Soooo I'm basically just wondering if I'm in the wrong here. A while ago me and my partner broke up for a bit and while I moved out of the house, my partner let his friend, his partner and his daughter stay at ours for a few days...he gave them our bedroom and ensuite and he slept on the sofa. Fast forward we got back together so I moved back into our home.
Last year his friend messages him saying they were coming down again and asked if they could all stay again, I said I'm not comfortable with 3 people I don't know staying in my home. My partner messages him back saying, sorry there won't be enough room now (I'm back) and he replies with we don't need a bedroom we can just sleep in your front room! I thought this was so cheeky. We have a very tiny little cottage, I'm a very private person who likes my own space.
Anyway the time comes to him coming down, my partner insists he's found somewhere else to stay. He then turns up to see my partner for the evening and says he has no where to stay, my partner felt guilty and said he could. (He has parents live close to us) this caused a massive argument between us. I have had things happen in my life that have led me to not trust men. A Family member who I fully trusted abused me. I also suffer with ocd and anxiety.
Anyway he's just come down again for a week. I've told my partner I don't want him staying here, I don't even know him. Partner seems to think he has somewhere to stay. He turns up again last night and my partner asks where are you staying? He says he doesn't know and that he will just sleep in his car or something.....am I weird for thinking this is odd? He has come down for a week with no where to stay, I'm assuming with the presumption, that people will feel guilty and just let him stay. He's a 42 Yr old man that works, why can't he just get an air b&b? Or stay at his parents? It pisses me off that he comes down and just expects free accomidation.