To think I have to call it a day

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Booboo7 · 15/06/2025 20:12

Been with DH 8 years, we both had children when we meet and have not had any together. I have 2 x DS (14&12) and he has 1 DD (16) and 1 DS (12). The issue is that when his DS is due to stay I can feel my mood becoming low and I am really struggling the whole time he is here. His DS ignores me when I talk to him 95% of the time and just glares at me, I have raised this with DH too many times to count over the last 3 years and don’t have the energy to keep doing it as it’s draining and nothing improves. When DSS is here I feel so on edge and uncomfortable in my own home.
i dearly love DH and he is a great husband to me but is it wrong to think that feeling like this is not healthy and it’s best to just walk awa

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SapphOhNo · 16/06/2025 11:13

Only you know whether its worth ending a marriage over.

mummytrex · 16/06/2025 11:41

saltinesandcoffeecups · 15/06/2025 21:02

Then stop arguing and accept that DSS is a sulky little twat. That’s fine he doesn’t have to like you and you don’t have to like him. Stop talking to him and treat him like a lamp.

You might find that by doing this, things ease up between the two of you.

Agree with this. Just don't engage aside from basics like dinner is on the table etc. if he then ignores or says oh but I don't like it, well tough.

TheOriginalEmu · 16/06/2025 11:47

Some of these posts are disgusting.
We only have OPs side of this story, maybe this kid has good reason to dislike her, or maybe he’s a CHILD with issues caused by his parents split and subsequent remarriage. Calling a child a twat and whatever else is uncalled for.

Frostynoman · 16/06/2025 11:55

Action = consequence. What does your husband do as a consequence for this behaviour?

Similarly, when you’re explaining this calmly to husband, out line how you’re feeling, that his inaction = divorce

Lmnop22 · 16/06/2025 11:55

Did you not meet the 12 year old before you got married?

Mouche85 · 16/06/2025 12:04

So the step son doesn't talk to you, your children and his sister.

Does he talk to his dad?

Maybe it's just his personality and nothing to do with you?

Ignore him, why do you keep trying?

Hankunamatata · 16/06/2025 12:09

So step son isn't nice to his sister either? Have you thought this is just the kids personality and nothing really to do with you as such

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Booboo7 · 16/06/2025 18:24

He is fine with his dad and will chat and make conversation with my 2 boys

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WitcheryDivine · 16/06/2025 19:09

Any idea what triggered it? What else was going on around that time?

I’m sorry you’re in this position as it must be really hard and dispiriting.

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