To think Yr2 teacher has it in for my girl??

[RealLifeRickyLake85]

Don’t know where to put this really but just need to vent and see if I’m mad or not. My Yr2 daughter got pulled up AGAIN yesterday for “talking too much” and “not listening first time”. She’s 6 fgs. Got a note home saying she was disrupting the class coz she was singing under her breath while doing a worksheet. Like?? She’s a kid not a robot

This is the third note in 2 weeks and I’m getting fed up. She’s not nasty or rude or anything like that. Bit lively, yeh, but she’s clever and she gets bored quick. Teacher’s newish and v stern. Don’t think she likes my girl tbh. Always got something to say but other mums I chat to say their kids are doing way worse and getting nowt said.

I’m on my own with 5 kids and trying my best. I do the reading log when I remember and she’s always in on time. She’s fed and clothed and happy. Just cos I’m not at the gate every morning all done up doesn’t mean she’s neglected. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it gets in my head.

AIBU to think the teacher needs to ease up or am I missing something? Should I speak to her or just leave it? Don’t wanna cause aggro but I’m tired of getting side-eyed over everything.

Yabu. 30 children singing under their breath whilst working. Your child has been at school for a few years and knows how to behave. Work with the school here

I hope the teacher isn't pulling up your daughter on her low level disruptions whilst allowing little Johnny to swear and hit people because, you know, he's "neurodiverse".

What’s your point? My son is autistic and has never hit anyone. He’s not disruptive in school at all. He’s often distracted by other, less well behaved and (as far as I know) neurotypical children though.

Imagine trying to teach a class of 32 kids not listening and singing under their breath. Tricky huh? So none of the kids should be doing it. She’s nearly in ks2. Work with the teachers fgs, they have a really hard job and are actually trying to help your kid learn.

Intelligence has nothing to with it- plenty of clever kids aren’t disruptive. “Lively” or badly behaved?

I love " I fill in the reading log when I remember!"
How often do you remember?

Your kid is being disruptive and you sound like you're being really antagonistic.

Teachers don’t generally enjoy raising issues like this, and only do so when it’s necessary. If she’s talking and not listening and singing in class when she’s meant to be working, do you not think as a parent you should be informed? It sounds like your daughter is quite disruptive in class.
Also these other parents who say their kids do much worse but nothing gets said to them…well how do they know? How do they know their child is misbehaving in class if no one is telling them? Or is it that their year 2 child is going home and bragging to them about how naughty they’ve been that day?

This. And at six she has been in school long enough to know how she is supposed to behave in class.

Absolutely true. I wouldnt believe she's the only six year old who does this. And exactly, talk to the teacher, ask her for advice, tell her if your dd does this at home ie humming etc under breath when engrossed. Always a good idea to develop a good relationship with teacher.

My daughter always gets sat by these sorts of low level disruptors and hates it, really struggles with the constant distraction.

The thing is? My DD would be one for singing/humming etc while she's working. But she's learned to resist those impulses while everyone's working, and sing at appropriate times - assemblies, the playground, at home. Its not fair on everyone else doing it in class.

Either encourage your DD to try not to or if she really struggles, hear what the teacher is saying, pop in for a chat, talk about support/assessing for SEN etc.

YABÙ
This behaviour is quite disruptive in the classroom. You need to tell her it's not acceptable or she will continue to do this. She may not be a bad kid but it can annoying for others in the classroom.