A tough one, I'd welcome some thoughts. We live abroad, a 13 hour flight from the UK, our choice and so far we have always done lots of traveling back and forth. I have an almost 7 month old son and work full time. DH is currently on holiday, fine, it's a week away planned a long time ago, I have no issue with it. I've just gone back to work from mat leave so I couldn't take the time off.
He's going again in August for a family thing which means another week away. Also fine, no problem with that, the event is not suitable for a 1 year old to tag along.
His friend is getting married on NYE which would mean I would be alone from Boxing Day until 3 Jan, even if DH only goes for a few days (2 days there, 2 days back of travelling). I can't go. The price of the tickets plus hotels for all 3 of us is ridiculous plus our son will be 15 months and he would probably be a nightmare on such a long flight. Not fair on him or anyone really. Childfree wedding anyway.
I had initially said probably fine but was chatting to my mum just now who is saying that's really not ok. He won't have enough leave for a family holiday this year because of these trips which means I will probably not get one as, let's face it, who wants to take a 1 year old on holiday by themselves, I'd rather stay home where I have childcare help and baby has a nice routine.
I will probably go on a weekend away in November with a friend but that's not comparable, is it? And i have no interest in holidaying alone just for the sake of it, I did enough of that when younger.
My mum says I'm underestimating how hard work baby will be at 15 months and how much I'll resent being completely alone with a toddler for the holidays. She thinks it's a recipe for resentment down the line and she said she's seeing him in a whole new light right now for even suggesting it.
It's too expensive for family to visit us then, they will come later in March actually.
I just don't know how I feel about it. If I say no, DH will stay but he will be gutted. But I also don't want to be a martyr and resent it.