To want to move house now?

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Trying to keep this vague as have been outed before…

Tonight I interrupted a burglary attempt & I have good reason to believe that my next door neighbour is involved.

The neighbour saw me see him, I was very shaken up afterwards as you would imagine.

I’m a single Mum to two although to be fair, my eldest is a reasonably scary looking 18 yr old male.

I don’t feel like I want to live here anymore, AIBU to not want to live next door to someone to tried to rob me & knows I saw him?

YANBU but have you called the police? What have they done / said?

@Sinkingfeeling952 I called the police immediately although long story short, he appeared whilst on the phone to the police so whilst not concrete evidence, very likely he’s involved.

Was in the middle of the night so not thinking straight so will do the rounds in the morning to see if people have ring doorbell footage.

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God this is frightening. Right on your doorstep! Are you in bought property or rented? I know in some areas there is a home swap website for renters but if you’ve bought your property it will be a lot more
expensive, stressful and probably hard to sell now. I hope you get a move ASAP and if you don’t have already I’d get a ring door bell if you can. I hope you’re all safe!

So is there previous history between you, or his he just a general wrong'un? What would they have been after? Car keys or tech stuff? You are bound to be shaken up. You need CCTV etc from now.

@Mumofsoontobe3 I own my house but am not massively attached to it, been here 7 years.

@Ponoka7 No history, he’s a bit of a spoilt posh boy, parents bought him the house, smokes weed & shouts at the TV when the football’s on. Polite “hellos” when we cross paths.

They were after a vehicle outside my house, didn’t break in.

So you saw your neighbour trying to break into your car in the middle of the night?

@TorchSong I saw men dressed in black that scarpered when I twitched the curtains. About 10 mins later whilst I was still on the phone to the police, my neighbour walked up the road, dressed in black & then let himself into his house.

That’s a massively different situation from your OP! You’ve not caught him burgling the house; you’ve seen your neighbour entering his house shortly after someone (possibly) tried to nick your car. It’s not unusual for him to be there given he lives there.

Eh? You think he's responsible because he happened to be dressed in black?!

I agree with pps after your update, OP. You’re blaming your neighbour for trying to steal your car because he happened to be wearing the same colour outfit as men who did try? What exactly did the men do?

And while I’m not trying to minimise the shock of seeing someone try to steal your car, there’s quite a significant difference between a ‘interrupting a burglary attempt’ and ‘some men trying the door on a vehicle parked outside my house’. Is it even your car?

I would be going around asking if he saw anything last night.

Say that you saw someone trying to nick your car and then he came back a few minutes later. Did he see anything?

See how he reacts.

If it was him he must be pretty thick to try to steal from his neighbours

@TasWair We live very rurally, there’s nowhere in miles to go anywhere on foot. He was walking around at 4am dressed in black. When I first saw him, I thought it was one of the men coming back but then I recognised him. He’s often out late at night but he gets dropped off in a taxi & generally makes a racket.

Op it’s almost certainly NOT your neighbour, he wouldn’t just casually walk back so soon after just trying to rob you. Did you see the faces of either assailants? Do you have more to go on than just wearing the colour black??

@TorchSong I was trying to be vague but it was men in a white van that arrived & were using tools to try & break the lock on my motorbike.

I would be moving house if you are so rural and feel vulnerable. I would also move if I lived next door to a weed smoking anti social neighbour that shouted at the TV. I would move house after an attempted robbery. You don’t need to justify why you are unhappy op. You can just move.

I’m going to go door to door this morning to see if I can get CCTV from anyone, which would also show where he came from. Don’t have the guts to ask him if he saw anything.

@Feetinthegrass thanks, that’s kind of how I’m feeling at the moment.

Op, do you have other measures in place to protect your bike? Lock it in an outhouse? Lights with motion sensor.

Big notice saying 'cctv in operation"?

Time to fight back, now you are aware of the problem.

@Meadowfinch It’s a motorbike & I’m going to get it moved ASAP.

You can have the motorbike moved, but what you are really saying is that this neighbour can not be trusted, he is lacking any consideration at all. You feel isolated and need to live somewhere safer.

It’s not remotely unreasonable. Your son and dc will soon be in a place of their own. Plan for the future, plan to move house. Don’t say anything to your neighbour as you will have to declare any neighbourly dispute.

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what was actually being interfered with?

Rtwt

So these blokes in a van were trying to nick your motorbike? When you noticed this the neighbour was there also dressed in black?

Could it be that these guys tried to get something from him too and he was checking his property?