To be uncomfortable with the bedroom arrangements

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My partners mother is planning an overseas ski trip later this year and has kindly invited myself and my 4 year old daughter to come along. It will be a large group going and I am not feeling entirely comfortable with the room arrangements. The idea is that all the children (ages 1,2,4,5) will share a room.

However, this is where I might be unreasonable, I really don't know some of the adults going and have only meet them once or twice. They are my partners step siblings and their partners. My partner did not grow up with these step siblings so also does not know them very well. Because of this I don't feel comfortable with my daughter being in a seperate bedroom away from me with basically strangers in the house.

Would I be unreasonable to have her share a room with my partner and me instead?

Totally your choice, as a pp said, just pop one of the matresses from the kids’ room into yours, as a pp says.

I think actually on thinking about it that it’s a lovely thing to consider doing. Your daughter is your partner’s parents future step granddaughter and they are very much treating her as part of the family and including her as they are the other children who they are actually related to already. That’s really nice. So I agree with the previous - it’s a nice thought but it’s also fine that it won’t work for you. Everyone knows small children have their preferences so you only have to say your daughter wants to be in with you and that’s the end of that. As long as you aren’t making decisions about the financial contributions that affect other people or anything like that. And you have a plan for where she’ll actually sleep as like others said - sometimes chalet rooms won’t have space for an extra bed unless it’s clear.

edited because I confused myself with the generations!

I’d feel the same as you!
just say “oh my daughter doesn’t sleep that well so will want to be in our room. I wouldn’t want her to wake the other kids.”

as soon as people think your daughter will be waking their sleeping children, they’ll be more than happy for your daughter not to be in the shared room

How on earth do you know she’ll be petrified in a room full of other kids? Not all kids are helicopter-parented into a state of anxiety.

My daughter had had multiple sleepovers by that age but she’s not helicopter-parented by terrible parents.

It’s an issue because the respondents thought she was a man, and in the eyes of many MN posters all men are degenerate child abusers. Just look at these responses for this and any other thread for proof.

Yanbu op. I have a 4 year old and couldn’t imagine going away and leaving him in a room alone with other children and adults around I didn’t know. Just say DD will stay in our room thanks!

That’s good parenting and keeping your daughter safe.

I certainly wouldn’t put a 1yr old 2 yr old in a room with others,what is wrong with their parents?!

They won’t sleep
anyway; it’s a mad idea. It’s my bet they’ll all end up in their parents’ rooms so why make a fuss. Sounds like pandemonium in waiting with four grumpy kids to entertain. Everyone will realise on night one what a daft idea somebody had had.

This.
skiing is exhausting, they’ll all need to be asleep by 8pm if they’re to be up and back at crèche/lessons for 9am.
i don’t even let my 8 & 10 yr olds stay with their mates - they share together to ensure good sleep!

I can't see anyone else is going to be bothered by this - one less potential disruptor in the shared room, and it's not as if you're demanding she has her own room.

Presumably child cots are available, or a bed can be moved from the shared room if she is too big for a cot.

If being ‘unreasonable’ ensures your daughter is safe then be unreasonable.

Because the other poster is likely assuming your partner is male... Despite you using 'she' multiple times.

It shouldn't make a difference imo, but it certainly does on MN