So my daughter has been going through what I’d say is bullying for the last year and a bit. Dd is currently in year 4 and is 9 and this has been going on since the middle of year 3.
the comments made by this girl to my daughter has had some racial elements too it, last year she randomly came up to my daughter in the playground and said “ your skin is so dark” and then ran off, another girl with this girl were laughing with each other and then came up to my daughter again and said “ you have so much hair on your body” and ran off laughing again. For context my daughter is Muslim, mixed English and Pakistani but she looks just more Pakistani, she has a darker skin colour and hair and eyes and thick very dark brown almost black hair so she naturally also has quite dark/thick hair on her arms and legs. My daughter only told me this last year after I caught her shaving her legs and arms in the bath and she’d cut herself on her ankle with the razor and she started crying and told me everything.
my daughter has told the teacher on many occasions, this girl will just come up to her randomly and just say mean things casually and walk off.
this girl and my daughter used to be best friends in nursery and reception and some of year 1, her mum used to smile and me and say hi and then a couple of years ago is when it all took a u-turn and the mum started giving me dirty looks and her daughter turned on my daughter and started being mean to her.
another comment this girl just made to my daughter in the middle of class was “ my mum doesn’t like your mum” and my daughter said my mum hasn’t done anything wrong and the girl just casually walked off and left my daughter upset.
i don’t even know the mum, we obviously see each other passing every morning and afternoon but have only ever had one very small conversation in nursery about her daughters birthday party but she’s always said good morning to me and smiled and then she just suddenly turned and so did her daughter.
shes done more along with another couple of girls in her group and my daughter has repeatedly gone to different teachers and reported this, so have I multiple occasions because nothing has been done and my daughter comes home crying.
we have bought a new house in a different area and my son is leaving tomorrow and starting at a new school on Monday in the new area, my daughter is currently 3rd on the waiting list for the same school but they said once my son physically starts the school on Monday they can hopefully move her up with sibling priority.
my daughter was just casually saying to her friend this afternoon that her brother is leaving tomorrow and going to a new school and this girl was listening in and started jumping up and down saying “ yay she’s leaving” my daughter said actually no I’m not and the girl said “owww” sarcastically with a sad face.
so the school have been told numerous times about this by myself and the daughter, she’s 3rd on a waiting list for another school and might never be able to move until secondary… what else can I do? Apparently I can’t appeal as the class is full.
would I be unreasonable to go up to this girls mum and ask her what her and her daughters problem is? And to tell her daughter that my daughter wants no trouble and just to be left alone? As I’ve said there has been some racial elements in all of this.
it’s just so sad, my dd is such a kind caring girl who likes and tries to be friends with everyone. She just wants to be left alone and so many teachers have let her down, the teachers have apparently spoke to the girl on each occasion but they’ve never got her parents involved and only threatened they would if they didn’t stop. Just don’t know what else is left, I just wish my daughter was leaving tomorrow too.