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to feel so sad and disillusioned with the world?

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DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:19

...I'm watching the news. It's all crazy. Trump, the Ukraine, Israel... even Mumsnet is full of madness lately. I wish I could move somewhere where everyone can just live quietly and in peace without all the nonsense and psychopathic narcissists that rule the planet right now. But that would probably have to involve me literally moving to another planet. And even then, DH reminded me just now that I'd have to rely on the likes of Musk, or the USA or Russia to get me out of here and off to mars! So I can't escape this crazy world or the nasty people that run it, even if life on another planet was possible.

Anyone else just feel like the world's gone mad, they are completely helpless to do anything about it, and to want to just find a way to escape it?

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DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:23

Just me then!

I'll have a glass of wine and stop reading the news! 🍷

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StretchMarx · 15/06/2025 20:24

It's not just you. But stopping reading the news is probably the best way forward - there's nothing we can do about it!

DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:30

StretchMarx · 15/06/2025 20:24

It's not just you. But stopping reading the news is probably the best way forward - there's nothing we can do about it!

there's nothing we can do about it!

that's the bit I hate. I never used to feel this way! But the older I get, the more that lack of control and having to just deal with it, bothers me! I need to just let it go and accept my helplessness like some kind of rat or dog in a psychology experiment on learned helplessness. I think the problem is that human consciousness stops us just giving in and submitting as an animal might. We want to fight, make a difference, stand up for our beliefs and what's right. But at the end of the day, we can't. We just have to accept we are at the mercy of a handful of greedy, power hungry, psychopathic men in power. Sad 😢. I don't want to accept it, but I will probably be happier if I do.

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 15/06/2025 20:35

You're not alone OP. And I'm even finding it spilling out into my personal life with people behaving in bizarre and extreme ways with very tricky to navigate consequences.

Currently not sure if the end of the world is coming via nuclear options or collective nervous breakdown.

So my poison of choice is a Bailey's infused milk shake - chin chin.

Anyotherdude · 15/06/2025 20:37

I see where you’re coming from, OP.
However, while it’s horrible, it’s been like this before. The 1960’s (Vietnam, the Cold War), 1970’s (Lebanon, the Troubles, the Cold War) the 1980’s (the Troubles, the Cold War, the Falklands), the 1990’s and 2000’s with Bosnia, Afghanistan, and Rwanda etc.
We have been lucky to have had relative peace in the UK for probably the longest period in history, but I totally agree that the people currently “in charge” are up there with the nastiest, most incompetent bunch of people to become leaders in history, and in today’s age of Social Media-induced appalling behaviour from the general population, probably well-deserved!

DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:39

MistressoftheDarkSide · 15/06/2025 20:35

You're not alone OP. And I'm even finding it spilling out into my personal life with people behaving in bizarre and extreme ways with very tricky to navigate consequences.

Currently not sure if the end of the world is coming via nuclear options or collective nervous breakdown.

So my poison of choice is a Bailey's infused milk shake - chin chin.

Oh I'm totally with you on the baileys! Had some last night in a hot milky coffee and it definitely made the news a bit less stressful! 😉

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Icecreamhelps · 15/06/2025 20:40

@DisillusionedWithTheWorld I feel the same OP. Completely disillusioned.

Lonelycrab · 15/06/2025 20:40

Yup human beings are ultimately pretty shit as a species.

Fuelled on testosterone, greed, power and money with an alarming short supply of wisdom.

We will annihilate ourselves before long and then just like the mass extinction of the dinosaurs, will emerge in small numbers from the rubble and probably keep going in a slightly more enlightened form.

Time for a cup of camomile tea Smile

RaininSummer · 15/06/2025 20:42

Your not alone. Everytime I speak with my Mum whose in her eighties, I ask her to stop going on about all the scary shit in the news as we are utterly powerless so I would prefer not to discuss it and then worry about it.

DiscoBob · 15/06/2025 20:42

I can't watch the news but last night had a dream that there were bombs falling outside my house. And I was trapped in a building with a broken lift while skyscrapers fell before my eyes.

Sadly for some people that dream is a reality.

RIP and LIP all innocent victims of conflict. X

DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:43

Lonelycrab · 15/06/2025 20:40

Yup human beings are ultimately pretty shit as a species.

Fuelled on testosterone, greed, power and money with an alarming short supply of wisdom.

We will annihilate ourselves before long and then just like the mass extinction of the dinosaurs, will emerge in small numbers from the rubble and probably keep going in a slightly more enlightened form.

Time for a cup of camomile tea Smile

💛that's v depressing.

Is there anything that can be added to camomile tea to give it a bit of a kick? (Vodka? Nah!! ... whisky?...probably not!) Maybe that's not the point of camomile tea! Perhaps I should try it! Alcohol doesn't seem to be working today anyway!!

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DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:46

DiscoBob · 15/06/2025 20:42

I can't watch the news but last night had a dream that there were bombs falling outside my house. And I was trapped in a building with a broken lift while skyscrapers fell before my eyes.

Sadly for some people that dream is a reality.

RIP and LIP all innocent victims of conflict. X

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💛💛this is how I feel.

When I do decide to just try and ignore everything and switch off the news, I then feel really really guilty because so many people can't do this and have to endure so much. It then makes me feel selfish, like I should do something to help. But then I just think, but what? There's nothing I can do, and then I feel shit again! And then I feel bad for feeling shit when my life is great compared to many etc.. and it's endless overthinking (but I'm lucky I have the privilege to overthink this etc... god it's exhausting being me...but then...)!

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NooNakedJacuzziness · 15/06/2025 20:49

I’m watching Soccer Aid and some of the stories from UNICEF of kids living in war zones - there are no words, this world is so fucked up. Maybe donate as a small small way of trying to help?

MistressoftheDarkSide · 15/06/2025 20:50

DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:46

💛💛this is how I feel.

When I do decide to just try and ignore everything and switch off the news, I then feel really really guilty because so many people can't do this and have to endure so much. It then makes me feel selfish, like I should do something to help. But then I just think, but what? There's nothing I can do, and then I feel shit again! And then I feel bad for feeling shit when my life is great compared to many etc.. and it's endless overthinking (but I'm lucky I have the privilege to overthink this etc... god it's exhausting being me...but then...)!

Ah, this resonates so much - the impotence and guilt ridden paralysis. Just had two close bereavements, and for various complex reasons all the guilt is mixed up in a big mess. And I try to limit my intake of current events and bad news, but then I don't like nasty surprises.

DisillusionedWithTheWorld · 15/06/2025 20:50

MistressoftheDarkSide · 15/06/2025 20:50

Ah, this resonates so much - the impotence and guilt ridden paralysis. Just had two close bereavements, and for various complex reasons all the guilt is mixed up in a big mess. And I try to limit my intake of current events and bad news, but then I don't like nasty surprises.

💛💐💐

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NoraLuka · 15/06/2025 20:54

You’re not alone OP, almost every time I read the news I think WTF? I think the difference now is that some leaders (particularly one guy in the US!) don’t seem to be following any kind of rationale. Lots of people hated Margaret Thatcher but at least there was some logic behind her actions, and she could have put together a coherent argument for what she was doing.

There also seem to be so many random acts of violence, too. I used to worry about that a lot but then started following a guy on Facebook who goes through old archives from 1600 onwards and lots of horrible things happened then, too (there were also good things!) In a way it’s comforting to think that we’re not going through a particularly unique, awful time.

I think as I’m getting older I’m getting more and more tired with how the world works in general. Last week there was an article about how the current government ministers have an average of 1.2M€ in assets (not the UK government!) how on earth can they have any clue about normal peoples’ lives when they have so much wealth?

ssd · 15/06/2025 20:56

Im watching soccer aid too and the stories of kids in Sudan and Ukraine are heartbreaking. But whats more heartbreaking is the kids in Gaza are getting no help from this due to world politics.

Its crazy.

Messycoo · 15/06/2025 21:04

Yes the world has gone mad since the pandemic. However I do feel on the whole people are good and due to media news outlets, it give a skewed vision of life. Yes life is sh&T, but on the whole people are good.
I try not to get bogged down in the nation’s and politics ofherise I would totally lose my sh&T.

Waitingfordoggo · 15/06/2025 21:09

Yes. Humans are fundamentally greedy, lazy and selfish as a species and I do not have much hope for the continuation of our species. The pursuit of money and power has a lot to answer for. I came to this realisation a while ago, and I was devastated and highly anxious about it for some time.

Eventually I realised I have no control over any of it, and that living in a state of permanent anxiety is terrible for my health, so I thought about what I could do to reduce the fear, and these have become my strategies:

Keep in touch with the news but only once or twice a week, and a quick review of headlines, maybe read a few stories but avoid the temptation to go down rabbit holes or join in SM discussion of news stories.

Minimise my own capitalistic behaviours as much as possible (because so many of the world’s problems are caused by greed, overconsumption and inequality). Obviously it is impossible to opt out of capitalism entirely unless one goes completely off grid but I try to minimise it by only buying what I need- keeping my life as simple as possible in terms of belongings. Not coveting things. Not looking at pretty things on Instagram or in magazines (clothes etc) because none of that ‘stuff’ means anything or really makes people happy, and much of it involves unethical and unsustainable behaviour in producing and transporting goods around the world.

Spend as much time outside as possible. Be in nature and be in the moment- be thankful for whatever I can be thankful for in a given moment.

Exercise a lot. Lift weights. Do yoga. I can find headspace when I’m moving my body.

Watch ‘The Money Game Trilogy’ and ‘Dominoes’ by Ren (YouTube). Depressingly accurate about the human condition, but such extraordinary pieces of art that I can get lost in them and at least feel some relief in knowing that other people feel the same as I do.

Talk to people I meet when walking the dog, or at my local shops or bus stop. Not because I like small talk (I don’t), but because I recognise that these tiny little moments in day to day life are really enriching for communities, and the little idealist inside me hopes that one day, happy and productive communities will spread into bigger communities. Feeling connected in our local community is proven to be good for our mental health.

I work a few hours a week with the elderly which gives me an enormous sense of peace and contentment, and helps me get some perspective.

I spend a lot of time with my dog. spending time with an animal who loves you is wonderfully therapeutic (if you like animals).

I spend time with my lovely husband and kids. We are ok. I don’t know and can’t control who might declare war on whom next week or next year. But I felt contentment having dinner with my family this evening- being in that moment and appreciating how lucky we are.

These are all the things that keep me sane(ish).

Sorry for such a giant post.
Take care of yourselves all 💐

TheaBrandt1 · 15/06/2025 21:13

Reading history gives perspective. There has always been war. There just has. Something in us craves it. We actually live at an amazing time. Until about 1900 line was seriously tough and pretty awful unless you were extreme wealthy. I try and appreciate all the good.

TheaBrandt1 · 15/06/2025 21:15

Humans can also be incredibly brave and kind. A relative gave his life for other in WW2 as did many others. There are kindnesses everywhere day in day out.

deeahgwitch · 15/06/2025 21:16

Over a 100 years ago a famous ( and brilliant ) Irish playwright Seán O’ Casey had one of his characters in the play Juno and the Paycock say “……The whole world is in a terrible state o’ chassis”
And it is now too🥲

TheaBrandt1 · 15/06/2025 21:17

As you type on your phone in comfort in a safe house with hot and cold running water. It’s the best it’s ever been. Try living in 13th century.

zoemum2006 · 15/06/2025 21:21

I felt like this in 2016 because of Brexit and trump and spent 3 years obsessively keeping up to date on Twitter.

after they elected trump again I decided just to shrug my shoulders and ignore everything but my own life.

i feel a lot better for it.

Beetletweetle · 15/06/2025 21:21

It's rolling news I think. I sometimes think of how wonderful it would have been to have a newspaper delivered from London once a week with news on foreign affairs that was probably 6 months out of date.

I used to always like BBC but I've also found it so click-baity recently. The language is dumbed down, it's all hyped up. Also the 'and finally' stories all seem to have been dropped.