To be concerned that my friends 7 year old is having trouble reading my DD's books

[milliec]

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None of your business, YABU

Keep your beak out

Just because he isn't reading yet doesn't mean to say he isn't doing really well at school. Perhaps your friend is aware and has decided not to inform you?

Surely his mother would know about his reading ability, as she will read with him?
Perhaps he was embarrassed to read out loud?

I bet he can read it, I expect he was bored to tears.

.......or guessed you were testing him (come on, you know you were!).

tricky one. depends on what the school are monitoring, what they consider good progress and so forth. also depends on whether you suspect he is dyslexic but undiagnosed, or just behind where you think he ought to be. can you very tactfully talk about your dd and ask them as parents of older child what to expect and when?

yabu

Unless you are a teacher/otherwise qualified to assess children's reading YABU. Extremely unlikely imho that a school will be misleading his parent.

Boys often read later than girls. My brother couldn't read at all until he was 7. Just didn't get it. He has just completed his PhD...

And your dd is doing amazingly well to be reading at 2.7 - you maybe need to bear in mind that she is unusual.

Nooooooo! keep beak out. The school and the parents are the only people concerned here. If my child DID have trouble reading, I would be unbelieveably hacked off to hear a mate say (in essence), 'your seven year old can't read as well as my two year old'. Are you sure you don't just want a teeny boast about your advanced two year old?

YABU

and a competitive parent

"DD is 2+7 and trying to read the very early level Peter and Jane books. Understandably she is having trouble but she keeps battling away and she knows a
few words." . I bet she doesn't, I bet she's just remembering the words.

I think this post is an example of competitive parenting at its greatest. Why else would you feel the need to inform us that your 2.7 yo dd was "trying to read" and "knows a few words" while pointing out that this child couldn't read?

yabu btw.

at Wilf

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YABU
he could be a genius with dyslexia - for example.
Seriously none of your business.

Peter and Jane are incredibly boring!!!! Amazed you can still get them. When I met DH, his elder daughter was 8 and he had bought her P&J. I chucked them out (she was very grateful , and bought OLT series. She LOVED them, as did her younger sister, and latterly our two boys.
DSD and I chuckle sometimes over how we bonded over Floppy and Chip ( she wanted to marry Chip - will remind her on her wedding day ).

If you were cooking tea how d'you know he couldn't read it?

millie, I think he was probably just a bit unenthusiastic about reading a Peter and Jane book with a 2 yo, tbh.

Oh, now I'm getting childish.

I'm off.

Why is your 2.7 year old trying to read? My dd goes to a selective school. At 4.8, she is not asked to look at anything close to a Peter & Jane book.

First the Peter and Jane books are non-phomic and may include words that can not be sounded out - not great if the boy is working through phonics (as recoemmended in all state schools). Many are not particularly familiar words either.

You are coming across as very competitive. Lovely that your 2y is taking an interest in words and reading. But remember that not all children are the same and some are different strengths to thers, and not all are related to academic subject areas.

There is probably nothing wrong at all with this little boys' reading, just he may be working a bit slower right now. It will kick in at some point - there is no rush. Leave him alone.

How do you know how well he is really doing in school? How do you know he is not reaching all the targets that have set for him as an individual child? Maybe he isn't top of class for reading, but how about hsi maths, schiece, IT, writing, comprehnsion, PE, etc?

He could also have just not been wanting to read, rather than unable. All childre go through those phases - even fab readers!

It is for his mum to worry, not you, about what his school is doing.

ditto blueshoes. And actually the very first thing the pre-prep teacher said at our first class meeting was "please please please do NOT start your child reading"

My ds1 was reading Peter and Jane at 2.7 and at 5 was reading at the level of an 8 year old. Unfortunately he has ADD and is underperforming at school. His friends who liked colouring are doing much better.

Yargh! your dd can read at 2.7?! (feeling a tad inadaquete with 4 yr old that can't even recognize all of her alphabet) I applaude you and your dd, but i do think YABU to judge other peoples reading ability. He could be doing very well at school- as others have said and perhaps he was just bored at reading such simple books. Or maybe he is finding reading hard work. Either way i really don't think it's your job to be concerned..sorry.