Over 50s. Have you outgrown/got bored of anything?

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Mine is spas or spa days. I used to love them. Went to one recently and was so bored.

Dh and I camped (tent) recently and the place was so peaceful and beautiful I realised I enjoyed this much more than spa days or stays. The weather was good admittedly. But even so walking in the beautiful dales was so therapeutic. Also the wild swimming under waterfalls was blissful. Dh and I often camp but have found the best site. Cost less than £60 Inc electric hook up. First time we've used electric.

Dh and I walk lots. Loads of long distance walking. I also walk with friends. So it isn't a new realisation that I love the outdoors. Just a sudden realisation that spa days bore me now.

Have you outgrown anything? Or found a new love of something?

Good thread.
I'm not quite 50 but I've outgrown/got bored with:
any kind of socializing
going out in the evening
bitchy amateur music groups
watching Netflix/Prime etc. (most of it is total shite)
eating out (far too expensive and often shite)

And the biggest surprise to me is that I've got bored with day hikes.
I still love long distance hiking but I really can't be arsed with day hikes any more. I can't be arsed with packing my rucksack, preparing suitable food, driving somewhere, parking the bloody car and paying a fortune for the car park, hiking, dragging my sorry backside up some mountain just to have a picnic and then drag it all the way back down again, get back in the car, drive home and then have to empty the rucksack, sort out the remnants of the picnic, shower and get changed.
Nope. Sick of it.

Late nights. I still love having an active social life and as an old school raver I still love going out dancing but it’s day raves these days

Feeling that you must be at a party on New Year's Eve

Mmm have a few more years until I hit 50 and still love quite a few of these things.

Used to love shopping. Loved to make a proper day of it with my mum with coffees and lunches thrown in too. But all my favourite shops gave closed down and I HATE online shopping. Having to guess the size, wonder if the colour suits you or will look the same irl followed by the faff of having to return stuff and then realising you’ve missed the return date so are stuck with a load of crap you now have to put on Vinted for 50p does not hit the same. I love a charity shop but my locals are very Bon Marche t shirt for a tenner.

I guess I’m over life being so serious and dour. The COL crisis, never ending austerity, Covid and personal shit have all resulted in life being far from lighthearted and I’d welcome a return to a little frippery.

Super smart restaurants. My DH loves going to Michelin starred places but I find them too fussy and the food too rich. Usually feel sick by the end and sleep badly from overeating. Just want a healthy salad and a laugh, maybe a glass of wine

I live in the States where we pay an arm and a leg for dentist visits, especially if you don't have insurance, which I didn't for 20 years as I worked in restaurants which didn't offer it. So, I didn't go for two decades. When I finally got a job w/ dental benefits, I made an appointment w/ a dentist who did a cleaning. He said my teeth looked great (no cavities) and said, "You must floss." I don't. Just brush, especially after eating sugar, sticky treats.

Makes me wonder.

I don't know anyone who has NYE parties now.

The last one we went to was about 30 years ago. (I'm a lot older than 50.)

Office work. What a waste of a life that is.

Family self-catered holidays. I want comfort and luxury now and not to be worrying about washing-up or meals. If it's a short break for two then I'll be very happy with a top notch AirBnb.

Going out or alcohol on a work night. I want a good drama on telly, a cup of tea and a biscuit followed by my bed.

Looking after other people.

Parties. Though I never liked them much. I've just got to an age where I feel I can say so.

I think that happened to me about 1995 😂 in my mid twenties.

It’s heartening to read all those who now love walking. I used to love walking for miles I can’t be bothered with it now. I still do it for the sake of the dog. I like a destination walk with something at the end of it. I can’t be bothered with large scale ‘heavy’ gardening anymore. I have created and maintained three large gardens in my life. I have a very small new garden and looking forward to just pottering in that. I don’t like cooking anymore I do as little as possible. I would like to drink more alcohol and go on some nice holidays but a grumpy husband always spoils those plans😂. Might have to become a solo traveller/boozer. @MaryTheTurtle you did make me laugh about the lettuce and tomatoes. Life’s too short to eat stuff we don’t like.

I think I'd grown out of this when I hit 20 tbh. Most grotesquely over-rated phenomenon in the world.

Yes to Christmas. I find it tedious almost beyond belief. And I resent it - that insane pressure to SPEND and CONSUME. Every conceivable business seems to try and cash in on it, so they don't get left behind. NEW DINING ROOM FURNITURE FOR CHRISTMAS? WANT SPECIAL CHAIRS FOR ALL YOUR GUESTS? THERE'S STILL TIME! Do fuck off. I don't want or need new furniture for one day, and not everyone has a houseful of "guests".

On the other hand, the coming on spring will never get old. It gets more magical every year. This spring was particularly special.

Alcohol

Loving this thread!

Spa days I have hated for a good few years now. Sitting around in a damp swimsuit and paying over the odds for a shite massage? No thank you!

Also gone off clothes shopping and am just appreciating what I currently have, and wearing it all to death.

Still enjoy the odd evening out but I am very particular about what it is. ie a film I really want to see, a comedy night, a show, a meal at a restaurant that I already know is going to be good, otherwise, forget it.

Cannot tolerate alcohol more than a couple of drinks, but I am more than happy about that and look forward to getting something really nice and savouring it.

Totally over food shopping and cooking, but just order online and cook the same stuff on rotation. Hardly ever set foot in a supermarket now.

Used to love driving, now I tolerate it.

Only meet up with people I actually want to see...there aren't many of those left!! If people drone on and on I find passive listening harder and harder to bear; so exhausting.

I don't think I ever grew into that, to be honest. I tolerated a couple but really actually have always hated New Year's Eve. Probably because I am definitely NOT a party animal.

I have always hated spas and camping have been almost teetotal since my late 20s, but this year I have decided to give up paddle boarding, I am always worried about losing my glasses and it actually makes me feel a bit sea sick.
I love the outdoors especially gardens, coffee out with friends and any kind of dance class. I still quite enjoy shopping especially with DD

Parties, staying up late, people, especially men.

Definitely men. Even DH. I don’t think I know a single really, truly good man these days. Maybe I never did but was more tolerant/more interested in impressing them or being thought of as attractive.

I do however still love new music, gigs, theatre, spas, fashion, makeup, wine, eating out, cooking, cinema, and travel (although I am very over Economy flights but have no choice!) But prefer the company of my teens and other women doing all of those things!

Cakes, biscuits, fizzy drinks and crisps; I just don't like them anymore, even a little bit. I might eat a bit of homemade cake out of politeness, but I can definitely give it a pass. I still like dark chocolate though.

Alcohol. Don’t enjoy it any more and it just makes me feel tired and pretty awful, even after one drink.

Making polite small talk with people I have very little in common with.
‘Managing’ men who have big egos and lack emotional intelligence.
’Managing’ family members who are prone to be over emotional and melodramatic. I would rather stay at home with a cup of tea, and a good book.
And on a minor scale, expensive handbags, fragrances, jewellery etc

Todays' genre of music on the radio - it is so bland and none of the words can be understood. We never have the radio on at home but at work the radios go on for each sunbed. Have noticed a glut of TV adverts using really really catchy music from 70s and 80s - quite nostalgic really and decent stuff to listen to😊
Gone off shopping in general and will happily put off food shopping for days and days until I really need to fill the cupboards/freezer/fridge.
Rarely visit pubs now unless out for a meal. But for that matter rarely drink anyway!
Can't say I'm a fan of retirement either - really miss my colleagues and friends - we were all made redundant three years ago. But not up for full time working either now but pensions cushion the need to work and still have 2 years before state pension kicks in. My little job gets me out for six hours a week to give me a fix of humans to chat to but would love to change the radio to something decent - but not allowed!! 🙁
Hate the fact that I never get my house to myself as DH never goes out!!

Cooking. I used to really enjoy meal planning, new recipes etc, but COVID broke me, having to cater every single bloody meal at home for everyone. Added to that DH and DD are both a bit fussy, so it limits what I can cook that we'll all eat. Also I am desperately trying to lose weight, it would be so much easier if I was just cooking for me, rather than having stuff I shouldn't be eating to tempt me. I fantasise about being alone and living on the odd boiled egg and a bit of fruit, with no need to plan or cook anything.