point. So we played her game and this went on for about 2 hours before she eventually got bored.

Today, we are having gravel delivered and they will be parking on the shared driveway. Normally I’d warn neighbour to let her know to get her car out of driveway so she doesn’t get stuck but because of yesterdays performance - I’m not going to bother. This isn’t the first time we have had issues with this neighbour btw. AIBU to let her get her car stuck? Chances are she won’t be going out anyway but no doubt as soon as she sees someone parked there she’ll suddenly develop an urgent need to go out 🙄

Why on earth should your neighbour have to be denied access to her driveway to park just because you have a visitor, and why should she keep getting out of her car and ask you to move?
You should have asked your visitor park down the road and walk down … you are VERY unreasonable and wondering if this is actually a reverse??

If it's real I think OP takes the crown for 2025 Knob of the Year - and it's not even midsummer yet!

Tesco delivery likely there all of 10 minutes … not multiple hours worth of visiting time. You sound rather jealous that she has a bigger driveway that you, unfortunately that doesn’t mean you get to block her in. If you want a bigger driveway move to a different house.

Well, as I think someone pointed out upthread, only someone who is as much as an arse as you would be your friend...

If there’s stacks of space in the road then your friend should have parked there! I wouldn’t park blocking someone else’s access, that’s ignorant. Oh and 8am on a Sunday is early to be outside washing a car, if it’s noisy (pressure washer?!)

8 am on a sunday IS early!! I would be cross too. Tbh you sound a nightmare neighbour

Not that it's the main point, but I suppose it depends what cleaning the car entails. Wiping over inside and sponge and hot water on the outside is fine; pressure washer and/or hoover much less so.

nah water makes a noise too. its unreasonable before 9

Are you new here, hun?

The fact that you've come here as if you're going to get some sort of validation is honestly hilarious!

Your visitors should never block her drive and she shouldn't be expected to start knocking on doors to find out whose car it is.

YABU and the little games and plans are honestly pathetic.

she bought the house with the bigger drive, you don’t have the right to use it. Deliveries from the supermarket are not the same as your friend parking and blocking her access. YTA.

You're having us all on... or you're just a cheeky fucker!

I already knew that OP was a wrong'un when they refused to provide a diagram. The remaining posts just confirm it

And what, exactly, is your dog doing on it's own near moving vehicles? Speaking as a dog owner, I cannot believe that any sane, responsible person would consider that to be acceptable.

The sad thing is, even if the OP is just winding people up here, it could be genuine - how many people have to deal with CF neighbours from hell. And their reasoning is exactly that the OP is describing anyway.

So true or not here, it's still far too common in real life.

You can tell the car cunts in these posts. No sense of human decency when property, cars or driveways are concerned.

Get a grip all.

It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

@Tarytino you sound like a nightmare to live next to.

Car cunts?

That’s a new one!

The law dictates that one cannot park on a shared driveway, it’s really quite simple, and is clearly indicated in TP1 documents - so no argument is possible.

The thing is though, there are lots of thick, ignorant people amongst us, hence the 14 pages.

Sorry, but yes, you are in the wrong on this one. You said yourself, that "there's plenty of parking at the end of the street" so why doesn't your friend park there? Or if they need to be close, put your car there and let them have your spot. Don't go inconveniencing your neighbour just to play silly buggers and then expect to get the sympathy.
If you know your getting a delivery that might block them in and fail to let them know, you are just being and even bigger d1ck than with the parking. What if they had an emergency and your pettiness caused something awful?

OP you sound a nightmare neighbour.

the car blocking her drive is beyond rude, why can’t friend park on the road. And as for your friend repeatedly putting it back and the pair of you finding it hilarious, I’m staggered at the brass neck. I’d have been embarrassed by being asked to move it once, I’m cringing for you.

i assume your plant was in their way /on shared land if the dh was moving it…or was he moving it when it was in your garden?

if they nearly ran your dog over do you often let it run loose? A one off escape is fair enough but a regular thing…..well look after your dog better, you can’t blame them for nearly running it over.

8am Sunday car washing is unsocial , sounds like your party was too.

The gravel is borderline, but maybe acceptable with communication if there’s a reason it can’t go on your drive?

Overall I feel sorry for your neighbour.

You are the problem. Cleaning the car at 8am at the weekend is ridiculous. My neighbour works late into the night so I do nothing in the garden until I see him or it’s past 2.30pm because I am not a dick!

I would go absolutely mad if someone used my allocated space, it's just a no no and tbh common decency.

Way out of line taking her space!

You’re in the wrong here, your poor neighbour. I get entitled people doing this kind of thing where I live, it drives me mad. It’s inconsiderate. Do the right thing and apologise to your neighbour.

OP sounds like a horrible neighbour!

Washing a car at 8AM on a Sunday should be punishable by hanging.

You are completely in the wrong! You said there was parking on the street so why didn’t your visitor park in the street instead of using the neighbour’s driveway? And I would have honked my horn rather than get out of the car, especially when your visitor parked on the neighbour’s part of the driveway again after the visitor was asked to move the first time! I feel sorry for your neighbour! You were completely in the wrong and disrespectful!