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Does this reply sound OTT? Dating

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 20:26

Someone I'm dating, he messaged me about 7:30pm last night, and I didn't reply until 9am today, I got in late last night and just fell straight asleep.
We normally text every few hours, we send about 2 or 3 texts a day.

Anyway I messaged saying 'sorry for replying late, I just fell asleep last night' he replied saying 'aw it's ok, just as long as you're alright 🥰'.

Does that sound a bit OTT from him or is it just me overthinking it?

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SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 21:18

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

The tone of messages had been absolutely fine since.
I do often take several hours to reply as does he, I think it's just as I never took this long before.

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DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:19

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

DUMP HIM!!! LTB!!!! CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR!!!!

Really?!

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:21

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

🙄

Biscuit12 · 09/06/2025 21:22

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

Poor bugger can’t win

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:22

DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:19

DUMP HIM!!! LTB!!!! CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR!!!!

Really?!

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😆 🤣

Walkingwalkingwalking · 09/06/2025 21:22

I don’t see how PP could think of that comment as negative. He is showing care while not prying and he is not demanding anything.

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 21:23

It’s sad as a society we feel the need to be in constant contact with people and have immediate replies.

OP- you didn’t need to apologise. You didn’t ghost him. You were literally living your life and text him the next morning.

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:24

Poor bloke. Glad he can't see this thread.he would probably run a mile.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 09/06/2025 21:25

You’re overthinking.

Ecrire · 09/06/2025 21:25

Run. For. The. Hills.
Now.
For his sake.

DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:26

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 21:23

It’s sad as a society we feel the need to be in constant contact with people and have immediate replies.

OP- you didn’t need to apologise. You didn’t ghost him. You were literally living your life and text him the next morning.

Who was asking her to apologise?

This thread is nuts 😅

EveryOtherNameTaken · 09/06/2025 21:28

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:24

Poor bloke. Glad he can't see this thread.he would probably run a mile.

As he should!

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 21:56

DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:26

Who was asking her to apologise?

This thread is nuts 😅

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No one…….?

Can’t you read?

The OP text saying “Sorry for replying late”. My point was that she shouldn’t need to apologise for texting back the next day. I think it’s sad how some people feel the need to have constant contact and need to reply immediately.

How is that “nuts”?

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:59

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 21:56

No one…….?

Can’t you read?

The OP text saying “Sorry for replying late”. My point was that she shouldn’t need to apologise for texting back the next day. I think it’s sad how some people feel the need to have constant contact and need to reply immediately.

How is that “nuts”?

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Oh give over. Its a natural thing to apologise. Do you not apologise when you're late, or have forgotten somebody's birthday? It's called courtesy.

DontTouchRoach · 09/06/2025 21:59

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xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:01

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:59

Oh give over. Its a natural thing to apologise. Do you not apologise when you're late, or have forgotten somebody's birthday? It's called courtesy.

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I’ve never apologised for “replying late” when texting someone back in casual conversation the next day.

Not sure how you can compare that to forgetting someone’s birthday though.

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 22:03

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:01

I’ve never apologised for “replying late” when texting someone back in casual conversation the next day.

Not sure how you can compare that to forgetting someone’s birthday though.

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It's comparable as it's a natural reaction. Do you hesitate before you ever apologise and analyse whether you should do or not, over something so transactional?

DontTouchRoach · 09/06/2025 22:03

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 21:56

No one…….?

Can’t you read?

The OP text saying “Sorry for replying late”. My point was that she shouldn’t need to apologise for texting back the next day. I think it’s sad how some people feel the need to have constant contact and need to reply immediately.

How is that “nuts”?

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She didn’t feel she HAD to apologise. She just said a very casual ‘sorry, was asleep’ because she WANTED to. It’s her business, not yours, how she wants to chat to her boyfriend.

shivermetimbers77 · 09/06/2025 22:04

It’s a perfectly nice and normal reply from him. Can’t see the issue here.

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:06

DontTouchRoach · 09/06/2025 22:03

She didn’t feel she HAD to apologise. She just said a very casual ‘sorry, was asleep’ because she WANTED to. It’s her business, not yours, how she wants to chat to her boyfriend.

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Calm down dear. 😂

DontTouchRoach · 09/06/2025 22:07

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:01

I’ve never apologised for “replying late” when texting someone back in casual conversation the next day.

Not sure how you can compare that to forgetting someone’s birthday though.

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Just because you’ve never done it, that doesn’t mean it’s weird or wrong. Different people have different preferences in how they communicate. It’s not up to you to set the benchmark. You do your thing and let other people do theirs.

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:07

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 22:03

It's comparable as it's a natural reaction. Do you hesitate before you ever apologise and analyse whether you should do or not, over something so transactional?

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It’s not comparable.

DontTouchRoach · 09/06/2025 22:08

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:06

Calm down dear. 😂

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Straight in there with the preferred riposte of thick misogynists, I see

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 22:09

xPenelopePitstop · 09/06/2025 22:07

It’s not comparable.

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Well given some of your rude responses, it's understandable you think that.

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