Is this weird or am I being too serious? *Content warning- animal cruelty* edited by MNHQ

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Hi please tell me honestly if this is me being too serious or am I right?

I love animals and never want to see any being harmed. I have my own cat who is my little shadow and best friend.

I have a new friend (6 months give or take.) She knows I love animals and how much I love my cat.

Anyway, she keeps saying how much she dislikes cats and is going to skin mine when she comes to visit. I laughed this off.

she sent me a vid where an animal was being mistreated and I asked her not to send me anything like that, sort of laughed this off.

She told me she previously went to a festival and left her dog home alone without no one coming to feed it etc for 4 days. She gave the dog up eventually. I didn’t comment.

Last night she sent me a video of two rabbits all well and fluffy at first then the video cuts out and then two rabbits skinned and put on sticks appear, they’re then cooked and eaten.

I politely asked her not to send me anything like that. She said I’m a meat eater so shouldn’t be bothered. I said I know I am but I don’t want to see videos like this.

is this weird? She hasn’t said she’s joking but seems to find winding me up like this amusing. I’m rethinking my friendship???

If is real.

I’ve blocked and deleted in my phone and closed down my social media where she was on my friends list.

Are there any others in your book club who have seen her weird behaviour? Is there anyone in this club you are close to & can trust? It might be good to meet them & express your concerns/show them her messages & get them as backup or at least a heads up as to why you are withdrawing - if you feel you have to from the club. Not that you should be losing out on it but you may find it easier to - which is a shame. I do think you have every right if she asks why you’ve withdrawn /stopped replying to her etc that you simply cannot be friends with somebody with that sense of humour. That you find it really disturbing & you can’t see her in the same light as a friend as a result. That that’s just how you are & say (I’m sorry but) our friendship’s over but wish you all the best. And then completely detach. Good luck!

Thanks guys I’ve deleted and blocked and didn’t offer an explanation. I don’t live by her and I live too far out for her to be by mine. Plus she doesn’t know where I live. I’ve spoke to my family, all said odd and sick.

im going to work on my self esteem.

She sounds unhinged!! I would avoid her as much as possible as she seems to delight in upsetting you. I get that you want to make new friends (am in the same boat!) but I don't think she sounds like a nice person at all. Sorry you're having to deal with her. I would think about maybe using the grey-rock method rather than announcing that you don't want to be friends just to be on the safe side. X

She sounds like a fucking nutjob who knows you love animals and is deliberately taunting you with this stuff. Frankly she sounds like a sadistic psycho. I’d have ditched her just for the dog thing, let alone the rest. If I were you I’d drop her like a hot brick. Ideally off a tall building.

I’ve blocked her already so bit late to do it another way. I’ve had a migraine all day panicking about it all. I can’t believe I didn’t drop her after the dog thing. I’ve never experienced anyone like her so I can only think I was out of my depth or shocked by what she said.

This is horrible and disturbing behavior you’ve had to endure!! I feel like she’s doing these things intentionally because she knows they’re upsetting to you.

I’m an animal lover and I eat meat, but not all meats because of the processes involved.

That doesn’t mean I want to see videos of animals being prepped for and/or slaughtered!! 😳

You say she’s a new friend, and I don’t think she should be any kind of friend of yours any longer.

I’m also curious to know if you’ve ever met any friends of hers alone or if she has a significant other? If not, that says something. 🩷

Hi no I’ve not met any of her other friends and she is single. I’ve not heard from her because she’s blocked. Enjoying the peace.

This is totally unacceptable - she's not a good person. Seriously if I was in your shoes and there was evidence of her committing animal cruelty offences, I would report her to the police. Depending on the nature of the videos she sent you, it may be worth doing this anyway. At the very least, drop her like a hot brick.

What a horrible person! Glad you blocked her. You and your cat are well rid.

She sounds insane. I don’t particularly like cats but would be horrified at the thought of one being harmed. You’ve asked her several times to stop sending you this stuff but she seems to take delight in doing it. That’s not a friend.

I shudder to think about what’s on her internet search history. Honestly, I couldn’t be friends with someone who thought hurting animals was funny.

She sounds like a total psycho and quite frankly a horrible and evil person. I don't care much at all what people do, however animal abuse would be the line and they would be cut out of my life forever

Why on earth are you tolerating this from this person if you carry on seeing her then I don't know what that makes you

Wtf are you "laughing off" her vile comments and actions? I'd be reporting her to whoever and cutting contact immediately. If she hurt your cat, would you just laugh that off too? If you're that weak that you can't tell her why you are cutting contact, just do it.

She's a fucking psychopathic bitch. I would never speak to her again.

I have blocked her and no longer associate with her. When I said laugh it off I didn’t mean literally, I meant didn’t react to it as I thought that was what she would have wanted. A reaction. When she continued saying stuff like that I asked her not to.

shes never been to my home so has never met my cat. I would do anything to protect my cat so she would have been launched down the path had she tried anything.

I spoke to the police who told me that there wasn’t anything they could do as the videos are online and she hasn’t actually hurt any.

I do think her dog was took off her. But this was before I knew her.

im disappointed in myself for not speaking up more and more aggressively/less passive. I was going through a hard time. She didn’t help.

back to myself now.

Sorry…no friend acts or does things like this…it’s weird and completely unhinged…I’d be scared !!!

She’s a psychopath.

Bloody hell. I say this with as much love as possible but you need to grow a backbone. I'd be telling her she's fucking unhinged and block her number. And I'm an absolute jellyfish myself sometimes (though I will say my spine is slowly forming)

I know, normally I have. I’ve just been very low and I think I attracted a monster.

she’s gone now thank god.

Good grief. Why is still your friend? She sounds like a psychopath.

She’s not my friend anymore.

so glad for you

Thank you. I do feel more peaceful now but slightly worried about bumping into her.

She is not a friend. She's a sicko. Stay well clear.

I think you have received some harsh comments here, almost blaming you for her actions. I’ve met a few people (and seen a few on here) that hate cats and seem to think it’s ok to say things like ‘I’d kick it’ etc, that’s bad enough but cruel videos is just sick, sad you had to see them.