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To ask if you still send cards?

68 replies

sweeneytoddsrazor · 07/06/2025 17:43

Firstly let me say I am totally not bothered about birthday/Xmas cards, but I do like a Mothers day card and I very much appreciated the sympathy cards when experiencing the loss of a parent.
So earlier this week it was my birthday. Had a lovely day, lots of nice presents, but only 1 card. Lots of people said happy birthday in person and lots of SM posts which was nice. I can easily see how the cost of stamps and the thought of all those cards ending up in landfill puts people off sending them. So do you still send them or is it dieing out and card shops, Hallmark and so on will eventually disappear?

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ThatNimblePeer · 07/06/2025 17:44

Do cards end up in landfill? They’re paper, surely they’re recyclable?

Violinist64 · 07/06/2025 17:47

I am almost certainly in your parents' generation so I buy and send cards for relevant occasions - l posted one this very afternoon for a friend's birthday next week. I think a row of birthday cards on the mantelpiece looks very cheerful. My family and friends also send and receive cards.

Screamingabdabz · 07/06/2025 17:52

We have several card shops near us and they’re always busy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/06/2025 17:52

I honestly don't remember the last time I sent anyone a card for anything.

CallMeFlo · 07/06/2025 17:54

I send my Mum, Brother., SIL & nieces birthday cards and Christmas cards

Ill send engagement, new house, sympathy, graduation cards as appropriate but I dont send any other birthday o Christmas cards

DisplayPurposesOnly · 07/06/2025 17:56

Yep, still send Christmas (c30) and birthday cards (family and close friends). Sent a sympathy card this week.

PowerhouseOfTheCell · 07/06/2025 17:59

I haven't sent one by post in my whole adult life, I'll get one if I know I'm seeing the person around/on their birthday, but otherwise, they just get a text

PennyInATizzyAgain · 07/06/2025 18:00

Cards can be lovely but they belong to an age before texts and social media and when you weren't going to be able to say happy birthday or happy christmas etc in person/.

your birthday was acknowledged so perhaps they didn't think a card was needed? i usually send birthday gifts direct from amazon ebay or whatever online shop I buy them from, postage costs are so high these days. Often I can't afford to fork out for Moonpig on top of a gift, so they just get a gift and a phone call or text . It does make me feel tight, but its a gift or card now not both, and if do see them in person to celebrate than a card isn't needed.

chipshopElvis · 07/06/2025 18:00

Yes, I give and send lots of cards.

TheDogDecides · 07/06/2025 18:01

I haven’t sent a card for about 10 years now. Even then it was just one to an elderly relative who I knew they meant a lot to. None of my friends or family send card. They definitely seem to be dying out. We do send a text and gifts though.

RollerSkateLikePeggy · 07/06/2025 18:02

I still send cards to the closest of my family for birthdays. Loads at Christmas. I'd certainly send a sympathy card not a text unless I literally had no idea what their address was (perhaps a colleague).

ginasevern · 07/06/2025 18:04

Yes, I still send cards. A card landing on your doormat with a personal message inside is still a lovely and uplifting thing. It takes time to choose a suitable card, write a message and get it posted. Way more thought and effort than a text. Sometimes they're nice to keep too. I still have some birthday cards from my childhood (parents long since dead). No text message could ever replace that. Also, cards can be recycled.

Teajenny7 · 07/06/2025 18:04

I like sending and receiving cards. My daughter makes most of the cards birthday cards I send.

I tend to buy charity cards for Christmas. I also make donations to other charities at Christmas.

I always make sure I have a card for the neighbours and hand deliver them. I knock on the door of those neighbours who are on their own at Christmas for a chat and home home made cookies.
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Funny the one I don't like is Mothers/Fathers Day cards. Those I refer to as Hallmark Days.

I don't open E cards as twice they have been blocked as they had viruses.
When I have opened them I just get loads of spam.

I do like a birthday card.

5foot5 · 07/06/2025 18:06

I still send cards.

Family birthdays require cards, that includes siblings and in-laws.

We send Christmas cards too, although not as many as we used to. This is partly because we are both now retired so don't need to send to colleagues and partly because some of our older relatives have died off! We must still send around 40 at least. Not all of them are posted but a good few are and I definitely wince at the price of even 2nd class postage.

On holiday we usually send postcards to DD and elderly FIL.

melisma · 07/06/2025 18:16

Yes, I still send birthday cards regularly and receive a few too, so I don't think I'm unusual amongst my family and friends. I love seeing them lined up when there's a birthday in the house. I buy a stack of them from here https://whistlefish.com, £10 for 10, and then I always have one ready to go. I buy and send charity cards at Christmas and would always send a card for sympathy, new home, new baby etc.

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L00pyLou · 07/06/2025 18:18

Yes, I do, to friends & family who don't live near me. I think cards carry more meaning now we're so digital so it's a thoughtful way to show my loved ones - especially at busy times, like Christmas - that they mean enough to me to go to the trouble.

Meadowfinch · 07/06/2025 18:19

To elderly rellies, yes. Other people, no.

Ddakji · 07/06/2025 18:21

I’m 53 and I love sending cards. I love receiving them though but virtually no one sends them.

Seeing some cards on the mantelpiece can make you feel less alone.

3quentNameChanger · 07/06/2025 18:22

I still send cards and enjoy receiving them.

L00pyLou · 07/06/2025 18:23

Ddakji · 07/06/2025 18:21

I’m 53 and I love sending cards. I love receiving them though but virtually no one sends them.

Seeing some cards on the mantelpiece can make you feel less alone.

Precisely the reason why I send them x

L00pyLou · 07/06/2025 18:24

ThatNimblePeer · 07/06/2025 17:44

Do cards end up in landfill? They’re paper, surely they’re recyclable?

Depends what's on them..those which are foiled or glittered may not be recyclable.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 07/06/2025 18:27

Had completely forgotten about postcards. Cannot remember the last time I sent or received one. I do remember when we were kids my Nan always came on holidays with us and her and Mum used to argue about which ones to send. Mum liked the scenic ones but Nan thought the smutty ones were far more fun.

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BarbieKew · 07/06/2025 18:34

Oh I miss postcards too, I loved sending and receiving them!

I physically post maybe 10 birthday cards a year, and give them in person to people who I see for their birthday. I’ve culled my Xmas card list down to less than 10 (different people, weirdly) mainly older relatives and godparents.

Ruggerlass · 07/06/2025 18:39

It depends on the occasion. Special Birthdays etc yes. Normally just do e-cards otherwise. Christmas cards to family only,

socialdilemmawhattodo · 07/06/2025 18:40

I send birthdays to close family and friends, or give them if I am seeing them. I also send sympathy/ new house/ new baby/congratulation cards. I don't send anniversary cards. I am cutting down for Xmas, close friends and family only for postage, and have just dropped the cousins. I still give cards to local neighbours and friends.

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