Family holiday

[Roxy75]

Feeling like a 3rd wheel on a family holiday. On holiday with my partner and 3 of his family members. I paid for one of them to come with us. He’s been cold with me and I’m feeling like I can’t do a thing right. Lonely as hell but not much longer to go. He told me yesterday he doesn’t give a shit how I’m feeling but later apologised. Feeling like what the hell. I’m a total doormat!

Are you planning on dumping him when you get back OP?

Update…got home early hours of this morning. Feel sad inside. We are still together but I think he’ll bin me off shortly for spoiling his family holiday. I tried so hard to smile and stay upbeat whilst I was literally dying inside. I love him so much but think it’s one way traffic.

You didn't spoil his family holiday Op, they were all happy to chat to you, it's just him being unreasonable. Sadly he's another DF whose happy to see you when it's just you but when his DC/ DGC there he wants you to just fade into the background. Don't let him suck you back in now you're home

Have you spent time with him and his adult children together much before? Feels like maybe he’s fine with just you and him together, but he doesn’t manage to fit you into his existing life with his children - feeling awkward about being comfortable with a partner in front of them? Like he can’t join up the two parts of his life. He still thinks he should prioritise his children above all else, but here it’s to the point of being weird with you and making things hard for everyone. If this is to work he really needs to recognise what’s going on in his mind and sort it out.

What are you going to do if he doesn’t ’bin you off’? Are you planning on talking about it? Do you really ‘love him so much’ after how he treated you?

We are still together

What? You haven’t dumped him?

How can you continue to love someone who treats you with such disrespect and ruins your holiday? Come on OP, wake up, this is NOT the man for you!

Why they hell are you not binning him off? He has treated you like crap and you are going to hang about until he dumps you. You need to get some self respect and kick his arse to the curb.

You deserve so much better than this.

He’s popping round this morning. I was back in work yesterday and in the morning his messages were minimal and by the evening he was more how I know him. He’s popping round in about half an hour. Am I on a one way ticket to dumpsville, population me?? I’ll let you know….

Dump him first

Seconded, you dump him.

Remember how you felt on that holiday. Remember the things he said and did. He's shown you how little he thinks of you.

He dropped you on holiday, don't let him think he can just pick you up again now and carry on like it never happened.

Why haven’t you dumped him already? Where’s your self esteem?

This in spades.

You should be texting him to say there's not much point in him coming round this morning as you can't see any future in this relationship

Incidentally I am still slightly confused who was on this holiday. Was it the partner of his adult child and their child, i.e. his grandchild, and also your DPs youngest child? If so, is there any reason why his adult child didn't come away with their partner and child?

I think you should be dumping him

Why why why are you waiting for him to dump you? And what will you do if he doesn't? Just let him carry on treating you like crap, taking your money and wrecking your holidays?

Tell him not to bother coming round. The relationship isn't working and you don't wish to continue it, then block. You don't need to explain anything else. He knows exactly how badly he's behaved towards you.

Better luck with the next one. You're a good person, value yourself more highly!

I'd text him back and say it's not working out , then i'd probably block him. If he treats you like this in front of his family members it doesn't bode well for a future relationship. He'll try to win you back but it'll be the same everytime . There's someone better out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve

Having been treated the way you were, why aren’t you the one reconsidering your relationship rather than waiting for him to dump you?
If you stay together, you need a bloody good explanation for why he was so foul to you on YOUR holiday!

How did it go? I’m with the other posters, hope you ended it, he sounds terribly selfish xx

Update, we are still together. Not even sure how he feels about me. He puts Love you on his good night messages but don’t think his actions match up.

Don't settle for being treated like this.

End the relationship - you can do better.

Raise your bar op. He has let you feel shit about yourself for weeks.

Aren't you worth more?

So......is that it?? You didn't dump him after the way he treated you?

OP why are you letting him treat you like a doormat. Being alone is better than this, I promise you! Pleasing yourself, no walking on eggshells, having some bloody self worth and dignity! Honestly get rid.
Do you have family?