To dislike when DH says 'Mummy won't allow Daddy to have those'

[pontipinemum]

OK this is a complete non issue and I am already over it, but it just annoys me!!

Our 2 yr old is seriously fussy right now - we are trying everything!

But it can be counted upon that he will eat little brioche rolls. I buy an 8 pack in the weekly shop and he has 1 a day. DH has the other.

DH knows they are for the toddler, but has sometimes had half the pack. I have said countless times if you'd like them I can get more than 1 pack. We could even keep a few in the freezer. He says 'no I am trying to stay away from bread'. So I stick to the 1 pack. I just hate waste. So I don't like buying them if they won't be eaten.

But when DS asks him if is having one he says 'no mummy won't allow me' it just annoys me like I am controlling what DH eats. I'm not and I said it last night when he said that to DS, that mummy asked daddy if he wanted them and he said no.

AIBU to be a little annoyed about this?

If get a spare packs and make a point t of offering daddy one at every bloody meal!

Reply, 'Daddy won't let Mummy buy two packs because Daddy doesn't want to eat too many, but Daddy knows he can have as many as he wants and Mummy won't mind.'

All this Daddy Mummy passive aggressive talking to each other through the child is not the way, for so many reasons. Instead of buying one pack, think laterally and buy loads, so then the "brioche" issue is removed. You have the power to not get stuck here.

Next time he says Mummy won't let me, you address him, directly, not through your child and say

Dave, the cupboards are full of them, you both love them, so I bought loads then we wouldn't run out, go nuts, help yourself.

and carry on with your day.

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Id just say ‘ yep, coz I’m the boss!’
Does wonders for discipline

This. Grown-up and very clear to your child.

And try explaining to him that triangulating his child is actively harmful to the child. It’s not about you, it’s about him being a shit parent in that moment.

Did you really need to quote the whole OP to write that?! More irritating than the OPs husband.

OP why would you put them in the freezer? They have a best before date of 300 years.

Would a man be advised on here to say “Daddy is trying to stop greedy Mummy from eating your treats”? I very much doubt it.

So don't blame me for not getting you a freaking brioche that you said you didn't want! And do not tell my child I won't allow it!!!!!

Have you actually said this to him?

This is not a complete non issue, it's a very serious issue @pontipinemum.

Not the brioche, that's unimportant, but the fact your DH is being passive aggressive and involving your toddler! He is creating an unhealthy, unequal, damaging dynamic where you are the villian.

YADNBU. His behaviour is not annoying, it's alarming and needs to stop now.

I must get the wrong ones. The ones I buy have a best before date of about 10 days and do start going stale.

I would buy 30 packs and leave them on the side. If he said why have you bo9ught so many - I would say because every time I ask you if you want any you say no but then you eat them and there's not enough for our child and it has really begun to piss me right off especially as you never do the shopping.

and then I would eat 29 of the packs myself.

Ooh I’ve got some brioche in the cupboard. Might go and have one now! misses point of thread