Would you find this a bit insensitive?

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If a colleague was talking to another colleague who she knows is struggling with her weight and has been feeling insecure about it but said ''I ordered a dress and it didn't fit well because it was a size 8 and not a size 6''?

Not really, no. She was talking about how awkward it is finding the right size. Something most women struggle with. She ordered a size 8 when she's usually a 6, presumably because of the material or the fit of the dress. I'm sure the colleague with the weight issue has had similar problems when ordering clothes online where sizes are bigger or smaller than you expect.

Not at all, people are different sizes. It's not insensitive to mention a dress size, surely it's obvious roughly what size she is.

No. She's talking about her experience. Nothing insensitive about it.

Not at all.

A bit - it's perfectly possible to make that type of comment without saying the actual sizes

No, it wasn't insensitive.

How is it insensitive to say a dress didn’t fit because it wasn’t the correct size?

Only "insensitive' because they're small sizes...

Of course it's not insensitive.

The world doesn't stop turning for other people.

Not insensitive, no. Normal . ie not “ protecting” a larger person from the fact that the smaller person takes a smaller size in clothing.

It sounds rather insensitive to me.
I'm slim and would not tell someone I knew struggled with their weight that the size 8 was too big, as I don't think it would make the larger person feel good.

I think it depends how it's said.

"I ordered a 6 and got an 8, how annoying, I'll have to send it back" - fine.

"I ordered an 8 and ohmyyyygoooood it was huuuuuuge, honestly I didn't think I was a SIX but maybe I am only a SIX because an EIGHT WAS HUGE ON ME in fact MAYbe I'm only A FOUR, doesn't everyone else find that an EIGHT IS HUGE ON THEM too, seriously every time I've ordered an eight recently it's turned out to be a marquee that should fit any fat bifta under the sun, what's even happening with dress sizes these days <tinkly laugh>" - don't be a bellend.

Yes it’s insensitive and stealth boasting. No need to state actual the sizes. Just say, one was too big.

Yes maybe this is what OP is trying to get at. I don’t get this type of sensitivity because we all know the general size of someone just by looking at them. I’m sure it wasn’t a shock to OP that the colleague is slim.

I'm a very long way from 6/8 and it wouldn't bother me. Finding things that fit well and don't make your bank account beg for mercy is a problem for women across the size spectrum. I don't expect other people to hide their tiny waistlines from me and I don't attempt to conceal my education, or the other things I've got going for me from them. What on earth for?

Are you posting this because you’re above those sizes and have taken offence for that reason? Every persons weight is their own issue. Maybe she doesn’t connect what she’s said with the weight and size you are because that’s not her problem? That would be you judging her on her size, certainly not the other way around as she hasn’t commented on yours. People are allowed freedom of speech. Unless she’s acutely aware of your size and that you’re not happy with it, then you might have a point to feel offended. If so, I wouldn’t bother with her again.

If I was the size 6/8 colleague, I wouldn't have said that to someone struggling with their weight. I would find it insensitive.

She`s talking about her self.
So many people now take offence to anything now days its ridiculous.

If one can complain about losing weight, the other can complain about clothes sizes.

Not insensitive at all. It’s just normal chat.

If someone was upset by this, then they would be being over sensitive.

Not insensitive at all.

No

Yeah I agree with this. Doesn't matter what size you are, ordering or ending up with the wrong size is annoying.

Making a big song and dance about it to drive home the point that you are really slim to someone who is overweight is a dick move though.

Life is a lot easier if you try not to be of offended by everything. Trust me!!

I’m quite a chubber myself and I wouldn’t be offended. Why should smaller people be forced to hide their dress size just because I would feel embarrassed to disclose mine?