I was evicted from a WhatsApp group with grown women!

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I feel like a bloody child. Big group of women, 15 of us. Met online but had met a few of the women IRL. Can’t think of anything I’ve done to offend anyone. We chatted every day then out of the blue, three of us just got chucked out. No conversation, no explanation. I really valued their friendship too.

I had a phase where all my whatsapp messages would pop up in a bunch every few days.

You must have antagonised them at some point and you don't even remember when.

Sadly a lot of women behave this way ..no explanation tbh whenever I have broached a subject with a friend about something I’m upset about it’s often met with defensiveness and denial.yes they should have spoke to you it’s crap not knowing what ‘you’ve done ‘

Set up another whatsapp group with a similar name, invite all the people in the other group and see who declines.

Always drama in big groups.. can you ask admin why. Was there a fallout?

Why are you "laughing out loud" at somebody who is obviously upset?

Can you message one of the admins of the group privately and ask why? If you can't think of any comment that you've made that might have caused upset, it might just be a mistake?

I cringe inside out for grown women that tell other grown women to ‘use their words!’

I'm an admin in a women's group. There are 18 of us. Around 8 of us are admins. We are all except 2 becoming good friends - very active - we have regular book club and walking club and almost every week there's a festival, weekend away, theatre, cinema, disco etc. We would never kicked anyone's out without talking to.them. I doubt you'll get anywhere with your admin, but I would try to determine why they dont think your right for the group. They might have settled on a specific number of members and you didn't make the number cut. It sounds callous to me. I'd also get in touch with others who'd been kicked out abd see if the 3 of you can create a small group who can chat and maybe meet up.

Sending you a hug. It does not sound like they've been fair to you at all.

There’s a bug in WhatsApp that randomly removes people. I’ve seen it in several groups I’m in over the last month.

@NoVibrato I'm laughing at myself clearly

But surely it gets picked up on right away and the people re-added? When you’re in a WhatsApp group it says ‘Mary left the group’ etc. in the same area as the actual messages/chat.

It wasn’t you who posted about this previously and one of the women hitting on you was it? I can see if there was some tension of that sort, people might decide to no longer have certain people in the group. Though on the face of it, it doesn’t sound like you’ve done anything wrong.

Call it ‘Best Mums Groupchat’

This is a great idea Jessica Fletcher.

Yeah, me too. Awful, patronising turn of phrase.

But isn’t it being used somewhat ironically? It being a patronising phrase, using it to imply the recipient is perhaps not behaving like a grown-up? In order to nudge them into doing so?

Hoping you’re ok? Similar happened to me about five years ago. A few of us were having babies around the same time. I am a teacher and happened to defend teachers and Covid rules and one of them didn’t like it. I ran an errand and when I got back, I had been deleted from the what’s app group and blocked on social media. I was soo upset..

It would resolve half the threads posted on here, though!

Did it happen immediately after you became Pope?

Agreed, but this has the opposite effect I think - if you’re trying to patronise someone you really need to not embarrass yourself in the process, and ‘use your words’ is kind of twee… and overused.

Maybe talking something through would (although often not..) but ‘use your words’ just makes me cringe. I might not be right (I quite often don’t get it when people talk about other words that make them cringe that I’m fine with) but I can’t help it.

Yeah, that’s a totally proportionate response.

Surely if someone blocks you or throws you out of a group they are the ones not being grown up. Likewise if the reason they have is if you are 'not participating enough'. Like you should be on WhatsApp all day etc.

Agreed, we don't know why OP was chucked out of the group and some feel this might be a glitch of WhatsApp. It's possible to ask one of the group for an explanation but risk of a toxic type answer could deter OP.

Toxic answers always a risk on social media. Same with MN at times

Same.