Yellow Gold or White Gold

[Snowtea]

I think yellow gold is pretty and is beautiful metal for a wedding ring

YANBU Yellow (or rose)
YABU White (or platinum)

@Snowtea Grey carpet and Isthismylifenow have a very good point. If yellow or rose look better on you then that IS what you choose. He doesn’t choose that for you.

I hope he isn’t like that in other areas.

My 18carat white gold wedding and engagement rings have only been dipped once in almost 50 years and that was when I got my eternity ring. I think they look fine.

Personally I don't think you should marry him. If he's dictating what sort of ring you should wear (whilst he doesn't even intend to wear one himself!) then he sounds bloody controlling. It's very unusual for a man to tell his future wife what sort of wedding ring she should choose. I've never heard of it before. You're the one that will be wearing it permanently whilst he isn't even going to bother.

Yellow gold for me but it does depend on your skin tone.

What colour you like is personal preference and you should have final say since you will be wearing it. I know several men who bought an engagement ring in advance and had to buy a new one because their fiancée didn't like it. If he's not listening to what you want this is a bit of a red flag.

Buy yourself a yellow gold band and ask him to get you a diamond eternity in white gold/platinum 🤣 that’s what I did. You can mix and match them. I also have brown hair and green eyes and I personally wear gold too. I love the look of a gold band with red nails for example.

I personally don't like the look of yellow gold so went with platinum for my wedding ring.
DH tried white gold but his skin is dark and it didn't look right. Yellow gold suits his skin so he got yellow.

I get that your DHTB has a preference for white gold, but it's you that will be wearing it and trying to pair it will jewellery that you already have. I actually think it's quite thoughtless of him to ignore a preference that you have stated more than once to him.

Rose gold is my favourite, but not for a wedding/engagement ring.

Platinum all the way for me.

I've got a 22ct yellow wedding ring and it's darker shade due to the richness of the gold. I'd still rather have platinum.

I think you need to have a proper chat and point out that it won't match the rest of your yellow gold jewellery, so he'll have to spend a fortune replacing it with white gold hopefully he'll come around to your thinking.🤞

It’s personal preference really. I have yellow gold because it suits me more so I mostly wear yellow gold jewellery. I also don’t like the fact that white gold tarnishes - so platinum is better

Depends on your skin tone. White gold, silver or platinum is best for cool tones, gold or rose gold for warm tones.

The one wearing it gets to pick. You are the one who has to look at it the most. I went for silver for mine as I like it far more than gold.

My engagement and wedding rings are platinum and are twenty plus years old and have never been repolished although I may do it eventually… I love them BUT as I’m getting older I find myself buying more yellow gold pieces. I often wear yellow gold on my right hand now.

Always yellow gold for me.

White gold is much more popular and has been for about 25 years I would say. Most jewellers are a sea of white gold rings.

Personally prefer yellow, it’s more classic and suits more skin tones imo.

Personally I like silver colour jewellery so my DH bought me a platinum wedding band.

YOU like yellow gold and wear mainly yellow gold jewellery - so tell him as such.

Yellow gold is your preference and will go with your other jewellery - it’s going on your finger not his - so surely you get the colour you like!!!

I can't see the point of white gold. It doesn't even look like gold.

What is your engagement ring made of? It will look odd if it's different

Liquid gold tbh. Although would probably give me a headache nowadays.

I used to wear silver and platinum but now much prefer yellow gold and I think it suits me more. I guess I started wearing silver when I was a teen and thought it was more fashionable then gradually shifted.

I wouldn’t be marrying someone who would buy me a ring I had specifically said I did not want. Maybe that sounds dramatic but to me it represents that he doesn’t care what I think.

My white gold wedding ring has been dipped once, when I had to have it resized after 25 years. DH bought me a white gold trilogy ring for our silver anniversary (We didn't bother with an engagement ring when we decided to marry) and that, and my wedding ring still looks fantastic. Been married almost 45 years now.
I chose white gold because it suits my skin tone better and because I always wear either silver or white gold earrings - I can't wear yellow gold in my ears as it makes them swell painfully. You should have what makes you happy - if your husband to be wants white gold so badly, he can wear a ring himself.

I was wondering about this need for maintenance! Had mine around 25 years and still look fine.

People must do very different things with their hands. I have platinum jewellery that I’ve never had to re polish

So he gets to choose to not wear a ring and he also wants to choose what YOU wear? 🤨 I notice you are the one concerned about upsetting him. He seems quite happy to insist regardless of what makes you happy

I would advise wearing what suits you and complements your skin , and goes with other jewellery you may have.

As a jeweller I've noticed yellow gold is becoming more popular after 10+ years of platinum being the most popular. Gold prices are really high at the moment and I would advise against white gold if you want a white metal....but im not sure you do? Platinum is cheaper, a purer (less allergenic ) metal , more hard-wearing and doesn't need rhodium plating.

Hmm..... he thinks he gets to decide everything doesn't he? You get what YOU like OP. Personally I like rose gold best. Though I wear a lot of silver too.