ADHD in toddler girl

[ToddlerMum312]

My little girl just turned 27 months

Hi everybody : sorry for the long post but I’d really appreciate an input for me and my little girl .
She just turned 27 months .

3/4 word sentence : I want more crackers please mummy , where’s Daddy gone ?
She can ask

1. who’s that ?
2. What’s that?
3. What happened ?
4. Do you like it ?
5. What’s mommy doing ?
6. Where’s daddy gone ?
7. Why scared ?

She can use the following pronouns 1 I and me , you , 2 yours and mine 3 she ( sometimes) She can answer the following questions

1. what’s your name
2. Yes and no
3. Some Why’s ?
4. What’s mommy’s name / dad’s name
5. What’s your favourite toy / colour
6. How old are you ?
7. What do you want to watch / read
8. How are you
9. Do you want food ? Etc
10. Why baby crying ? If she sees a baby crying I ask why is he crying ? She replies he is sad .
11. She can tell boys from girls
12. What’s /where’s / who’s that ?
13. What is mommy doing ? Or describe actions in books

Socially , she tends to initiate playing and interaction other kids her by giving the kid her toy or playing with the ball back and forth but she is very shy if there is a big group and doesn’t tend to partake in activities ( she is not in nursery ) . She loves the grandparents . She tends to hold my hand when outside and never bolts , she walks by the buggy otherwise .
She takes “ no “ in her stride and does self regulate when she is stroppy . No meltdowns so far . When I ask her to tidy up or hold my hand she does all the time and she likes sharing with other kids her toys .

My worry is that she doesn’t tend to sit still for more than a few minutes and she would move on to another activity , she is not keen on circle time . She would , however , sit on the beach and draw stuff on the sand and read a book . she definitely is the child who doesn’t sit still at the restaurant.

I know a lot of you will say it is impossible to discern adhd from standard toddler behaviour but I’d like to see if I come across any parent with a child with a similar personality . I have come across a post here where a mom describe his daughter unable to sit still and do circle time and actives and eventually , she was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD ( she is not disruptive but can’t focus ) .

I know adhd carries a lot of genetic component but I am not sure how spontaneous a gene mutation is .

I knew it would be you again. Please seek help with your anxiety. It must be stopping you from enjoying your daughter’s childhood.

Is this a troll post? Some kind of stealth brag? Your child is clearly advanced, shows no signs of ADHD and I have no idea where you're getting that from.

I have a 27 month old son. He's just started putting two words together and saying 'mine'. That's it. He doesn't give a shit about circle time, ignores the majority of other kids he doesn't know, and pretended to be asleep through his 27 month review (fake snores and all). Christ knows what you would think of him! I mean yes he's a bit odd, but I sure as shit wouldn't start saying there's something wrong with him.

Dump social media, it's full of self-diagnosed 'ADHD' and 'Autism'. Stop pathologising your kid.

Is this a troll post? Some kind of stealth brag? Your child is clearly advanced, shows no signs of ADHD and I have no idea where you're getting that from.

I wonder this every single time this poster pops up- 2 of mine have ASD/ADHD. Having someone write a long arsed list of all the things their 2 year old can/will do/say/eat and then say “do you think my child has ASD/ADHD? I’m soooo worried!” Is a bit of a kick in the tits tbh. And pointless. The NHS trust my middle child was under when he was diagnosed with ADHD the youngest they’d diagnose was 7. They refused to even really discuss the possibility before that although he was already diagnosed with ASD by then.

Either way, it's far too early to tell.

But sounds like a completely normal just-turned-2 yo.

Does she sleep? I think the only early indicator of ADHD in my DD (diagnosed at 12) was that she did not sleep. First time she slept through the night she was 5. Most of what OP has described are quite typical of 2 year olds.

Interestingly my dd has the opposite issue. She slept poorly for the first year ish, but after that, slept 12 hours every night and several hours during the day until she was 3. After that, always at least 12 hours a night. Even now as a young adult, she needs a ridiculous amount of sleep.

It’s so interesting how different traits show in different children.

That's you stereotyping and an outdated view of ADHD. Girls with ADHD can be masters of masking, so might be super compliant and 'easy'. Hence why girls with ND, depending on the child, can fly under the radar so easily. Sometimes the ND kid is the quiet one in the background who is oh so well behaved.

She's two. And sounds like an average two year old.

Stay off social media and all of it's ND 'advice', it's damaging.

I've just realised who you are.
You must have started about 10 threads about your dd in the last couple of months.
On EVERY ONE, people start off reassuring you (as they have done here), then people gradually make the link to all your past posts.

I've no idea why you continue to start threads.
Nothing, in ANY of your threads suggests your dd is anything outside of a normal range of development.
You've been told that over and over again.
You've also had many posters suggest you get help with this obsession you have with trying to find something "wrong with" your dd.