How to work mumsnet

[LostMum7]

How do I reply only been on this couple of days but finding it really helpful getting some stuff out and other’s opinion

If it's a general reply then just write in the 'message' box and hit 'post'.

If you want to reply to something in particular you can
either: copy'n'paste part of what the other person said into the 'message' box and put it in bold to show it's a quotation. Then add your bit (not bolded).
or: hit the 'quote' button and the whole message will appear. People can get annoyed if this is used for very lengthy quotations (especially if you then write a very short reply, like 'agree' or 'this').

If you want to alert someone to the reply then include an 'at' message. Write their user name with the @ sign in front e.g. @LostMum7

Bookmark is quite literally a bookmark on the thread.
On some threads I like to bookmark the last op post so I can find out the updates easily. Others I read everything.

See all allows you to read all the op's posts

Thanks

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You can ask (not demand) MNHQ to delete things but it's up to them if they do or not. As you have discovered, you can edit a post but the window is only open for a short while (a few minutes) and the original is still there for people to view.

As ever on the internet, think twice before hitting the send button!

Thanks

When I first posted I was mid-break up and wrote in haste, missed things out, was very angry and got a right pasting!

id try and get all the info in the first post - other wise its what’s called drip feeding where readers have to trawl through subsequent posts.

I love MN and think it’s been a godsend for me.

also you can change your name. I do it routinely so people can’t patch too much info together about me from my posting history.

Thanks for the advice and being nice means alot

If you’re posting on a thread, ideally read the whole thing first but at make sure you’ve at least read all posts by the OP (original poster). You can do this by clicking on the See all in the bottom right corner of the first post.

Welcome to the mad House @LostMum7 you are in for a treat 🤪

I see that already

Definitely change your username regularly. Otherwise if you post something personal then people will read your other threads and use them as evidence that you are somehow wrong about something.

Also avoid at all costs talking about whether stay-at-home parents or working parents are in any way better or worse, because that always turns into a massive bun fight.

Also be very careful about posting on AIBU (am I being unreasonable) because that always turns into a massive fight. Chat is safer.

If you want a nice read, then go for "parking threads".

If you want really good stuff, then classics is great. My favourites are "the cutted up pear" and "there is an elderly korean lady in my garden".

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/1301196-If-my-3yo-had-access-to-AIBU

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/2154580-There-is-a-tiny-elderly-Korean-lady-in-my-garden-and-I-want-to-go-out

If you want a bit of long term company, there are "support theads" where a group of women group together and chat along with each other, if they happen to be working on a similar mission together, like getting through cancer or pregnancy, or looking after unwell children or elderly relatives. Those can be good, but they can also be very time consuming. I had to leave one, partly because I was neglecting my own life because it became so all-consuming. Also - it did of course, turn into a massive bun fight eventually. Mumsnet, is very like Asterix in that sense.

Thank you xx