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To think she lied and actually went?

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Summersparkles123 · 10/06/2025 07:36

My friend/work colleague was off sick yesterday. However we were suppose to be going to a concert early evening. I told her I couldn't go due to a large unexpected cost and couldn't afford the travel there. She was fine about it and said she would sell our tickets. I said I was happy to sell it cheaper if she wanted to go with someone else. She said no and said she could only get max. 100 for them. I looked on resell sights and said oh they are going for more though.
Anyway she said she sold them for 100. I had doubts she was telling the truth anyway.
Then yesterday she wasn't at work. I totally forgot about the concert but just realised she probably went. I know people may say she was actually ill. I know what she's like and I highly doubt that.
I'm not annoyed she went, I'm more annoyed she lied to me. I'm also annoyed that she made out she could only get 100 for it the ticket when I know she could have got more on a resell sight. She also hasn't paid me the money for my ticket yet.
Lesson learnt not to trust her anymore.

OP posts:
OhHellolittleone · 10/06/2025 09:10

whitewineandsun · 10/06/2025 08:15

told her I couldn't go due to a large unexpected cost and couldn't afford the travel there.

I had an accident which i couldn't help so it's not like I purposely couldn't go

Which story is it?

Could be a repair bill for a car accident… that’s what I’d understood

Imbusytodaysorry · 10/06/2025 09:11

@Summersparkles123 If she sold you ticket I’d be expecting what she said she sold it for .
As for going without you . Tough luck op . Good for her . Why shouldn’t she.?

AutumnLover1989 · 10/06/2025 09:11

So you couldn't go because of an unexpected bill or an accident? Which is it? 🤦‍♂️🙄

And you're accusing HER of not being truthful about whether she went to the gig or not? Wow🙄

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 10/06/2025 09:14

Sauvin · 10/06/2025 08:10

Once you dropped out, you lost the money you’d spent on the ticket. Anything you get back now is a bonus.

This. She probably still wanted to go and it’s hard to sell just one ticket.

If I couldn’t go at short notice (yes, a month is short notice), I’d be happy getting any kind of money back.

Was the accident physical, ie a broken leg which meant you couldn’t go physically?

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 10/06/2025 09:16

Summersparkles123 · 10/06/2025 08:08

I had an accident which i couldn't help so it's not like I purposely couldn't go. I gave a month's notice. She had the tickets and I did offer to sell them but she said no its fine. I haven't seen any evidence that she listed them or sold them. She told me the day after I told her that she had sold them

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Well… it sounds like she still wanted to go to the concert. And why wouldn’t she?

should she have told you the truth? Yes.

but you definitely shouldn’t have “offered” to sell the tickets. You should have asked her whether she still wanted to go. Your priority should have been to make sure to at you don’t spoil the concert for your friend…

MJQs · 10/06/2025 09:17

Yes she went

No you won't get your money

Zippidydoodah · 10/06/2025 09:18

L00pyLou · 10/06/2025 08:47

The two aren't mutually exclusive!😄

@Summersparkles123 chase her for monies owed & then move on. Your feeling that she went is probably correct but no point in stirring things up.

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Nothing is owed.

Grammarnut · 10/06/2025 09:26

You let your friend down re concert and you are the injured party? Why didn't you sell the ticket yourself - it's you who didn't want it.

chattychatchatty · 10/06/2025 09:30

You don’t even know whether she went or not??
Was it just the two of you going - so by you not going, you’ve effectively spoiled her night?

SheridansPortSalut · 10/06/2025 09:36

Of course she went. She bought a ticket. Why wouldn't she go?

ClairDeLaLune · 10/06/2025 09:38

The correct thing for you to have done imo is given her the choice of you selling both tickets or you letting her have your ticket to give to a friend. Whether or not that friend offered you money for it would have been up to that friend. With both these options your friend is then no worse off from you pulling out.

It looks like your friend sold your ticket to her own friend for £50 and decided to lie about it for whatever reason. I don’t really think the friend covered herself in glory, but she was probably miffed that you pulled out.

On balance, both of you are a bit in the wrong.

MoominMai · 10/06/2025 09:42

@Summersparkles123 This happened to me also for a comedy concert and I gave a few weeks notice to friend and the ticket for free also. It would never occur to me to expect reimbursement for that ticket. That’s sort of making the whole situation even worse!

Livelovebehappy · 10/06/2025 09:50

Sauvin · 10/06/2025 08:10

Once you dropped out, you lost the money you’d spent on the ticket. Anything you get back now is a bonus.

Not really. OP could have taken the ticket she had paid for and sold it/binned it/give it away or whatever she wanted to do with it. She paid for it so it's her property.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 10/06/2025 10:03

somejust · 10/06/2025 08:28

So odd you paid but she had the tickets. So you paid and then transferred them to her? Both of them?

Also, just because they are listed on resale sites as for more, doesn't mean they necessarily go for that much.

Also, you have 'doubts' she was telling the truth, but now you are annoyed and not trusting her - on a hunch.

I dunno. Either this is a reverse or actually, you could have worked a bit harder on your OP. Disappointing.

How is it odd that OP paid for her ticket but her friend had them?

I've got it booked to go to a concert later in the year with a friend. She booked and paid for them, I transferred her the money for my ticket. So she has them but I've paid for mine.

Ellie1015 · 10/06/2025 10:04

Livelovebehappy · 10/06/2025 09:50

Not really. OP could have taken the ticket she had paid for and sold it/binned it/give it away or whatever she wanted to do with it. She paid for it so it's her property.

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Technically the ticket belongs to OP. But you should try and minimise the inconvenience to friend by allowing them to take someone else, if you get some money back great but I wouldn't be looking for it.

Crunchymum · 10/06/2025 10:06

She also hasn't paid me the money for my ticket yet

So you told her a month ago you couldn't go and she agreed to buy your ticket from you? @Summersparkles123

user1492757084 · 10/06/2025 11:20

For whatever reason, you let her down and piked out.
Your friend deserved to attend with someone she knew.
As long as she reimburses you what she sold the ticket for, you should be fine.

spoonbillstretford · 10/06/2025 11:29

Going against the grain, it's the OP's ticket which she paid for and gave a month's notice that she would not be able to attend.

If the friend has been able to sell the ticket on to someone else at face value then she needs to reimburse OP. Either way, the friend needs to be clear what happened to the ticket.

If it was a last minute flake out or if the OP never paid that would be different.

Lovemysleeeeeep · 10/06/2025 11:39

I hope she had a good time if she went.

Toddlerteaplease · 10/06/2025 11:46

I’d have been seriously pissed off with you for pulling out. For such a lame reason.

Ohnobackagain · 10/06/2025 11:48

In that case I’d message and say ‘you know you sold my ticket - would you be able to send the money? I’m a bit out of pocket after that stupid accident left me with a bill for XXX.’ @Summersparkles123

MMAMPWGHAP · 10/06/2025 11:50

Just because there are high prices on a resell site doesn’t mean anyone will buy at that price. You should have also checked availability on Twickets in the days before the concert. If it was a big stadium gig (eg Robbie Williams) then there would be loads on Twickets including below face value.

pimplebum · 10/06/2025 11:53

Don’t really think you have a good reason to not trust her
you have no proof of anything
have you asked her ?

latetothefisting · 10/06/2025 12:08

spoonbillstretford · 10/06/2025 11:29

Going against the grain, it's the OP's ticket which she paid for and gave a month's notice that she would not be able to attend.

If the friend has been able to sell the ticket on to someone else at face value then she needs to reimburse OP. Either way, the friend needs to be clear what happened to the ticket.

If it was a last minute flake out or if the OP never paid that would be different.

But friend presumably only bought the ticket in the first place to go with OP, she might not have wanted to go alone, so it's not just about the money, even if she got a full refund she'd still be disadvantaged.

If OP wanted to sell her own ticket she should have said to friend "I think I can sell my ticket for more than £100, its my ticket so its up to me what I do with it."
Of course she probably wouldn't have got much more because a) the market for single tickets is lower because again a lot of people prefer to go with others and b) the whole point of the price on resale sites is those are the tickets that haven't been re-sold yet. you can't look on viagogo and say "oh they've got tickets for £200 so that's how much I could sell mine for" because if people were willing to pay £200 for those tickets they would have, meaning they would no longer be available for you to see how much they were on for!

I think if you drop out of something then unless you've got a guaranteed refund policy with the organiser you accept you've lost the money.

spoonbillstretford · 10/06/2025 12:13

latetothefisting · 10/06/2025 12:08

But friend presumably only bought the ticket in the first place to go with OP, she might not have wanted to go alone, so it's not just about the money, even if she got a full refund she'd still be disadvantaged.

If OP wanted to sell her own ticket she should have said to friend "I think I can sell my ticket for more than £100, its my ticket so its up to me what I do with it."
Of course she probably wouldn't have got much more because a) the market for single tickets is lower because again a lot of people prefer to go with others and b) the whole point of the price on resale sites is those are the tickets that haven't been re-sold yet. you can't look on viagogo and say "oh they've got tickets for £200 so that's how much I could sell mine for" because if people were willing to pay £200 for those tickets they would have, meaning they would no longer be available for you to see how much they were on for!

I think if you drop out of something then unless you've got a guaranteed refund policy with the organiser you accept you've lost the money.

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Yes, sure but personally I couldn't be dishonest as a friend and make a profit out of another friend if I had managed to sell on the ticket.

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