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Is our town a shithole..

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FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 13:53

Or is this happening anywhere else?

I have been discussing this with friends, family and colleagues recently so won't name our town for privacy reasons, but it is a regular, large town in England, UK.
Nothing particularly special or awful about it, previously.

Since the pandemic, the entire vibe has changed. Almost unrecognisable.
Yes, we have some heavy shop closures like many towns, but the council kept it looking decent as much as it could. Some nice buildings and nature areas, etc.

What stands out most, apart from the general vandalism and dog shit is the weird accumulation of male groups hanging around boozing in public.

So far they have taken over the local park, river walks and nature reserves. They often cluster beneath bridges or across paths where people like to run, cycle walk dogs or take children, making it less safe and filling these areas with waste. Off road bikes have ruined the nature reserves, so less people visit Sad

Sadly the authorities don't seem to be doing much about it, it is as if these people don't have to abide by laws that the rest of us have to. Some buildings adjacent to these areas have windows put through on a regular basis, even in what you'd call 'nice' areas.
Many of them cluster at river bridges and block the path for others, most are very drunk or out of generally.
It isn't unusual to see a large man passed out across the pathway, blocking anyone getting past. If you had a pram or bike it would be really uncomfortable to have to rouse a large drunk at 2pm in the afternoon. Most are local men, with a growing amount of middle eastern men. The vast majority of them are unstable.

We see less women out cycling, walking or exercising now, and this encompasses both MC and WC areas. These people seem to have just multiplied and spread across the entire borough and have taken over all public space.
We live in a decent area that is now seeming to go downhill.
It isn't unusual to see day drinkers sat alone, surrounded by cans on a quiet residential street. And they won't move to let you past.

It's really depressing.

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OhPatti · 12/06/2025 15:32

Chocolateorange22 · 12/06/2025 14:37

I think people who live in Southampton might disagree with you.

Yeah, fair dos. I didn't fully think that one through, did I. 😅

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 15:32

TizerorFizz · 12/06/2025 15:30

@FroggletTowers Most of what you describe is a police issue. Moving men on who are threatening is not up to the council. Use of parks is but misuse is a police issue. Dealing drugs in our park is a police issue but of course it’s ignored. It’s really about how we want resources spent and who will challenge such poor behaviour.

I think the underbelly of society is now bigger and people like this simply don’t care what they do because they have no standards and get away with it. It’s always a minority who spoil it for everyone else.

Can't recall the last time I saw the police in recreational areas, where most of the issue is.

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needingadvice12 · 12/06/2025 15:33

I’m in Hyde, greater Manchester and this is exactly how it’s gone round here. So many shops closing, our shopping centre is like a ghost town nowadays and the only places that survive the test of time are takeaways and vape shops

Also getting a large influx of homeless people/addicts walking up and down the main road, actually inbetween cars with a cup asking for money. Sad

TabbyCatInAPoolofSunshine · 12/06/2025 15:34

Isn't it likely to have a lot to do with the fact people who have money to spend are doing so online or in big out of town shopping centres, hence the slightly smarter and independent shops and cafes, restaurants etc. closing due to lack of footfall, and retail units being boarded up or occupied by low rent places that appeal to people who don't have credit/ debit cards to shop online, or don't have much money and are just hanging around. Additionally a lot of cheaper town centre pubs closing because the business model is no longer profitable (someone mentioned weather spoons - cheap places day drinkers hung out yes, but cheap places with toilets they could use that gave them a place to meet up other than parks, pedestrian zones and bus stops etc).

It's a spiral isn't it? Initially started because people stopped spending as much money in town centers due to big out of town shopping centers having more choice, and the convenience of online shopping, then escalated during the pandemic and some town centers were then too far gone - people with money to spend no longer have a reason to go in, so there's a change in use of the space, away from consumption and retail and gastronomy and towards betting shops and people with nowhere else to go realising that they can hang around there because there are no longer businesses owners putting pressure on the police and council to move them on.

Not going to the town centre makes the town centre decline - then when you do decide to go once in a blue moon, you finally notice that it's not somewhere you want to go - because nobody's been going, so it's got run down.

Not a conspiracy, more lethagy and neglect and expecting "someone else" to keep businesses going, just in case you fancy going into town once a year and want it to look thriving and affluent.

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 15:35

Goingforalaydown · 12/06/2025 15:31

Op in originally from the midlands. (Name changed as may be outing) Derby is now like this. One of the reasons is because the council is paid to take overspill of drug addicts, alcoholics, homeless with severe mental health issues etc and put them in their temporary accomodation. They come from various other boroughs of the UK, they don't know anybody. They meet other junkies and alcoholics and start drama and politics. They take over local services because councils make them first in like priority for things like gp appointments. The worst part is they don't want to get better. They are accessing the services because they are made to, not because they want to be clean. I've seen some total shit shows lol, saw a woman so drunk she was unconscious at 2pm and then I thought a man was going to help her but he was mugging her, another man went over and I thought he might intervene but he started demanding some as well. I saw a bunch of smack heads shaking down a disabled woman (who also accesses some of the same services they do at one of the centres) and taking all her money in the doorway to an andoned shop. Saw police walk past two junkies shooting up as they can't be arsed with it. Constant fights in the town and they are everywhere.

I moved away and I grew up on a council estate and am as rough as old boots lol it was too much even for me when my neighbour was almost stabbed and the poor 20 something year old single girl who lived next door had her house broken into by 3 ski mask wearing men at 3am, and the police when we called couldn't even tell us if they would send somebody out!

God this is awful. I have heard similar.
I am sorry any of us have to witness anything like that.
No one, regardless how or where we grew up ought to be subject to such a shitty environment. I do wish things were different, and I can't say I have much hope in the near future.

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MrsBobtonTrent · 12/06/2025 15:36

I know quite a few towns like this, and it is a growing number. Lots of factors increasing street drinking. Growing number of young people still living at home. More and more people housed in HMOs without social spaces. More and more people housed "temporarily" in hostels and b&bs where you have to leave during the day. Fewer employment opportunites for unskilled or low-educated or hard-to-employ men.

When the street drinking starts to become noticeable, people move away from it. Those houses become more HMOs etc, the day drinkers are not so diluted by the rest of society and become more obvious, they increase as a proportion of locals, they take over more space and the cycle continues.

With regard to the nature reserves, I am aware of several that have become ASB hot spots precisely because measures were taken to cut down these behaviours in town centres. The problem was just relocated rather than dealt with.

adriennemole · 12/06/2025 15:36

Squirrelsnut · 12/06/2025 15:26

I grew up near Peterborough and had need to go to the town centre for the first time in years recently. While there are more restaurants and some swishy bars, the general atmosphere was terrible. I felt really on edge. It seemed really rough and grotty (apart from the Cathedral precinct which is exquisite). A lot of the people seemed angry.
It was never a posh town but I don't remember it ever being so crap and depressing.

Yes to a lot of people appearing angry.
I have definitely noticed this not only in my nearest, pretty affluent city but also in the ever growing village where I live.

OhPatti · 12/06/2025 15:36

KurtShirty · 12/06/2025 15:12

sounds like you’re talking about basically street drinkers and people on the edges of society who generally come from a background of really serious trauma and being repeatedly seriously failed by society. I know that because I used to be a street drinker myself. austerity has stripped so many services back to the bones, there is increasing levels of desperation and poverty. How charming of you to only comment on this in terms of it making your town look like a shit hole.

Absolutely. I think some on this thread might be unable to grasp that it's getting a bit harder to find naice places these days because there simply isn't the money to make them naice. If people are so out of touch with what austerity has done to this country, then they should think themselves lucky instead of complaining places aren't as bijou as they'd like them to be.

Kelticgold · 12/06/2025 15:37

I moved to England a decade ago and I remember feeling shocked by the amount of ASB in some areas. However it didn’t stop me going to the town centre.

I prefer to avoid it nowadays though. I don’t think it is a lot worse, but I think I have changed since I became a mum. I didn’t mind hanging out in the past myself, but now I feel I want to shelter my children and I have got a lower tolerance level for that crap you describe.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 12/06/2025 15:38

It's like that here - though white british men and few loud mouthed women.

There have been som HMO and other hostels set up near town center but honestly I think teh problem predates them.

So over the years we slowly start to go to nearby town with nice shopping center or nearby city especially as so many shops are lost in our center. We don't drive and pulbic transport here is expensive so we are some of the last to do so - but it's a sprial of decline.

Though went to town I grew up near recently - and it was just dead - no-one around and loss of shops. That was odd too.

Only been a few cities centers that we've been to that feel lively at all.

viques · 12/06/2025 15:38

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 14:46

Since the vast majority of these are white british men, I am not sure about HMO's. There are a good amount of those in the town centre, but to my knowledge the tenants are immigrants who are busy working and trying to survive. I don't associate HMO's with this particular issue.

There definitely are a lot of single person council flats in that area too, most with severe vandalism issues (furniture thrown from windows, smashed doors, etc). I presume many of these drinkers come from these.

In our area the majority of HMOs seem to be filled with single Eastern European men, Polish, Lithuanian, Romanian, and a number of them have huge problems with alcohol. Judging from posts on the local next door app young men from largely Asian backgrounds share rooms in family properties as lodgers.

PickAChew · 12/06/2025 15:39

Are you Matt Vickers, OP?

Poynsettia · 12/06/2025 15:40

Everyone shops online via Amazon or some other foreign owned seller, we buy Chinese made goods and if we go to supermarkets much is imported food- so all the money that used to go to British manufacturers, shop owners,tax from shop owners to council, uk farmers, uk food processors goes out of the country.
So our money is gone elsewhere -so there is nothing to pay for stuff here. No construction,public transport, etc etc etc

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 15:41

needingadvice12 · 12/06/2025 15:33

I’m in Hyde, greater Manchester and this is exactly how it’s gone round here. So many shops closing, our shopping centre is like a ghost town nowadays and the only places that survive the test of time are takeaways and vape shops

Also getting a large influx of homeless people/addicts walking up and down the main road, actually inbetween cars with a cup asking for money. Sad

Amazon will completely take over for everything. Huge, ugly warehouses will continue to be built and become full of imports from China and there will be no need for any other shops eventually. We are being laid to waste in this country and it’s all by design.

WitchesofPainswick · 12/06/2025 15:46

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 15:41

Amazon will completely take over for everything. Huge, ugly warehouses will continue to be built and become full of imports from China and there will be no need for any other shops eventually. We are being laid to waste in this country and it’s all by design.

Well it's all by convenience. If I could get what I buy on Amazon in my town centre, with decent customer service, then I would. Amazon fills a consumer need - quality goods, fast delivery.

Crikeyalmighty · 12/06/2025 15:47

@Mishmashs because both Reform and Daily Mail plus most media offer only criticism of anything that does not fit their political agenda. See for example the Winter fuel allowance-absolute outrage , so yes a bit of reflection and back tracking and then we get headlines such as ‘our children will be paying for this’ - they offer no reflection on why things are as they are in society that doesn’t fit their agenda of blaming it on anytime that isn’t white British or doesn’t suit the views of mainly older people or those who don’t like foreigners whose first language isn’t British or those who aren’t obsessively patriotic because they know where their bread is buttered or where they can count on votes. Pure self interest. I’m not an ardent lefty, very much in the centre but the obsession with pandering to white van man or ‘a lot of’ ( not all) the elderly population is supremely depressing. Farage and his ilk have no actual solutions for society’s ills that don’t come at very considerable cost to either pockets, personal welfare or environmental issues , they are utterly retrogressive- but some people just hear the headlines- maybe the Mail and the Express should start having some proper neutral journalism examining issues- im
open minded, I’ve even agreed with Dan Hodges a few times on Twitter -

the fact is the reasons we have real issues are multi faceted. The country has done some really stupid things starting with Thatcher for short termism - selling off social housing was one, selling off utilities anotger( although I agree with telecoms as other options were available and encouraged competition). I still though can’t get my water from Welsh reservoirs regardless of who I pay my bill too or dictate where my electricity actually comes in from.

then we have the fact we had a lot of ‘big’ spaces in towns - be that banks, BJS, Debenhams, Littlewoods, Woolworths, Wilkinson’s etc - these left huge blank spaces when they exited that are hard to fill given the fact we have horrendously high rents and business rates AND a declining footfall due to online shopping - so we get a few more mid range restaurants - not necessarily great when COL has gone through roof for many and stagnating wages. We have in many parts of the country people forced into private rentals and just about coping but not much spare cash , huge child care costs and until recently very little subsidies for any under 3s -

then of course we have Brexit in the mix, whether or not you agree with it and I personally think pointless and expensive, it’s made it that blokes if a bit short of work can’t just go off and do a contract in the EU , especially in trades- reverse of course is also true, and areas that were regularly getting improvement funds are now not seeing this nor do any big EU employers rush to base themselves here - I wouldn’t either.

we lived in Copenhagen for 20 months- it’s not difficult to pinpoint why they have less issues - it’s very much a society will look after you but you do your bit mentality - most couples work and mainly full time or at least 25 hours- childcare is very cheap and good quality, no council tax, lots of very good social housing, tax is high , anti social behaviour totally frowned on . There isn’t this mentality of let’s screw the system and work as little as we can get away with and get top ups - it’s just a very different mentality . Apart from a few quite deprived areas with mainly non EU immigrants where it did seem a bit more disordered on the whole it was very ordered , and order was expected , no doubt some would think boring .

Jacopo · 12/06/2025 15:47

Local town is very deprived and has massive drug problems, and lots of boarded up shops. However we don’t see big groups of drinkers in parks etc because it’s illegal to drink in public except in licensed outdoor premises. Each council here can make its on rules on outdoor consumption of alcohol (Scotland). Of course the rules are flouted but I think they still act as a bit of a deterrent.

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 15:50

WitchesofPainswick · 12/06/2025 15:46

Well it's all by convenience. If I could get what I buy on Amazon in my town centre, with decent customer service, then I would. Amazon fills a consumer need - quality goods, fast delivery.

There’s no doubt that Amazon is convenient.

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 15:50

To my knowledge, in this town, the overwhelming majority of the issues concern white british men.
Due to a very small yet growing contingent of immigrant drinkers, the town has decided that immigration is the cause of all of these problems.

You can't even reason with that kind of logic. So I don't try. It is a waste of time.

The issues were clearly growing over time.
It has only recently become visible here.

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Meadowfinch · 12/06/2025 15:52

My closest town isn't like that. There is a town order that prohibits drinking alcohol on the streets. The council has been careful to maintain the town centre regardless of covid. We had some shop closures of course but we also have two farmers markets and a general market each week. We have a Victorian park with renovated bandstand used every weekend. We have a bowling green, public tennis courts, boating lake, skateboard park and outdoor gym. All well maintained.

The town hall is used for art exhibitions and dance competitions, the canal has barges. We still have a cricket club, race course and lido. I've never felt unsafe even after dark, and I cycle and run on my own a lot.

They've mostly avoided out off town shopping and so our cinema and theatre are still in the town centre. They work hard on an events calendar and keeping the place clean. . It is generally a nice place to live, although we also have a very small 'tent city' tucked away out of sight, which is ludicrous in an area with stud farms and a castle.

It sounds like your town council could do more to police and maintain the town centre. A zero tolerance approach might help. But some towns where the main employer/industry has disappeared are so strapped for cash they have higher priorities.

A culture of community volunteering helps too . Parish councils and pushy residents' associations tend to get things done.

fatphalange · 12/06/2025 15:54

Our city is like this. Alcohol and heroin. A few years ago it was spice. Many people mistake them for being homeless but they actually aren’t.

Meadowfinch · 12/06/2025 15:55

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 15:41

Amazon will completely take over for everything. Huge, ugly warehouses will continue to be built and become full of imports from China and there will be no need for any other shops eventually. We are being laid to waste in this country and it’s all by design.

Are you usually so cheerful ? 😁

Dangermoo · 12/06/2025 15:56

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 15:50

To my knowledge, in this town, the overwhelming majority of the issues concern white british men.
Due to a very small yet growing contingent of immigrant drinkers, the town has decided that immigration is the cause of all of these problems.

You can't even reason with that kind of logic. So I don't try. It is a waste of time.

The issues were clearly growing over time.
It has only recently become visible here.

You've been dying to get there, haven't you OP. I'm amazed it's taken this long.

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 15:57

Eh?

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Crikeyalmighty · 12/06/2025 15:59

@Meadowfinch now that’s one reason I think here in Bath has remained ‘relatively ok’ - we do not have big out of town retail parks and our cinemas ( several) theatres and restaurants have remained central so trade is directed centrally .