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I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.

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Tusktusk · 21/05/2025 22:16

So far this month I have used AI to:

Analyse my colours (thanks MN) and suggest outfits

Create a menu of packed lunches around my dietary requirements and preferences, complete with a shopping list

Plan a holiday itinerary

Save me hours and hours of work and stress by suggesting really useful ways to overcome very particular work difficulties, having been thrown into an out of my comfort zone situation. I have used AI for this on a daily basis this week

Tonight, instead of posting my current family dilemma on mumsnet I chatted about it with Claude. The responses were really good. Wise, thoughtful, non judgemental, practical, understanding… like the best mumsnetters.

Am I starting to rely on it too much?

What have you been using it for?

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Boiledbeetle · 21/05/2025 23:56

What have I been using AI for? Oooh, not much!

I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.
I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.
I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.
I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.
I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.
Maggiethecat · 22/05/2025 00:03

hilariousnamehere · 21/05/2025 23:38

Am genuinely curious how people are finding it so good and useful - I have been using it for a few years on and off and have yet to get it to produce or do anything I couldn't already do better or faster.

Like all social media, search engines, etc - we are the product. We do not own this technology and if it's pulled or manipulated or changed we have no control over that, which I dislike. It's why I don't rely on social media to market my own business - it could change at any time and I'd be fucked if it was my main or only marketing and communication channel.

But everyone around me is obsessed with AI and using it constantly. I am also seeing the very real impact on tiny creative businesses and experiences so far suggest no one will care enough until it comes for their work.

I don't want to read robot recipes, I don't want to look at robot art or read robot books or watch robot plays which have all been cobbled together from stolen data. I don't really understand why anyone would want this even if it is cheaper and quicker - it's all slightly shit and a bit depressing.

And more depressing that seemingly a huge part of the population don't really see the difference and are happy with the shit to mediocre AI output 🤷‍♀️

A friend posted a recipe of some slightly sad cupcakes the other day - said "oh it didn't do too badly with the recipe". Well no, it gave you a recipe which produced mediocre cupcakes which sank in the middle, but why are you asking something which basically guesses the next word rather than looking at the many millions of excellent tested recipes by real humans which already exist? Why would you even want a shit amalgamation of them which has never been tested in real life? Genuinely, what do you gain from that?!

I don't understand the hype at all, and as someone who is fairly techie and works in a creative industry, I am also baffled because nothing it has created or I've seen so far has been that good - but the world at large seems determined to embed it into everything and give up all critical thinking ability to let the AI do everything.

I can see its use as a tool, and at the beginning I could see its possibility for improving work life balance for a lot of people.

It is not going to improve that, because of the people who created it and who are pushing it.

I massively resent that it is in everything from Google to WhatsApp to Instagram private messages, and you cannot opt out of the useless and often wrong summaries.

I also feel very alone because even the creatives I know think it's novel and fun and great, and are seemingly oblivious to the fact we're hurtling towards a world where at least on a business front, there's likely to be a lot less choice and a lot fewer small businesses, less creativity and human innovation because the tiniest businesses won't ever start - they won't be able to compete with AI on cost and speed.

They are already closing in their dozens each day - embroidery pattern creators, illustrators, clothes designers and so many more.

So yes, I think relying on it is a bloody terrible idea.

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Will it summarise lengthy posts?

Boiledbeetle · 22/05/2025 00:09

Maggiethecat · 22/05/2025 00:03

Will it summarise lengthy posts?

Ta da:

The user expresses frustration with AI’s increasing presence in creative industries, questioning its value and reliability.

They argue that AI-generated content—recipes, art, and writing—feels unoriginal, mediocre, and lacks true human creativity.

They worry about small businesses struggling to compete with AI's speed and cost advantages, leading to reduced innovation and fewer independent creators. While they acknowledge AI's potential as a tool, they feel its implementation benefits corporations more than individuals.

They resent its integration into everyday platforms without opt-out options and feel isolated as others embrace it despite its impact on creative livelihoods. Overall, they see reliance on AI as harmful.

hilariousnamehere · 22/05/2025 00:12

The irony is that for summarising and similar I actually think it's a great tool. One of my close friends uses it so that her written communication is as eloquent as her spoken communication is - something she's found hard to do since our school days.

I still think the majority of the ways I see it being used are not benefiting humanity as a whole.

SpidersAreShitheads · 22/05/2025 00:14

😂😂

I have begun relying on AI and I don’t know how I feel about it.
CapitalAtRisk · 22/05/2025 00:18

AI is the new computer/internet. Unless you've been stressing about all the jobs that computers took away, and all the energy those servers use, then you haven't got a leg to stand on.

SpidersAreShitheads · 22/05/2025 00:19

SpidersAreShitheads · 22/05/2025 00:14

😂😂

Aaaah, bugger. You have to open this up to see the caption 🤦🏻‍♀️

Applenation · 22/05/2025 00:29

Tusktusk · 21/05/2025 22:25

I’m genuine @MereNoelle. Been on MN for 17 years. Pom bears. Naice ham. Penis beaker. Snapped and farted.

Honestly? Running off that particular list hasn't convinced me for about the last 10 years.

I've seen four other threads exactly like this one - 'what are you all using AI for?" - in the last couple of days. Weird.

GoldLash · 22/05/2025 00:33

I think it’s great we’re all finding positive uses for it

Dunnop · 22/05/2025 00:37

There is a distinct lack of critical thinking in children and young people, and I worry this will get worse but AI is here to stay. Just hope the Terminator doesn’t cpme for me, I’m shit at running.

HundredPercentUnsure · 22/05/2025 00:40

alcoholnightmare · 21/05/2025 22:23

Please talk to me like I’m 5…. How do I start to use AI please?

https://chatgpt.com/

https://claude.ai/

https://copilot.microsoft.com/chats/

You choose which AI website you want to use and you type in what you want.

I use it at work to create policies and gap analysis, write reports. I ALWAYS check the content and validity for accuracy on anything generated.

I use it at home to meal plan and cheat at word puzzles 😂

Flamethrowers · 22/05/2025 00:43

I use it far too much. It has been incredibly useful. It has helped me navigate conflicts with my children's school (evaluating my emails, reassuring me that I'm not over reacting) and is extremely effective in telling me my rights and streamlining my responses (eg when the garage refused to honour a warranty claim, listing the ways in which that was violating my rights, giving me a plan of action and writing me a letter which immediately resolved the conflict). I have used it to help plan my parents medical treatment (explaining doctors letters, looking for prescription clashes, making suggestions and then organising into a short list to discuss with GP). It has navigated me through health issues and I use it to track my diet. It has also helped me work through the debris of a decades long relationship so that in the end I got so bored of talking about it all that I somehow resolved it. it has analysed conversations to point out who is being defensive or offensive and then practiced dialogue with me so by the time I have the conversation in real life I can step back calmly as I've had it multiple times already, it has estimated my age, and been very clear headed about my chances of finding a partner, I do not use it for any form of work as it has hallucinated sources, but I have used the academic versions to find references and saved hours searching for esoteric facts and pressing background context. And many many many other uses. I use it like a friend.
It is annoyingly Californian and good natured and does not like to criticise so you have to make sure that you tell it to be harsh critical and clear headed. And not to always agree. Or direct it to take the opposing side, It has made me a lazier critical thinker but also let me channel my boring repetitive thinking away from my friends.

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/05/2025 00:48

I’ve used it tonight to prep for a job interview.

HundredPercentUnsure · 22/05/2025 00:49

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 21/05/2025 22:31

We all became reliant on google at one point. We all became reliant on phones at one point. We all became reliant on the wheel and the printing press at one point.
All AI is doing in a lot of your examples is curating/compiling google etc results for you so you don’t have to spend time scouring and sorting through it yourself.

I use ChatGPT for my colours too after that thread 😆 I used him for something else today too.

I used him for something else today too.

"ChatGPt says:

I don't have a sex or gender—I’m an AI, so I don’t experience identity in the way humans do. But I’m here to help people of all identities equally."

HundredPercentUnsure · 22/05/2025 00:49

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/05/2025 00:48

I’ve used it tonight to prep for a job interview.

I hope you asked it to wish you luck!

Flamethrowers · 22/05/2025 00:52

Also I really don't like the way it writes so instead of asking it to edit directly I have asked it to point out places in a text where the are flaws or weaknesses and then I have looked at that and tried to find ways to resolve it myself, I use it more in dialogue than for answers and I think that keeps me more mentally alive.

HundredPercentUnsure · 22/05/2025 01:03

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LoveItaly · 22/05/2025 01:05

BellissimoGecko · 21/05/2025 22:18

Do you know how much energy AI needs? Do you realise that MLMs like AI scrape content from all our social media posts? Don’t you care about the ethical issues around AI?

And last, don’t you care about losing all your skills and the power of critical thought to AI?

so, yes, I think you’re using it far too much.

Agree with all your points, especially losing skills and critical thinking. I can’t imagine what people will be like in decades to come if they rely on AI for everything, I think it’s terrifying.

Flamethrowers · 22/05/2025 01:05

Interestingly it has very western liberal biases including on trans issues which can be very annoying (it doesn't feel intellectually neutral). When I talk to chat I imagine a group of young fresh faced Californians in a big light office, sitting on their desks, all men, maybe drinking juices and kicking back in jeans, earnestly coming up with woke ways for their model to communicate.

PinkGardenParty · 22/05/2025 01:08

Terrifying.

AI isn't helpful. It's making everyone lazy and stopping people figuring stuff on on their own.

WarmthAndDepth · 22/05/2025 01:09

Devonshiregal · 21/05/2025 22:54

This is like saying don’t you know how much energy a car uses? Don’t you care about how many people get run over each year? And last don’t you care about losing all your muscle mass to driving around instead of walking.

Or judging someone for using calculators.
Or for using phones.
Or email.
Or planes.
Or trains.
Or make up.
Or fountain pens.
Or literally anything.

The energy consumption is awful, the lack of thinking too, but everyone’s gonna be using it. Whether you want to or not AI will be used across almost all businesses behind the scenes if not up front.

Nope, it really isn't like saying those things. The thing about the energy use is not the amount of billable kwh energy it adds to your account with British Gas, but about the fact that the OP is blithely using AI for pretty frivolous purposes, seemingly ignorant of the enormous carbon footprint AI generates, and that this is inherently selfish as the impact is far-reaching, touching the lives of many across the globe.

SnowFrogJelly · 22/05/2025 01:10

Who is Claude

ImustLearn2Cook · 22/05/2025 01:10

@Tusktusk Are you paying the subscription for Claude ai?

The reviews on Trustpilot are concerning. 76% of the reviews are 1 star reviews. And there seems to a continuous theme of being ripped off, not getting refunded, almost impossible to cancel the subscription.

https://au.trustpilot.com/review/claude.ai

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elfendom · 22/05/2025 01:10

It is useless in particular aspects. I just posted a thread on here that it could not give me an answer to, a really mind numbingly boring thread. It still did not answer it and gave me a whole pile of incorrect information. I asked questions in popular culture, it is well out of date. I find it useful in some medical aspects. It is certainly good in drafting text and letters that you can edit. But basic facts can be way off.

SnowFrogJelly · 22/05/2025 01:14

SSRI · 21/05/2025 23:05

yanbu. I have used it to help me withdraw from alcohol. I’ve also used it to help me diagnose a healthcare concern. It’s terrifyingly better as a friend and a professional at both. So we need to use it and we need to learn to live with it and we need to adjust our energy production and use to include it

I really wouldn’t rely on an AI diagnosis