Is it ever ok for the DH to call you a f***ing c**nt

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Context: some nagging from me about a domestic issue … He then Flew into complete rage & screamed very aggressively, multiple times (DD also overheard) what an F*ing c**t I was

Nah

Not in my world

It would be the end of the marriage for me as I couldn't accept being spoken to with such a complete lack of respect by someone who is supposed to love me.
Model for your DD what to do when a man - including her father - speaks to a woman like that.

Is this the first time he's been emotionally unstable and verbally abusive?

I remember being in a shop and hearing a couple arguing before he called her something similar......you could hear the gasps
The short answer is no!

No. I’m a bit sweary, but absolutely not.

Not for me. We had a pretty turbulent relationship but the day I was called a cunt, I filed for divorce. Words matter to me.

Nope, nope, nope.

Yes me and DH disagree sometimes and it’s not always sunshine and rainbows but we always have respect for each other even in those circumstances.

Name calling, aggression and screaming is never ok.

Anyone who called me that wouldn't get a second chance or opportunity to escalate it.

By not leaving him, you are sending the message to your DD that this is acceptable and she's at a higher risk of ending up in a DV relationship later in life.

This.

Without a doubt

Yeah, it's OK so long as it's only occasionally. He was probs just having a bad day.

Is this a serious question? 🤔

It’s not ideal, but providing this was a one off then I would let it go.

My partner has only done this a couple of times in 12 years (Looking back, I probably did deserve to be called it one of the times).

Sometimes we lash out and say things we don’t mean when we are stressed or fuming.

What is he normally like?

No, not okay at all. I can’t imagine my husband ever calling me that.

Depends on your relationhip.
If you call each other fucking cunts, hope you die kind of thing... fine.
I would not like that kind of relationship as everyday thing but guess we are all different.

If it is oy him telling you that, run for your life as there is no equality in your partnership.

And you went on to marry him????

Hell no!

I disagree that it's never okay, but it's not okay here.

Nope

Sorry that sounds horrible to go through x

Didn’t think so. Feeling sad that it happened.

Try on angry instead of sad.

You have to ask?

This . I would never be with someone who used such language . Absolutely disgusting. Especially with a daughter , wouldn’t want her around someone thinking it’s ok to use that word . To me it’s akin to spitting , the worst insult / threat ever .

Nope. It's totally unacceptable. I just wouldn't put up with it. So many ways to express yourself without using foul and degrading language. He sounds awful.

In front of her DD though?