Hi all, I would really welcome some opinions on this situation.
Background - my friend is currently supporting her Mum through an illness (I won’t say what exactly as don’t want to be outing, but it is serious and has been ongoing for over a year now with no signs of improvement).
Her boyfriend has been making increasingly inappropriate comments to me over the course of the past 1-2 months. I’ve spoken to another of our friends about this and said I feel like I have to tell my friend. Other friend says I absolutely should not do this given what she is going through with her Mum’s illness and that I’d be really out of order if I was to do so as what he’s said isn’t ’that serious’.
A selection of his comments:
-Asking me whether I’ve ‘had my arse done’, when I said no he replied that my gym work must be paying off (I doubt it, I struggle to go more than twice a week)
-I had an ice cream in a cone when we were out at a park last weekend and he saw me eating it and said that I look like I’ve had a lot of practice of that
-We talked about what the nightlife was like when I was at Uni and he said he bet I can memorise what my bedroom ceiling looked like
-Said to me privately that if both him and I were single in another life, he thinks we’d definitely get together
I have told him at least twice that his comments are making me uncomfortable and that I don’t think his partner would appreciate them. Naturally, my next step would be telling my friend as if want to know if my own partner was saying these things.
Do you think I should say something or is my friends advice reasonable?