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To not go to Vegas?

26 replies

Bluebluetuesday · 30/05/2025 21:36

DH has been invited to the wedding of an old school friend, I'm also invited.

The friend and his fiance live at the opposite end of the country and I've only met them once, they seem lovely.

I really don't want to go to their Vegas wedding. I've never fancied going, I'm really not a party person, and I don't want to leave the dc for a week, and I don't really want to spend the money either.

DH thinks I'm an absolute grump, but I think he'd have a better time without me, we're absolute chalk and cheese, he loves late nights and lots of alcohol, I'm a non drinking early bird. It works well at home as we are used to each other's ways, but I think I'd just be miserable and tired in Vegas.

Would you go to a destination wedding for people you've met once, somewhere you've no desire to visit?

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Twinstudy · 30/05/2025 21:38

Nope you're definitely not being at all unreasonable. As long as you're happy for dh to go alone then I don't think he's got much to complain about!

Wowzel · 30/05/2025 21:39

I loved Vegas but I can see why you might not be keen

sheknowsitstoolate · 30/05/2025 21:40

No I wouldn’t. He can obviously go but I’d stay at home.

Toootss · 30/05/2025 21:40

Don’t go-I found vegas pretty boring, big and brash but boring.

ConnieHeart · 30/05/2025 21:40

I wouldn't enjoy it either but my OH would love it! I've been to Vegas & it wasn't my sort of place

Secularbeaver · 30/05/2025 21:40

I thought I'd HATE Vegas. I reluctantly went for a friends wedding and loved it.
I've even been back sober (pregnant) and had the best time... we're even considering taking the kids! There's so much more to do than drinking and gambling.

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Bluebluetuesday · 30/05/2025 21:41

@Secularbeaver what did you like about it so much to change your mind?

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sweetkitty · 30/05/2025 21:44

No don’t go, it’s a lot of money for somewhere you might hate

Vegas was good not great the best part for me was visiting the Grand Canyon so technically not Vegas. I don’t really gamble, hated the casinos especially at night full of smokers (yuck) the whole strip stank of weed. I did enjoy parts of the Venetian and the Belago. The fountains at night were pretty. It was very busy too. We went in April when it was a pleasant 25 degrees couldn’t handle Summer.

Littletreefrog · 30/05/2025 21:45

I don't drink or like partying but had a great time in Vegas. We loved visiting the hotels, going on the rides, watching the fountains, we saw a magic show, ate in the revolving restaurant and weren't on a trip to a ranch and the Grand Canyon.

BUT unless you are happy doing these things alone or can trust DH not the spend most of the time out drinking/partying/in bed with a hangover it's probably not for you.

Also if you don't want to leave the kids then it's a long way away from them and I've definitely ruined one holiday for myself by spending the whole time worrying about being so far away from the kids.

Clearinguptheclutter · 30/05/2025 21:48

Nah I wouldn’t go
presumably it would be hard to get childcare for the the DCs so that’s an easy excuse to have ready
as long as you’re happy for dh to go and you get another holiday (bonus if it’s with friends and dh looks after the DCs), this is a non-issue

bumblebeedum · 30/05/2025 21:48

Secularbeaver · 30/05/2025 21:40

I thought I'd HATE Vegas. I reluctantly went for a friends wedding and loved it.
I've even been back sober (pregnant) and had the best time... we're even considering taking the kids! There's so much more to do than drinking and gambling.

Edited

I can second this, I only went (also reluctantly) for a close friends wedding, had the best time ever and have been back twice since.

Whoseaspangle · 30/05/2025 21:48

If you DH thinks you are " a grump" for not wanting to go perhaps it's because he would actually prefer to be at the wedding/ enjoy Vegas with his wife, rather than going there alone.
I'm not a party person but I think this is one of those things where going as a couple would be the thing to do.

Secularbeaver · 30/05/2025 21:51

Bluebluetuesday · 30/05/2025 21:41

@Secularbeaver what did you like about it so much to change your mind?

There was just so much to do - outside of the clubs and drinking (and I spent one dollar I found on the floor gambling) - I loved the shows which were frankly amazing, I went for a little trek at the red rock canyon, underrated imo. People watching was a day in itself!
There is some fantastic places to eat, and I don't mean giant heart attack burgers although these are available, there's some real nice restaurants. There was a flower show in Caesars palace that was so beautiful and just the hotels themselves were great. The live music in downtown was right up my street.

Embarrassinglyuseless · 30/05/2025 22:15

Secularbeaver · 30/05/2025 21:40

I thought I'd HATE Vegas. I reluctantly went for a friends wedding and loved it.
I've even been back sober (pregnant) and had the best time... we're even considering taking the kids! There's so much more to do than drinking and gambling.

Edited

This! I love vegas… I’m typically a city breaks and art kinda holiday-er - so I was surprised by just how much a loved it. There’s SO much to do in terms of shows + activities - or desert hiking near by if that’s your jam!

I’m not a massive drinker - but I love how the oxygen pumped into the casinos gives you an energy boost. I love wondering round all the mad hotels and eating wild food and people watching.

i’d take a child free break, even if you have some earlier nights and get up to explore while it’s cooler - I think you’ll still have a blast if you go!

or don’t! But don’t write it off completely without until you’ve thought about it!

ThisPithyJoker · 30/05/2025 22:17

I went for a tech conference thinking I'd hate it. It was incredible. Mad, very American and quite overwhelming but like nowhere else I've ever been. So glad I went. I've been back on holiday since because it haunted me in a strange way. It's a really unique experience.

readingmytealeaves · 30/05/2025 22:25

If you enjoy hiking Red Rock Canyon is very close and is wonderful. Could be very hot though depending on the time of year the wedding is.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 30/05/2025 22:26

I hated las Vegas. Couldn't wait to leave.

Panterusblackish · 30/05/2025 22:30

I've been twice and honestly I really dislike vegas itself.

Everywhere stinks of weed, the casinos are smoky, depressing and full of sad eyed unsmiling zombies sat feeding dollar bills into fruit machines and the least classy wedding parties you can possibly imagine.

We only visited the second time because it provided a natural break on our journey and we thought a few days of sun by a polo would be nice. Of course it rained non stop and was cold.

It's so soulless and trashy that I now genuinely think less of people that say they love it. Maybe that's judgemental but drinking, smoking weed, enriching MGM whilst trying to dodge the g string and feather clad women trying to get you to pay for a photo with them or stepping over homeless people just isn't my thing.

The area around vegas is stunning of course.

NoSoupForU · 30/05/2025 22:33

I've been a few times for various things and it was ok. I tend to find that I generally dislike the typical touristy places in the US though as the vibe just isn't for me and I don't like the business of everything.

There are some great places to visit around Vegas though, and a week in Vegas seems really long to me so you'd have plenty of time to do other things.

Denimrules · 30/05/2025 22:38

I only went because it was part of a coach tour trip I took in my 20s. It wasn't that bad. Best hotel stopover with comfy bed etc. Show was part of the organised trip. It was probs the least interesting thing on the trip, but it was more than ok

Goalie55 · 30/05/2025 22:46

Id love to go for 48 hours just to see it. I’ve had non drinking friends who went and enjoyed it.

However if DH wants to do different things it’s pointless anyway unless you want to do it all alone. That’s the issue. He’s better off going without you.

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Bluebluetuesday · 31/05/2025 07:37

I'd happily go on say a work conference (on someone else's money 😆), and I'd find things to do, maybe see a show, look at the fountains and the wild hotels etc.

But to go on this trip and DH feel a bit obligated to do what I want to do would just leave us both a bit disappointed, he'd be better going and having a blow out with his old mates, and I'd be owed a guilt free weekend away of my choosing at some point with friends, win win.

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londongirl12 · 31/05/2025 08:05

The constant smell of cannabis put me right off ever going back.

Ladyzfactor · 31/05/2025 08:18

I'm American and have been a few times. It is a lot of fun and there's loads to do that's not gambling. The area around there does have beautiful scenery if that's something you're interested in. I also had the some of the best food of my life there. However after 4 days it all gets a bit old.

jeaux90 · 31/05/2025 08:24

I’ve been to Vegas many times. I have to go every year for work. I love it. So much to do, and some of the hotels are amazing.