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NHS refusing treatment to child who attends private school.

313 replies

floralcarpets · 09/06/2025 15:21

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

AIBU to think this is disgraceful? The mum is likely paying loads of tax which goes towards the NHS and pays for state schools, yet her child is this treatment which they sound like they desperately need.

Outrage as boy, 8, refused NHS treatment 'for going to private school'

Mother blames Labour's VAT raid on private school fees for emboldening the NHS to deny her son help with his crippling joint condition

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

OP posts:
ghostyslovesheets · 09/06/2025 17:48

Such a non story! She can’t access a commissioned school service for state schools but she can access it via GP referral!

I work for a virtual school and we commission lots of services from our budget including mentoring, tuition, ed psych assessments, art/play therapy and more - it’s only for OUR kids even though they will be in state schools.

Bananafofana · 09/06/2025 17:49

Bananafofana · 09/06/2025 17:40

I’m glad the issue is getting publicity. It’s not a new thing - 10 years ago my dd no longer could get her teacher of the deaf (a council post for children with a variety of forms of deafness) visits once she turned 5 because she was at a private school. Nor could her OT or SALT visit her in school. We had to pay privately for OT and SALT but teacher of the deaf is not something you can access privately; I took it to my (Labour) MP who couldn’t care less.

We could have got the visits if we had an EHCP but the wait list for our borough was 2 years and they rejected 90%. We didn’t have the mental capacity to cope with that and spent what we would have spent on an education lawyer on paying for the private intervention.

No, we could not go to our GP. Or rather we did, and they said nothing to do with them - all the responsibility of the council’s children’s services department who arranged specialist services via the councils schools.

We’re solicitors and checked the regs - they were right, completely stitched up. Thought of retraining as a specialist education lawyer but I think I’d find it too frustrating.

Bananafofana · 09/06/2025 17:50

Oh dear - that was supposed to quote the poster who said we could have gone to our GP (not quote my own post!)

CoffeeCup14 · 09/06/2025 17:52

OT services are not all the same. You can access OT through CAHMS if it would be useful. But you'd only get this if you were open to CAHMS and it was felt to be beneficial. If you needed OT for a different reason, you'd get it via a different route and it would address different issues.

Commissioned services can feel very unfair. A mental health charity could be commissioned to provide targeted support. So if you live in a particular post-code area, you might get fast-tracked over someone with equal need but a different post-code. The agreements are very specific about what services are being delivered and who to.

Kirbert2 · 09/06/2025 17:53

FairKoala · 09/06/2025 17:41

What about those who have to Home Educate because otherwise the children would receive no education

When my son got tutored at home, he received OT and physio at home too. This was because he wasn't quite well enough to be in school after a hospital stay though, not because he was home educated.

LBFseBrom · 09/06/2025 17:54

I think it's outrageous. Presumably the parents pay tax, contribute to the NHS so the family is entitled to treatment the same as anyone else.

feelingbleh · 09/06/2025 17:54

Yabu for only reading the headline and not the article and then spreading misinformation online

Londonmummy66 · 09/06/2025 17:55

This is not a new thing. My DD was able to access clinic based help for dyspraxia but the OT wouldn't do a school visit as she was at a private school and this was about 15 years ago.

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 17:56

LBFseBrom · 09/06/2025 17:54

I think it's outrageous. Presumably the parents pay tax, contribute to the NHS so the family is entitled to treatment the same as anyone else.

Which they can access via their GP

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 17:58

LBFseBrom · 09/06/2025 17:54

I think it's outrageous. Presumably the parents pay tax, contribute to the NHS so the family is entitled to treatment the same as anyone else.

`they are but only via NHS provided services, not through LEA provided services

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 17:59

Bananafofana · 09/06/2025 17:49

No, we could not go to our GP. Or rather we did, and they said nothing to do with them - all the responsibility of the council’s children’s services department who arranged specialist services via the councils schools.

We’re solicitors and checked the regs - they were right, completely stitched up. Thought of retraining as a specialist education lawyer but I think I’d find it too frustrating.

https://www.nhs.uk/tests-and-treatments/occupational-therapy/

Yiu should have gone to a different GP

Kirbert2 · 09/06/2025 17:59

LBFseBrom · 09/06/2025 17:54

I think it's outrageous. Presumably the parents pay tax, contribute to the NHS so the family is entitled to treatment the same as anyone else.

They need to go through the NHS such as a referral from their GP as they have opted out of their LA providing anything for their child and they can't have it both ways.

cardibach · 09/06/2025 18:02

I’ve asked MN to edit the title, OP. It’s so misleading as to amount to misinformation. Nobody is being denied NHS treatment, as your linked article clearly says, but people are still joining the thread thinking they are.

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 18:04

The LEA is not responsible for privately educated pupils, hence they have to pay.

LEAs are not responsible for the education of privately or home educated pupils. They are still responsible for the children in other respects including child protection, providing young carer services to any young carers in private school, immunisations, public health services, library services…. And the NHS have a duty towards all children.

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 18:05

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 18:04

The LEA is not responsible for privately educated pupils, hence they have to pay.

LEAs are not responsible for the education of privately or home educated pupils. They are still responsible for the children in other respects including child protection, providing young carer services to any young carers in private school, immunisations, public health services, library services…. And the NHS have a duty towards all children.

Which they can access via their GP

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 18:05

Kirbert2 · 09/06/2025 17:59

They need to go through the NHS such as a referral from their GP as they have opted out of their LA providing anything for their child and they can't have it both ways.

No, they have opted out of the LEA providing education for their child.

Horserider5678 · 09/06/2025 18:05

floralcarpets · 09/06/2025 15:21

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

AIBU to think this is disgraceful? The mum is likely paying loads of tax which goes towards the NHS and pays for state schools, yet her child is this treatment which they sound like they desperately need.

No the child hasn’t!. OT is only available in schools to children that have EHCP’s which this child doesn’t. He was referred to the school service which won’t see him without one! With the correct referral he will be seen! This is the most badly reported story as it’s only half a story but don’t let that spoil your narrative!

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 18:05

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 18:05

Which they can access via their GP

Library services?

Kirbert2 · 09/06/2025 18:08

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 18:05

No, they have opted out of the LEA providing education for their child.

The services also can include OT, physio etc but only at state schools which they have opted out of.

Her son can still have OT, it will just have to be a different way because they have opted out of it.

feelingbleh · 09/06/2025 18:14

LBFseBrom · 09/06/2025 17:54

I think it's outrageous. Presumably the parents pay tax, contribute to the NHS so the family is entitled to treatment the same as anyone else.

I can't believe how outraged you became from reading a title and believing it this is how misinformation gets spread around

Soontobe60 · 09/06/2025 18:21

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:39

If my child needed SALT how would they access it without me paying though?

You can be referred to SALT via your GP and if takennon caseload would be seen in clinic. We gave children with EHCPs in school who have a termly visit funded via their EHCP

JustSawJohnny · 09/06/2025 18:24

It's OT, FFS. Hardly emergency brain surgery 🙄

ScholesPanda · 09/06/2025 18:32

I was going to use the example of a school library and say "you wouldn't expect the LEA to provide the school library at a private school." But apparently there is a PP who does expect that.

You pays your money, you takes your choice- there are often little extras not included in school fees that you have to pay for. You've opted out of LEA services, so I don't see why anyone would think they can opt back to little bits that suit them.

SpidersAreShitheads · 09/06/2025 18:32

Good god.

This thread is like cancel the cheque all over again.

PilotFish · 09/06/2025 18:38

Today’s friendly reminder that newspapers (of all ilks) twist stories to fit their narrative and people should read the facts before becoming outraged…

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