Parents copied holiday home

[FedUpSue]

New to mumsnet. A few years ago we brought a holiday caravan by the coast. Shortly after my parents copied and brought just around the corner. My husband strongly dislikes my parents and now he no longer wants to go to our holiday home. I’ve asked my parents to not come over all the time but they really don’t get the message. They will just pop in to say hi because they were passing or come around to use the shower (their caravan is mobile but on a permanent pitch). Im so depressed about the whole situation. AIBU if i told them our holiday place is now ruined and they should have gave us that place to ourselves and not followed?

Just put some boundaries down, no to using the shower they need to use the on site ones, tell them you have plans every day but will message them when you’re free to catch up

why doesn’t your dh get on with your parents? That seems relevant.

Sell or trade yours for another place.

Just move. You didnt do anything wrong—your parents are intrusive people so regardless of what you said they would have followed you anyway. But now they have poisoned the place. So just move.

Why doesn’t you husband like them at all?

Why doesn't your husband like them? Do you like them?

I honestly couldn't be with someone who hated my family.

They’re not necessarily doing anything wrong. They think you’re family and are just being familiar in that way. Your problem is with your DH - why doesn’t he like them?

This would drive me mad!

As we go into summer set some boundaries or proactively say when you would be up for a catch up - eg brunch on Saturday morning is good before we go doing our own thing. And/or just don’t tell them what days you’ll be onsite. On the other hand can you recognise a benefit that they can look after your DC?

Was there an incident which led to your DH not liking DP? If so, can the air be cleared?

As theyre your parents I think it’s up to you to deliver the message and enforce it.

Brought bought. Sorry.

The family sound like a PITA to be fair

Why does your dh not like the people who produced the woman he loves

Do YOU like your parents?

it doesn’t work like that 😂

Sell it then. If you're not using it.

I wish I had your problem. Why does your husband strongly dislike your parents?

I mean it’s clear to see why they don’t get along without any back story they don’t respect boundaries clearly.

They shouldn’t be coming knocking to use your shower everytime they want one. What madness is that to site a caravan without a shower and not want to use the provided facilities but rely on other people’s all the times. Bonkers.

They know your dh isn’t keen so they got a caravan on purpose there to shit on him. Piss on his relaxing space. Because now they have ruined it for him and he doesn’t want to visit because they won’t stop visiting when your trying to relax on holiday.

Definitely tell them how they have ruined the experience because they don’t listen or respect your boundaries.

I know - but a little more tolerance doesnt hurt!

I mean they could be tolerant and respect that their holiday caravan is their sanctuary and not knock on the door everytime they walk by or want a wash.

They'd lose a huge amount, & why should they when it's the parents that are the problem ?

Perhaps because they are nasty & inconsiderate ?

😂 what a strange comment.

I might try that on the dozens of MiL threads from women on here.

God if my husband liked my mother I would divorce him.

how come your parents don’t get the memo that your DH doesn’t like them? Do they just ignore that or is it a one way thing?

You say your DH strongly dislikes your parents. You don’t say how you feel about them.

I should think he finds them intrusive!

Have you considered whether it's financially viable to simply sell up and buy somewhere else?

Or, in the alternative, can you work out which weeks they'll be at their caravan and go at different times?

If neither is a possibility, you're probably going to have to be more direct.

Sadly static caravans are much like cars in fact worse as there is no legal legislation.

You buy it for 80k from site brand new, a year later you want to sell you’ll be lucky if they offer you anywhere near even half. But it will go back up for sale for 40-60k again.

If they allow you to sell privately and not all do, then you get an “admin change of name fee” often between 2k-6k so go Joe Shoe removed. Bottle Blue new owner. Also some sites like to vet possible new owners and will then poach your buyer offering them more favourable site fee’s and such for buying directly.

We sold one back to site a very old one when we out grew it. £500 they gave us. £10,995 it was up for sale at one week later still in the exact same condition.