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Men pissing on toilet seat, why?

83 replies

BrickHare · 15/06/2025 23:16

Just why? Why can’t they wipe it up? We have a communal toilet at work which everyone uses, however piss is always on the seat after a male has been. I know this because there’s only one toilet in the staffroom and everyone can see who uses it. This never happens after a woman has used the loo. It’s disgusting that other people are having to clean it up. Suggestions at what to do?

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OnTheBoardwalk · 22/09/2025 22:30

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 22/09/2025 22:18

He'd not have lasted passed day 1!

Agree my nephew at a youngest age not had the greatest upbringing but left wee and left marks on my toilet

in the nicest way I took him upstairs said do you really expect me to clean this. He was horrified and cleaned it up never to do it again

Throwaway65131 · 23/09/2025 03:42

SquaredShoulders · 16/06/2025 13:25

Whenever this crops up on (maybe more international) forums, there are often professional toilet cleaners/attendants who claim that women’s toilets are often worse. A bit pissy in the Men’s but sometimes an absolute war zone in the Women’s, and not just confined to piss on seats from the hoverers.

Oh, and the ‘why don’t they dab with toilet paper’ thing? That’s not how cocks work in this regard. Men shake them for an anatomical reason. Apparently there is a method involving pressing along the … er .. taint into yer bollocks, but it sounds like a faff.

But who are these blokes who piss through the toilet seat rather than lifting it?

Re. This bit … “Oh, and the ‘why don’t they dab with toilet paper’ thing? That’s not how cocks work in this regard. Men shake them for an anatomical reason. Apparently there is a method involving pressing along the … er .. taint into yer bollocks, but it sounds like a faff“

…..but shaking it literally flicks pee everywhere. I know this because DP has a habit of merrily wandering into the bathroom for a pee whilst I’m getting ready, and I usually avert my eyes, but as I’d just cleaned the toilet and floor around it for approximately the third time that day, I recently watched as he was finishing his peeing - out of curiosity to see how he manages to get pee in so many places (don’t want me to look don’t invade my 5 mins in the bathroom!) - whilst his peeing aim was accurate (and the seat/lid were both up) as he shook “it”, pee flicked onto the back of the toilet where the seat is attached, and then onto the front rim of the toilet (which is how I’m guessing I find it running down the outside of the bowl on occasion). He obviously caught my raised eyebrow (he knew I’d just been cleaning the bathroom and I have politely requested before that pee is not left on the floor etc) and adjusted some of his behaviour - because usually he also drips on the floor. Whether that’s careless aim, standing too far back at the end of the flow, or yet more shaking, I don’t know, but if that was adjustable, the rest of it should be too!

I haven’t a clue about the full inner workings of a penis and its urination system, but I do know that shaking something with wet on the end of it will flick wet in uncontrollable directions. Perhaps it could be shaken into a couple of sheets of toilet paper, to catch said splashes if they must be shaken out, or whatever it is they do with it.

Either way, dripping/ splashing/ shaking pee onto things is unsanitary and uncivilised, regardless of who does it, male or female - although male urine usually has a stronger smell to it, which means it hanging around longer than it should provides an undesired unpleasant aroma to the room!
I don’t want to stand in or sit in or otherwise touch someone’s pee, and I also don’t want to sit or stand or otherwise touch where someone’s pee has previously been, potentially leaving bacteria (regardless of whether it’s allegedly harmless).

Yes, step one would be the pee splashers/drippers taking responsibility for their own mess and wiping up after themselves, but them not getting pee in any place other than in the toilet bowl at all (and thus not merely smearing it around with toilet paper) would be preferable!

Throwaway65131 · 23/09/2025 03:45

OnTheBoardwalk · 22/09/2025 22:30

Agree my nephew at a youngest age not had the greatest upbringing but left wee and left marks on my toilet

in the nicest way I took him upstairs said do you really expect me to clean this. He was horrified and cleaned it up never to do it again

If I tried this with DP he would literally use 1/4 of a toilet roll to dry - not clean - it up! Leaving bits of wet loo roll behind in the process too!

Beekman · 23/09/2025 04:08

Needmorelego · 16/06/2025 10:58

As a regular user of public toilets I can tell you that is not just a man thing.
There are clearly women out there who are just as messy, gross and completely disgusting.

I was thinking this the whole thread. I use public toilets often and they are usually left in a right state, piss all over the seat for starters.

Incomprehensible to me that people don’t clean up after themselves in a public toilet, especially women who know the next person has to sit down. Even when there is a large queue, people don’t bother. I always shout “clean up after yourself” if one person exits and I enter to see a messy toilet. I honesty don’t know what they do in there, I suspect hovering over the seat might be a big part of it but they could still clean up.

At work I find people are a bit more considerate but not always.

Not to mention sitting on their phones in there but that’s for another day.

Beekman · 23/09/2025 04:17

Also, cleaning up a bit of wee from your husband or kid from time to time is a lot different to having to wipe up after someone you don’t live with.

barleyblues · 23/09/2025 04:18

Dbank · 16/06/2025 11:42

Because they don't care about it, and are rarely challenged.

It's horrible and lazy, I would put a notice up saying "Those with willies, please ALWAYS, lift seat before pissing...no one wants to sit in your wee."

Put up a sign "If you sprinkle
when you tinkle
be a sweetie and
wipe the seaty" 🙂

PollyBell · 23/09/2025 04:50

I dont remember my husband ever doing this nor any man is am close too enough to use their toilets or them ours but I see it is a lot in female public toilets but on here we're told they are not revolting, they are gross in my experience

Walkden · 23/09/2025 05:23

"Some men think sitting down is an affront to their masculinity. Those men are morons."

This is such misandrist crap. I've been in airplane toilets where the woman before has clearly hovered and got urine all over the seat. Perhaps they thinks it's an affront to their femininity to sit down?

Usually I clean it up because I wouldn't want the person after me to think I did it and left it like that.

It's not surprising though that if someone doesn't want to clean up someone else's mess they would just stand / hover instead.

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