Sick of everything being about identity

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Everything seems to be about identity nowadays in Britain. Ethnicity, gender, religion. AIBU? or is anyone else feeling this way? Is this this just life now? Makes me want to run off to Greece and live out the rest of my days in some remote mountain

Why do you imagine mountains in Greece are immune to issues relating to identity?

Bad day op?

get yourself out in the sun and get some fresh air!

It’s probably simpler just to mind your own business.

ps people have always been on about identity, decades of being proud to be British??

DH Greek. More sun. Less chaos

It doesnt feature at all In My life why are you this headspace

And does he have no identity? I mean, you describe him as Greek and male.

get off the internet and go outside (in the kindest way possible)

I agree. What happened to character?

My dd said she wants a pink swimming hat because all the other girls had yellow ones and she wanted to "express her identity". I told her that it's just a hat, if she wants a pink hat, fine, but it's nothing to do with identity. It's a hat.

I get it filling out a form for my 12 year old sen child "how do you identify" what does that have to do with anything?

Well we are living through a very odd time. I have colleagues who are only just removing they/them she/her from email signatures. We also had the Boriswave. I very much enjoy different cultures, but I don't think the frictions were properly accounted for and now we have to iron out the wrinkles which means we've got to live in a bumpy environment until its figured out, if it is figured out, or leave. I think it's very telling that so many millionaires have opted to leave Britain, my eldest and his gf are going to Dubai for better opportunities and apparently Poles are leaving the UK in record numbers. We're a country in decline and people can feel it. It doesn't help that there are frictions between different communities which is why when there's a large incident such as the Southport stabbing or the Liverpool car plowing you get lots of people from the left and right instantly speculating on race and motives. That's why I don't have social media accounts they've replaced the news and its too stressful

Greek is an identity, something you’re sick of…

Yes I've noticed younger generations hyper focused on identity

There are some people for whom the answer "I point at things and say their name" would be the correct and undistressing answer.

I know what you mean, OP. It's the sign of an individualistic society where people are increasingly disconnected and fearful of stepping outside their bubble, but at the same time (and probably for that very reason) desperate to define themselves by belonging to a tribe.

Aside from the fact that a remote spot is devoid of people, I find the identity obsession is an anglophone phenomenon. Sure you get some of it elsewhere, but not nearly as much.

How come you don’t live there then?
how come dh moved here?

Can we get examples op?

I agree. I find it myopic and unhealthily introspective. A society is healthier when it encourages people to take an interest beyond themselves by acquiring knowledge or developing skills and by valuing laudable dispositions in each other (like being caring, shoeing perseverance or tenacity).

Good luck there!

I generally find that people who think of things they don’t like as restricted to a particular culture or language have either not spent much time elsewhere or, if they have, just don’t speak the language or languages well enough to understand the issues in their new place.

It's the internets fault it makes us package ourselves like products like "I'm asexual, straight, a woman, half white coloniser, five undiagnosed mental illnesses, part time vegan, part time meat eater, Spiritual" Etc.

Things have changed radically. It's very very low status to care about actual identity, things that are real, sex, nationality, real religion, etc. It's seen as crude, small minded, not cool at best and at worse, considered very dangerous. What has taken off is people obsessing and imposing on other their obsession with identities that are not real, things that they are not. Or even made up ones entirely.

I can't say I recognise this at all, in fact I don't really know what you mean. What is everything? And about identity in what way?

I suspect it's the media you're exposing yourself to. Try reading/ watching/ listening to some better quality stuff

Yes, would love examples.