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Is this typical handwriting

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Lavatime · 11/06/2025 18:16

For an 8 year old trying their best to be neat?
Can't tell if I am going insane or what

Is this typical handwriting
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Lmnop22 · 11/06/2025 18:22

Most of this is good but it’s in a weird colour which contributes to it being hard to read and some bits are messy/letters are backwards but might be a concentration thing since other words and letters are done perfectly

Lavatime · 11/06/2025 18:26

This section is written with a normal pencil if that's easier
I'm worried that he hates writing and always says his hand hurts after a sentence or so have been practising with him a lot but just not sure where he 'should' be it's taken 3 days to do this one a4 piece of work because he hates it so much

Is this typical handwriting
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TeenToTwenties · 11/06/2025 18:29

I don't think it is typical. My DC were both behind on this due to dyspraxia. I think from memory DD1's was better than your example and DD2's worse at similar age.

NuffSaidSam · 11/06/2025 18:29

No, I think it's below the level of what would typically be expected from an eight year old.

The good news is that handwriting is no longer an important skill really. Is he otherwise on track?

Wowzel · 11/06/2025 18:29

I don't think this is usual, judging by seeing the handwriting of my DD, DS and friends. It's nearly illegible

Spies · 11/06/2025 18:32

I would be more worried about the letters they are forming incorrectly than the actual handwriting. Although it's very difficult to read I've seen worse and working on forming the letters correctly would make a huge difference.

proximalhumerous · 11/06/2025 18:32

Sorry, but I really don't think so. I'd expect that level of legibility in Reception or Year 1.

I can only read four or five words easily.

BlackOlive · 11/06/2025 18:34

Maybe it is harder for him on plain paper as there is no guidlines? It is always going to be a bit bigger and messier on plain paper I think. With lined paper it might be easier to get used to writing smaller/tidier letters. It does take practice to write neatly and obviously there is less writing at school now, how does he do generally at school? Some people have really messy writing even as adults though I would definitely be asking his teacher about it

GoodGollyMissDolly · 11/06/2025 18:35

I’d be having a chat with the teacher and looking into potential OT referral for dysgraphia or dyspraxia - neither an insurmountable obstacle but benefit hugely from correct intervention!

RaraRachael · 11/06/2025 18:36

I wouldn't say that's typical of an 8yo. I can barely make out what it says.

LIZS · 11/06/2025 18:38

Probably not. Reversals and mixing capitals and lower case.

mommybear1 · 11/06/2025 18:39

Is he left or right handed? My 7 year old is left handed and hates writing also says his hand hurts after writing too much school have been worse than useless saying to him he’ll always have poor writing as he’s left handed 😤. We are having him privately assessed for Dysgraphia in the next few weeks. Even if it isn’t that we thought they will at the very least advise us on what we can do to help him. The nonsense of getting them to repeat letters to help formation or repeat sentences hasn’t helped him at all. We have tried dough disco, hand exercises, hand yoga and stretches nothing helps. We are not experts so we’ve gone private to get him assessed. Have a look online re Dysgraphia it may offer you some guidance and support - wishing him the best of luck.

modgepodge · 11/06/2025 18:40

Honestly, no, it looks more like a reception/y1 child. Have school raised concerns? If not I would suggest you raise it with them and ask how they can support him as well as you trying to.

theonlyonestillawake · 11/06/2025 18:40

The mixture of capital and lower case letters is quite unusual for an 8 year old I would say. Although writing without guidelines and in pencil is always going to be messier than on lined paper with a handwriting pen

Garfieldd · 11/06/2025 18:42

Is he learning joined up writing. My child has great handwriting but when doing joined up it looks a bit like this

Lavatime · 11/06/2025 18:43

He is struggling at school, absolutely hates it. I've brought up issues with coordination and hand writing many times with them and every time they ignore me and then call me in for meetings blaming my parenting and also his older brother being autistic for DS's struggles at school.
I'm starting to feel like I am imagining his issues with writing and coordination more generally at this point!

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Dartmoorcheffy · 11/06/2025 18:44

Try using lined paper. You write on the line above and he can copy on the line below.

Mayflyoff · 11/06/2025 18:45

My DD has dysgraphia and that looks like hers at that age, but with better spacing between words. I wasn't convinced she'd ever get all of her letters and numbers round the right way, but she has, with lots of perseverance. My DD predominantly types now, but science and maths do still need handwriting, I think.

Spies · 11/06/2025 18:46

Lavatime · 11/06/2025 18:43

He is struggling at school, absolutely hates it. I've brought up issues with coordination and hand writing many times with them and every time they ignore me and then call me in for meetings blaming my parenting and also his older brother being autistic for DS's struggles at school.
I'm starting to feel like I am imagining his issues with writing and coordination more generally at this point!

If they have ignored the issues for years and been so rude as to actually blame you and his siblings then I would honestly look for another school and private sipport.This school has obviously already written him off which is disheartening and unnecessary.

lnks · 11/06/2025 18:47

OP, I was a TA in a primary school for years. At that age some children's hand writing is much better. However, there are always children with hand writing like your DC's, and they always catch up to their peers as they progress through the primary school years. It is something to work on, but I wouldn't regard it as a major cause for concern at this point.

Edited to add, that I am talking about children who do not have additional needs such as autism, dyslexia etc.

Favouritefruits · 11/06/2025 18:49

I’d expect ore cursive at that age if not fully joined up. The writing is nice and small but I’d say below average.

3beesinmybonnet · 11/06/2025 19:59

This reminds me of my son's writing, he was tested when he was 12 and found to have dyslexia and dyspraxia. By this time he also hated school because he found it such hard work and he became quite withdrawn. Also several teachers were convinced he was just naughty (he wasn't) - one in particular seemed to enjoy picking on him, she was his form teacher and Head of Department. She told us at the start of one meeting that they didn't believe he was dyslexic, based on nothing apparently.
Once he was diagnosed he was like a different child and he blossomed from then on. We paid for private weekly lessons in english and maths to help him catch up.
Obviously this doesn't mean your son is dyslexic, but it's certainly worth considering.

golemmings · 11/06/2025 20:41

Like ASD, DCD is also a neurodivergent condition.

Does he have difficulties with buttons, zips, cutlery, balance, throwing and catching?
You can probably get an OT referral either direct or through your GP if school are unhelpful.

OTs can't diagnose DCD but do the standardised assessments for a paediatrician to identify the cause of the movement difficulty.

OT can also assess for hypermobility which may impact on handwriting and pen grip. If his pen grip is poor then pen grips can help to correct it, but it's tricky to change after 8.

Ultimately the best intervention for handwriting is handwriting so programmes such as Write from the Start and Speed Up! can help.

My son had daily handwriting intervention from y4-y6 which helped his confidence but not necessarily his legibility.
BBC bite size dance mat tying and doorway.com both offer good touch typing programmes but he will still need to do work on his writing - particularly ensuring he can write numbers because maths is hard to do without handwriting due to laying out calculations.

User79853257976 · 11/06/2025 20:59

Personally I think there is some SEN here. It looks a lot like the handwriting of some dyslexic and dyspraxic children I have taught.

Lavatime · 11/06/2025 21:05

golemmings · 11/06/2025 20:41

Like ASD, DCD is also a neurodivergent condition.

Does he have difficulties with buttons, zips, cutlery, balance, throwing and catching?
You can probably get an OT referral either direct or through your GP if school are unhelpful.

OTs can't diagnose DCD but do the standardised assessments for a paediatrician to identify the cause of the movement difficulty.

OT can also assess for hypermobility which may impact on handwriting and pen grip. If his pen grip is poor then pen grips can help to correct it, but it's tricky to change after 8.

Ultimately the best intervention for handwriting is handwriting so programmes such as Write from the Start and Speed Up! can help.

My son had daily handwriting intervention from y4-y6 which helped his confidence but not necessarily his legibility.
BBC bite size dance mat tying and doorway.com both offer good touch typing programmes but he will still need to do work on his writing - particularly ensuring he can write numbers because maths is hard to do without handwriting due to laying out calculations.

Thanks this is helpful I'll make a GP appointment and see if I can get things look into that way
He struggles with buttons- he has to have those metal clasp school trousers because he can't do up the button up ones but can manage the clasp
cutlery- he uses his hands whenever he can get away with it! He can't use a knife very well I have to cut his food for him.
he falls over a lot, very clumsy.
I can see at things like sports day and swimming lessons that he is behind the other children but then I go into a school meeting and come out thinking I'm literally imagining things

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