AIBU to get DH to remove neighbour’s shite from our skip or ask they to pay?

[MadderHatter]

I’m honestly so annoyed with myself for not going out there in person when they were putting their stuff in. I was too much of a wimp and I don’t like confrontation.

The same bloody thing happened a couple of years ago but I think this time is a pisstake. We’re having an extension built and have had a couple of skips on my drive. I cover it on an evening once the builders have left for the day.

Yesterday NDN asked if they could dismantle a small cupboard and add it in. I agreed and saw their son wiggle the boards along into the side of the skip. No problem as hardly noticeable. This afternoon I see the husband and son take off the cover of the skip and add two chairs (not dismantled so taking up space) an old adult bike and what looks like two stone planters.

I checked with DH in case he’d said it was ok for them to add more things. He said no, but it’s no big deal because we’ll need to get another skip anyway. I thinks it’s not the point as we’ve got stuff in the loft we need to get rid of and could use to take up the space. The skip costs £450 each time. I think NDN is a cheeky fecker and should have asked before adding more stuff or should at least offer to contribute. AIBU?

£450?! You've been robbed

Not unreasonable, I’d ask them to remove it.

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I'd be dumping their crap on their doorstep!

We got one last year for £100. Must be xxxl.

It’s for a large skip. Would have been less if we paid cash, but didn’t have that much in the house when they delivered it.

Just go round and say "oh sorry for the confusion, the other stuff is taking up too much space. I've put it back on your drive".

Absolutely not unreasonable. Madness in fact after they asked for one small cupboard then just went crazy with so many other bits?!

Cheeky sods. Tell them outright: what they’ve been adding far exceeds what you gave them permission to do. As they’ve now put too much in they need to remove it as you need to be sure that there’s room for your own stuff without exceeding the skip capacity agreed with the hire company. Only let them add stuff if there’s space after yours is all in, the CFs!!!!

Why can't you put it back on their doorstep if you're the one that's (understandably) pissed off ' & DH isn't. It seems a bit mean
making him do it when he's not bothered( unless you physically can't)

Not a hill worth dying on in the grand scheme of things.

Is it genuinely going to be so full that you can't put your excess stuff in - this skip or the next? If this is the case, then just tell them so.

Take it out the skip and put it on their doorstep, ring the bell then tell them you agreed to a small cupboard only and not this and they are taking the piss! Tell them how much it’s costing YOU for a skip and ask them if they want to contribute half of the ££ then they can put their bike and chairs in but otherwise NO!

I’d need DH to help me climb into the skip but he doesn’t need me to help him in. He could do it relatively swiftly, whereas I couldn’t as I’m way too short.

I really do think returning it is my preferred option, if only as a stand against their taking the piss. But despite my annoyance it does feel perhaps a bit petty.

If it's something that could escalate, is it really worth it. Why don't you just be clear no more stuff goes in there from now on, rather than taking their stuff out.

I’ve been speaking about it on the phone to my sister and DH thinks I’m going a bit too much. DH is now saying that he’ll mention it to them tomorrow and ask which they want to do - either remove it or contribute £30.

I’m ok with that.

Did you read the part where they will need to pay another £450 for a new skip?. I would absolutely die on this hill. You are either loaded or you have no backbone

Why is it DH's job to confront them when you'd been the wimp?

They've got to hire a new skip anyway. I've certainly got a backbone but experience has taught me to let some things go rather than it blowing up. The OPs still got to live next door to them long after skip's gone. They are CFs, of course they are.

It’s not his job, but he knows I’m a wimp - and him going will save him the earache from me 😂

But you can still deal with this reasonably by calmly informing cf neighbours that unfortunately the skip can't take the extra items due to cost. Do they want to go halves on a new skip or do they wish to remove the additional items instead? Going nuclear and alienating the neighbours ( though understandable), isn't the only option

£30 when you're paying so much? No way. Tell them to get it out of the skip immediately.

Fair enough. Depends on how reasonable they are going to be.

He just needs to say sorry but the skip was expensive and you’ve still got a lot needing to go in, so remove them and he will let them know at end if space.

I think you’re being unreasonable expecting your husband to sort this out when you did nothing when you saw your neighbours putting the extra stuff in the skip.