Over 50s. Have you outgrown/got bored of anything?

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Mine is spas or spa days. I used to love them. Went to one recently and was so bored.

Dh and I camped (tent) recently and the place was so peaceful and beautiful I realised I enjoyed this much more than spa days or stays. The weather was good admittedly. But even so walking in the beautiful dales was so therapeutic. Also the wild swimming under waterfalls was blissful. Dh and I often camp but have found the best site. Cost less than £60 Inc electric hook up. First time we've used electric.

Dh and I walk lots. Loads of long distance walking. I also walk with friends. So it isn't a new realisation that I love the outdoors. Just a sudden realisation that spa days bore me now.

Have you outgrown anything? Or found a new love of something?

Spa days are great for relaxation. When your kids are grown you’re probably finding yourself relaxing more in everyday life so don’t need it as much.

My kids are young and I’d kill for a spa day!

Perfume. Used to love my designer scents. Stopped wearing them due to breastfeeding. Then couldn’t afford them due to childcare prices. Now really don’t get the whole thing (especially the exorbitant price!)

I just want peace and quiet. I would love a bungalow. If I stay with DH it is possible. When I come in from my morning job I don't go out unless the gym which I love. I hate the travel to a holiday (I have ibs) and the resultant ibs when I get there due to my fears about impaction (maybe this is anxiety related).

Ha! Me too. I always loved beautiful shoes and boots, lived in high heels and would bear quite a lot of pain to wear a gorgeous pair.

I’ve recently sold or given away dozens of them, because my response now to the thought of wearing anything even slightly uncomfortable is ‘fuck that!’. I’m just now trying to work out if I can get away with trainers for a wedding in the summer …

Cooking and work -
got so bored of both that when I turned 56, I gave them both up.
My husband retired at 55 and it bugged the hell out of me that I had to keep working.
My pension is shit and will always be shit so I decided why wait. I was always going to be relying on my husbands pension - yes I know this is a cardinal sin here on mumsnet 🙄 - so I thought fuck it and gave up.
Husband does 90% of the cooking and food shopping now.
I take lovely long walks with the dogs, soak for ages in the bath I never used to have time to lie in and spend hours reading all the books I’d never got round to reading before.

Clothes shopping, I used to live for a trip to town or a good old browse online. Now it just feels empty, I don't even get the initial thrill of a purchase anymore so stopped buying in an indiscriminate manner. I loved clothers, shoes, bags and make up and was also very fond of homeware (aka clutter!) but not any more. The buzz is long gone.

I used to really enjoy cooking, the whole process from reading recipes through to shopping for ingredients, the actual preparation cooking and serving. These days if it isn't a tray bake or something I can bung in the slow cooker and go out/back to bed then I am not interested.

I am quite fucked off with gardening too, again I read and researched a lot, choose my plants wisely to fit in my tiny back yard and grew all sorts in tubs including tomatoes, water lilies, and roses. Was really into caring for and nurturing my plants but partly due to having really horrible neighbours I no longer really bother. I can't spend time out there due to the noise and mess next door so I do think that has impacted on my sudden lack of interest and I play a mental game of how different it would be if I could actually spend relaxing time out there.

I still love books, chocolate, my family and my friends so it is not all bad!

@rumred Outgrown pubs and clubs.

I imagine most people grow out of alcohol, pubs, and clubs by their mid 20s.

Weekends away with large groups of people - hell on earth.

Clubbing
Pubs (only if I can sit down)
Gossip (especially bitchy gossip)
Putting up with rubbish behaviour from anyone
Spending loads of money on things I don’t want to do, so I don’t
Wearing make up everyday since Covid
Anywhere the music is too loud and having to shout in each others ears to have a conversation
Christmas should only be one day not the whole of December

😂

I have had Cancer, however been feeling late nights aren't for me for a while now.lunches yes ,afternoon teas ,films out matinee all good. Ready for bed by 10.30 now!

See, I love a pub, if it's a good one.

Never been a clubber.

Mine is soaps - just can’t be bothered with them anymore the storylines are so ridiculous! I still watch eastenders just about but lost track of all the others.

Oh yes, me too for alcohol, perfume, cooking (not that I ever do cook now as DH does it all but I have no interest anymore in any case). Expensive restaurants, they are never worth the cost. Pubs. Dyeing my hair (stopped at the beginning of the pandemic and never did it again).

I look forward to bedtime! always make my bed so it looks inviting, burn a wax melt about half an hour or so before I go to bed then read for as long as it takes me to go to sleep. And I am someone who used to be out every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and often on a Sunday. I was a full on party girl and marvel now how I ever had the energy to stay out for endless hours of drinking and clubbing.

I’m 63 . I would definitely say working - luckily we work for ourselves but no longer have ‘drive’ to develop like I did , more interested in it ‘ticking over’ - I would be quite happy to do 12 hours a week usheretting at the cinema or theatre etc past 67 .

meals out at night - I can’t afford really high end and feel I can make at least as good as mid market for a quarter of the cost . I prefer brunches or lunches for the social aspect at way less cost and don’t have to ‘make an effort’

formal clothes- as others have said - in fact if I had an interview now I would struggle -

sex- really can’t be arsed - went off it at menopause time and it’s just not because of my H having pissed me off around the same time - I wouldn’t be interested with anyone - so probably not just sex - I would say sex and relationships - fed up of the compromise and bloke always ending up with the final say - I’m also over interesting, but hard work moody men -

I’m the opposite here of others on city breaks - I’ve done so much walking round many cities in wind, rain that to be honest I’m keener for a week or 10 days sat in sun on terraces, beach bars , balconies with a book etc - however I’m over ‘ budget places’ - only like high end and adults only .

book clubs - do agree with others, have read far too many books that didn’t appeal and then have to chat about them? I do remember once thinking that if we are all meeting really for social interaction I would rather chat about various Netflix /Apple TV series and what we are all watching , maybe I should set up a chat and flix club!!!

On the career front - yeah. There will be people with a genuine vocation - and that's amazing. But at my age you realise how replaceable you are to your company and it's sad how many people's jobs define them (I don't exclude myself from this.)

Oh I still enjoy pubs and live music ( never was into nightclubs as more a rock chick) still do the travelling, mainly pack backing although prefer biz long haul flights these days else I ache for a week. Never really been into spas or girlie nights out.

Tbh I think I like pretty much the same things I have all my adult life. I didn't chance my interests when having kids and not changed them now I'm over 50

Just got less tolerance for tv , bored me senseless. I like interactive stuff rather than passive stuff

Not quite 50 yet, but I’m completely over hair salons. I used to get highlights every 6–8 weeks for 20+ years, but I just can’t deal with spending hours in a chair anymore. The pandemic was the start of me considering making the change and I’ve let the colour grow out, now it looks like a natural balayage - which has saved me a fortune. Seeing the prices these days, I’m even more glad I stopped! I’ve not got any grey so it’s been nice to actually see my natural hair colour after so many years.

I’m also so done with family cooking, I have teens and although my eldest cooks for himself sometimes it’s my husband who is the pain in the backside.

Not 50 yet but I feel quite at home on this thread.

Cooking - like a PP my ideal is just feeding myself something simple or nourishing and carrying on, rather than contemplating who doesn't eat x or had y at z yesterday. I feel like the UK's top consumer of cucumbers and roasting chickens and I am DONE.

Events I don't fancy going to - if I don't genuinely want to be there, it's a no upfront.

Meetings and all work-related willy-waving/politics.

I'd rather die, in fact death seems like an enjoyable option.

I'm not sure if it's a case of 'getting bored' or more losing patience but I can't read a novel anymore. I used to be a voracious reader and now I can't tolerate novels. Fine with non-fiction but I can't suspend my disbelief. The only exception to this is something I've read before and know well.

I've let go of my dream of ever going to a proper, fancypants stately home ball, with long gown, partner dancing, chamber music etc. The real thing, not a wedding or other event. It obsessed me for years, to the point where I felt quite sorry for myself that I'd probably never go to one. Now i couldn't think of a more tiresome way to spend an evening!

Ditto spending all day on a beach, clothes shopping, and dancing/clubblng. Facials! We were all over them in our thirties when we didn't need them. Now when they probably would make a difference, I really cba.

Makes me wonder if a lot of the pleasure I got from these things was actually sensual/hormonally driven, to do with feeling attracted or making myself attractive, and now I'm just not bothered beyond the basics of looking presentable in public?!

Another thing I've given up is running. Not running for exercise, but for the joy of it, or just to get wherever I was going quicker. Running along streets in my lunch hour (hah, remember those?) in my work clothes and shoes, or down to the corner shop in the evening. Always liked country walking but not in towns. Now with my bloomin knees, being able to walk anywhere without limping is a good day!

Oh I sympathize with the knees.

Definitely men as top 1. Exactly as the question asks - both bored of and outgrown. Love life without being encumbered. Life for me is so much more interesting and outward facing,
Also, not being myself to fit in. Given it up. Happily stick out from the crowd and will own it. So freeing.

It's cliched but, like everyone else:
Spas
Not being able to go home when I want to
Parties
Events where there's social convention - weddings mainly
(Although all of the above I didn't like really anyway 😀but... there were many years of forced pretence)

I love:
Tea
Early nights
The seasons
Books
Podcasts
Audible
Headphones

Haven't switched the TV on since before Xmas and have read already 25 books this year. Not sure I will ever watch anything again. One PP recommended classics - I have just finished a volume of letters by Nancy Mitford where she wonders why she is bothering with new books (in the 1950s) when the classics are so much better. She is largely right!

Never liked spas and only go with DDs who love them. Give me one of the new outdoor beach saunas and a cold sea dip anyday though! They are fab!!

I have a lot of exposure to the elderly as part of my work and it is very obvious that the ones who have the best mental, cognitive and physical health into older age have good social or family lives. I therefore make an effort to prioritise people, even when I CBA. Relationships really are important. And certainly don't need to involve clubbing, dinner parties or any kind of party <shudder>.