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To think 70% of people shouldn’t be in A&E

537 replies

PrettyPleaseXo · 13/06/2025 07:47

Recently I was admitted in excruciating pain to A&E due to kidney stones. Over the time I was there it got progressively busier as expected and there was corridor care (I was stuck in a corridor without pain relief and crying in pain for two hours) and ambulances backed up out the door.

When I was discharged and went back out through the A&E reception/wait room I couldn’t help but notice
that 80% of the people sat there looked perfectly fine, chatting etc and didn’t appear to be in either an accident or emergency.

AIBU to think that unless you’re seriously unwell, in acute pain or have an injury that needs immediately addressing you should be turned away from A&E and told to go
to the GP instead?

OP posts:
TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:06

Carrfull · 13/06/2025 18:29

I was sent to a&e by an 'associate physician' with a letter for something rare and obscure he decided I likely had after unexplained pain in my face and made an appt at my health centre.

Never heard of it and was terrified I was about to die.

Presented myself with my letter for the doctor to gently say he had seen this three times in his career and never in anyone without vision issues or under the age of 80.

Poor medics, damned if they are careful damned if they dismiss things and people die. You could have been the 4th.

funinthesun19 · 14/06/2025 10:13

Some people probably look fine on the outside but are not actually fine.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:22

WeaselsRising · 13/06/2025 21:34

Where we used to live we didn't have any minor injuries units so it was GP or A&E. GP had the "call at 8.30" system. Several times I had to haul a sick baby to A&E because it was after 8.30am and there were no appointments. One time I got told off by the hospital doctor and when I told him I'd been turned away by the GP he said he would have words because it was her job! I got wise to it after a while and just walked into the surgery with a screaming baby. They didn't find it so easy to fob me off then.

It is so much easier where we live now because you can just go to a minor injuries unit and be seen quickly. Nobody sits for hours in A&E for fun.

Back in the days when doctors covered their own out of hours on a rota (so my local surgery had six doctors and they'd each do a couple of days on a rota) my one year old had a bad cold, as the day went on it got worse and I phoned and receptionist told me there were no appointments. I pushed so she spoke to a doctor and came back and said no one would see me. I said fine can you just let the on call doctor know it will be an emergency before midnight so I will be calling him out. I was told to bring baby down.

So I got the frozen treatment from receptionist and left sitting for ages. Got called in to the doctor who was very frosty. He listened to her chest, looked at me and apologised and said I was right. Sometimes mother does know best.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:26

Badbadbunny · 14/06/2025 08:06

Nail on the head. The entire NHS needs reform starting with GP surgeries which aren’t fit for purpose anymore.

Mine is great, I'm sure others are.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:29

Feelingleftoutagain · 13/06/2025 22:35

That's a hard one to answer, when I had a gallbladder flare up, I was waiting to be seen, when a girl came in and was seen quickly in a side room, she came out sat near me and explained she had period pains and didn't have paracetamol at home, I did ask why not pop to the shop and get some and she said why? They have it here. Another time I had a flare up this was about 6 months later, I was waiting to be seen when I saw a family sat around a table eating KFC, one of them thought he gallstones too and was waiting to be seen. But ( I know am a people watcher) on my second visit there was a lovely old man who clearly wasn't well but didn't like to bother anyone but was told to go to A and E by 111 as he had fallen and was in pain. Over both visits there were people coming in after being told by 111 to go to A and E, who were saying to reception am not sure if I should be here for this problem. So swings and roundabouts I guess

My local a&e won't give you paracetamol, I was there with GS after a sports injury, x-ray was clear so they said elevate and take paracetamol. I was advised to go to the 24 hr Asda in a neighbouring town when I said I didn't think I had any.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:31

TiredAH · 13/06/2025 23:19

While waiting 5h for a suspected second episode of sepsis (confirmed after the wait), I overheard multiple conversations from other patients around.
While I’m not one to judge as I’m one of the minions of the NHS, I overheard things that surely made my blood boil a bit more🙃
Favo one was the “can’t be bother trying for an appointment tomorrow as they never have any (I imagine they were referring to primary care) and I need off work this weekend and Monday”

For three days off work they could just self certify. Even for a week.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 14/06/2025 10:36

I’m sure plenty of people shouldn’t be in A and E (or need it be) but I don’t think k other punters waiting are the best people to judge that, for obvious reasons.

Carrfull · 14/06/2025 10:45

TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:06

Poor medics, damned if they are careful damned if they dismiss things and people die. You could have been the 4th.

Well firstly, an associate isn't a medic. They're not fully qualified in the same way and unlikely experienced.

And to clarify, he made me feel I was in massive danger and must attend a and e or die, which was not going to be the case according to someone whose time I ultimately wasted. If a doctor had seen me in the GP surgery, I probably wouldn't have ended up in that queue, taking away from things that needed dealing with there and then.

And maybe I could have been the fourth, but youve ignored the details about the associate not realising it wouldn't be the case without other symptoms I didn't have, and extremely unlikely without other significant risk factors that did not apply.

pinkingshears · 14/06/2025 11:01

I've been in A&E 6 times over the last 12m.

1-3 with my son, who wouldn't have 'looked unwell' especially. We walked in.
He was 19 & in acute Heart Failure from PeriMyocarditis. 5 days in High Needs.
Ongoing issues (had to go back into A&E via ambulance twice)

2nd with my Dd, who wouldn't have 'looked unwell'. She is Autistic & would have been hiding her suspected broken hand under her jacket. Needed X-Rays.

Last time I was sent direct (no ambulance availabe) by GP, suspected Cauda Equina (needed emergency MRI which GP couldn't do)

It's not always obvious to an outsider (or even a HCP) what is / isn't 'going on'.

pinkingshears · 14/06/2025 11:04

sorry - FIVE TIMES - (it just feels like 6!)

Kirbert2 · 14/06/2025 11:24

TheignT · 14/06/2025 10:06

Poor medics, damned if they are careful damned if they dismiss things and people die. You could have been the 4th.

I agree.

My son had an intussusception which is when part of the bowel telescopes in on itself which can cause a bowel obstruction as it did with him. This is usually found in babies and toddlers aged between 3-18 months.

My son was 8 years old at the time. They didn't check for it because it is incredibly rare in older children, I wish they had. By the time they had finally accepted it wasn't appendicitis or gastroenteritis, he was going into septic shock and ended up having a cardiac arrest due to multi organ failure. The surgeon was adamant he wasn't a surgical case, he was very wrong.

If they had checked just a few hours later, he likely would've never had a cardiac arrest. Thankfully, he survived but he is now disabled due to their delay because 8 year olds 'never' have intussusception.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 14/06/2025 11:30

TheOriginalEmu · 14/06/2025 04:58

when you say severely underweight do you mean like an ED crisis? because I can’t think of any other reason why you’d take a kid to a&e for a weight issue.

I took him because the paramedic ordered us a taxi to go there. When I say severely underweight, I mean starving. It did turn out to be an eating disorder, we didn't find that out until the next time I took him to A&E, because the first time the doctor discharged him because his blood sugar was up, because the paramedic had managed to get him to drink orange juice and eat jam on toast.

I think taking your DC to A&E because they're literally starving to death is a good enough reason, but hey ho.

C8H10N4O2 · 14/06/2025 11:41

Carrfull · 14/06/2025 10:45

Well firstly, an associate isn't a medic. They're not fully qualified in the same way and unlikely experienced.

And to clarify, he made me feel I was in massive danger and must attend a and e or die, which was not going to be the case according to someone whose time I ultimately wasted. If a doctor had seen me in the GP surgery, I probably wouldn't have ended up in that queue, taking away from things that needed dealing with there and then.

And maybe I could have been the fourth, but youve ignored the details about the associate not realising it wouldn't be the case without other symptoms I didn't have, and extremely unlikely without other significant risk factors that did not apply.

This is an issue to take up with your GP practice who are responsible for supervising PA referrals, just like all other recommendations. Either the supervising GP agreed with the referral or wasn’t supervising properly.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 11:57

Carrfull · 14/06/2025 10:45

Well firstly, an associate isn't a medic. They're not fully qualified in the same way and unlikely experienced.

And to clarify, he made me feel I was in massive danger and must attend a and e or die, which was not going to be the case according to someone whose time I ultimately wasted. If a doctor had seen me in the GP surgery, I probably wouldn't have ended up in that queue, taking away from things that needed dealing with there and then.

And maybe I could have been the fourth, but youve ignored the details about the associate not realising it wouldn't be the case without other symptoms I didn't have, and extremely unlikely without other significant risk factors that did not apply.

Medic doesn't just mean a doctor, in the forces for example it also means paramedic. The point is he is a health care professional, he did what he thought was right and I think I'd rather have a referral and find out I was OK rather than being dismissed and finding myself dead a short time later. I guess you can take your pick.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 12:00

C8H10N4O2 · 14/06/2025 11:41

This is an issue to take up with your GP practice who are responsible for supervising PA referrals, just like all other recommendations. Either the supervising GP agreed with the referral or wasn’t supervising properly.

Exactly but there seems to be a movement to discredit physician associates ( no need for the passive aggressive 'physician associates') Same with nurse practitioners, I've never seen a physician associate but I have been treated by nurse practitioners more than once and I've found them excellent.

FurCoatNoKnickz · 14/06/2025 12:12

angela1952 · 13/06/2025 22:20

There were two people with minor stab wounds last time we were there, and a guy with heart problems who was going blue and wasn't seen for 8 hours. But there were also many young, drunk women, mainly European rather than British, and if they passed out they were seen immediately - before those who were obviously actually ill. Also quite a few women with children who just had a bad cold and were eventually triaged and sent home. It was heaving in there. When I finally left more than12 hours later, it was so busy that there were people queuing outside the entrance door, policed by security men.

My child had a “bad cold” one time and the GP called an ambulance. It might have been a bad cold to me but it was a serious health emergency to the GP who spotted something more sinister.

FurCoatNoKnickz · 14/06/2025 12:12

Ihad2Strokes · 14/06/2025 07:25

Cried apparently.

And maybe had a chat with a neighbour.

notatinydancer · 14/06/2025 12:19

2ndbestslayer · 13/06/2025 07:49

If you are able to triage people just through the power of your eyeballs maybe you should get a job there and help being the waiting times down!

I don't believe for a minute there are very many people putting themselves through the hell that is a&e for shits and giggles, no.

There are , I work in one. It’s a family day out for some people.

notatinydancer · 14/06/2025 12:31

SharpFox · 14/06/2025 09:13

What a brilliant idea!! X

We do this when the waiting room is very busy.
It certainly works.

bruffin · 14/06/2025 12:53

notatinydancer · 14/06/2025 12:19

There are , I work in one. It’s a family day out for some people.

Last week , dh had made it to the 3rd waiting room where there was also a large room with recliner chairs, people on drips. A family turned up with 3 boys and 3 adults to visit!. Boys were running around just being a nuisance. Nurse then decides to chuck out every who wasnt a patient. I went for a coffee ended up going home and dh came home by himself once he had steroids and they felt he wasnt going to get worse which wasnt ideal.

Kendodd · 14/06/2025 13:08

Kendodd · 14/06/2025 09:59

I wonder if AI could be useful? I had a black mark under a nail a couple of years ago. Apparently this is typically what cancer looks like. I did an online consultation with my GP including a picture. They fast track refered to hospital appointment. I went, doctor there had a good look at it, took a picture on her phone and expanded it to have a better look. Told me it was nothing to worry about. I can't help thinking my GP could have just sent my original picture to the skin cancer consultant or even got AI to look at it, very quickly, no cause for concern, no appointments needed. I don't know, maybe the skin doctor needed to physically see me, see my overall condition, to aid diagnosis?

Thinking about this more, with regard potential skin cancer. I wonder if HCP could be bypassed completely and a picture uploaded directly to an NHS AI reader as a first step?

NCNC2 · 14/06/2025 13:13

The GP tried to send me to a&e the other week
i was 9 days post endo surgery, and had a UTI (from the catheter and I’m prone to them) and my pulse was a bit high (it always is) and I’m neutropenic
I’ve been neutropenic for the best part of a decade so ended up on antibiotics with a promise of a&e if I felt more unwell
But if I did have to go, I would have looked fine

C8H10N4O2 · 14/06/2025 13:20

TheignT · 14/06/2025 11:57

Medic doesn't just mean a doctor, in the forces for example it also means paramedic. The point is he is a health care professional, he did what he thought was right and I think I'd rather have a referral and find out I was OK rather than being dismissed and finding myself dead a short time later. I guess you can take your pick.

Yes - remember all the fuss when nurse practitioners were introduced? We were all going to die apparently. Now they are mainstream, cover many minor conditions and have specialisms, just as specialist pharmacists conduct prescription reviews/minor ailments.

My practice which by UK standards I’d say is quite good has had a PA for about 15 years. She is an expert in child development, childhood ailments, managing and supporting some of the medical conditions which are common in children with signficant special needs etc. The other GPs routinely call on her specialist knowledge. Her door is clearly labelled “Physician Associate” and she chooses to have Ms on the door nameplate with her PhD listed at the end to avoid confusion. If she sees a child who may need the GP she can fast track them into the GP diary.

This model works well and is used in some of the European systems which regularly outperform ours.

If GPs are using them unsupervised or as cheap labour that is a problem with poor practice, not the model.

TheignT · 14/06/2025 13:44

We went to the local pharmacy yesterday for DHs COVID jab. The pharmacist was lovely and no queues, in and out in two minutes. When baby GC was visiting and had a fever 111 directed my son to the pharmacy, again very efficient and dealt with quickly.

Thursst0n · 14/06/2025 14:00

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 14/06/2025 11:30

I took him because the paramedic ordered us a taxi to go there. When I say severely underweight, I mean starving. It did turn out to be an eating disorder, we didn't find that out until the next time I took him to A&E, because the first time the doctor discharged him because his blood sugar was up, because the paramedic had managed to get him to drink orange juice and eat jam on toast.

I think taking your DC to A&E because they're literally starving to death is a good enough reason, but hey ho.

So much ignorance spouted on here. You don’t need to be in crisis to go to A&E with an ED. You can look normal and be near death.The first time my daughter was admitted with anorexia I didn’t even realise she had it. I’d taken her in for something else however her bloods were so awful she was immediately whisked off to high dependency. We’ve since been in and out of hospital including A&E many times, frequently ordered to by CAMHS. I use the Marzipan list for guidance. Many of the thinks to look out for wouldn’t be obvious to bystanders or MNers who think they’re medical experts.