hate being referred to as 'girls'!

[maybabymaybe]

a straightforward AIBU and a question - does anyone else have a bad reaction to being referred to as 'girls' and if you did would you mention it? I'm talking about within a friendship group and it's not done with malice or to patronise.... But I'm a grown up mother, with a job, and many many hard, painful responsibilities and I feel I've earnt some wisdom and I don't miss being a girl or even a young woman! Would you tell friend this is how you feel or is it best to ignore?

Bothers me more being referred to as guys.

Bothers me more being referred to as guys.

What if the elderly lady told a man not to swear in front of the girls? (You)

For the third time. I would find the last comment infantalising and patronising no matter who said it.

Wouldn't bother me as I don't see it as derogatory.

Just interesting that you use females for the examples you’d be ok with but the example you wouldn’t be ok with you use a male even though you say if a female also said it you wouldn’t be ok with it

For the fourth time, I would find it infantalising and patronising.

I'm the same about 'ladies'.

I don't get the issue with "ladies".

Well, there is something inherently wrong with infantilising people.

Yeh you said

Then stop asking the same question.

When she was over 80 dh’s old aunt still referred to her similar-aged bridge cronies as ‘the girls’ .

I can’t say it’d bother me, OP.

There is something inherently wrong with being obsessed with how other people may want to be referred to.

I wouldn't care if it wasn't said in a patronising/demeaning manner ofcourse. But then I wouldn't like "women" being said in that way either. Have got bigger fish to fry than semantics.