Is it ever ok for the DH to call you a f***ing c**nt

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Context: some nagging from me about a domestic issue … He then Flew into complete rage & screamed very aggressively, multiple times (DD also overheard) what an F*ing c**t I was

He hasn't just verbally abused you, he absolutely has emotionally abused your daughter by witnessing your abuse.

He is a disgrace.
I would NEVER forgive that.
I would NEVER move on from tjat.

Your daughter will NEVER forget that.

Do what you have to, but get out.

Did you not call him a cunt back?

Really does depend on context, flying off in a rage- not ok.

Casual cunt - see mickey Flanagan sketch re:"casual cunting". Really depends on your relationship.

Forgot to add- def not ok infront of children.

No.

Mine would be over too , i couldn't forgive that .

Heat of the moment?
We've all said things that we regret.
What is your relationship like in general?
Not trying to excuse the use of horrible language but needs to be viewed in context. Do you both generally swear a lot?
Take care OP
You have every right to be upset

And you weren't 'nagging'

Was the domestic issue something that had been 'forgotten?'

Not unless he wanted to suffer or become homeless.

Not in a million years

Nope. Believe me I have been sorely tempted to leave DH in the last few years but he’s never called me anything close to that.

@steelingmyselfsorry, I managed to skip that bit. You are totally right. It’s absolutely not ok to say that in front of her Daughter.

Don’t need to read your post. The answer is no. Obviously.

"Fucking" is used quite commonly as an adjective around here. Your DH's rage is not acceptable however. He could have left the situation.

Not acceptable.After 23 years together this was the last thing my exh said to me in our marital home before he left for good. Said with venom and hatred. Think my Ds overheard him but he's never said he heard the actual words. . I still get the rage when I think about the disrespect and nastiness. Don't put up with this for yourself. You deserve better.

It bothers me more that you needed strangers on the internet to confirm this for you. I’m worried that any part of you might think this is ok when the answer to your question is so obviously “of course not”

Mine does sometimes because he has diagnosed ADHD and some undiagnosed issues going on. He goes from 0-100 in seconds but can’t help it.

Of course not. Not ever acceptable.

You really need to ask?

It's not great is it? Mine has called me a fucking stupid bitch once. Just the once. My response ensured it will never happen again. You need to draw a boundary here and fast. Was he drunk? Are there other issues at play?

Thank you that means a lot. I'm getting verbally abused more now than I was in the actual marriage, just never ending xxx

Of course that’s not ok. In no way shape or form is that ok

In my world it's not ok to call anyone a f*ing c*t, much less a life partner.

Why would you have such a loathsome ignorant person in your life ?

This ^

That isn’t a good enough reason, no.

is it ever? Yeah, if you did something fucking cunty.

That’s a pretty big generalisation. If, say, I decided to get shitfaced drunk and drive my kids around, or if I killed our pet dog, or if I was shagging his best mate of 25 years behind his back and when he found out I laughed and said it was because he was a failure of a man.

I’d say in those scenarios he would be justified in calling me a cunt and not at all abusive.