Would you cut this family member off

[Harriee]

If they put you down a lot, spoke to you like a child, and even called you a 'fat fucking cunt' under their breath.

Nobody should speak to you like that and it shouldn’t be tolerated unless it’s a changed behaviour due to something like dementia and previously would have been completely out of character.

Yes. After I'd punched them.

It certainly wouldn't make me choose to spend any time with them

Maybe hit them, with a chair, an iron chair.

Why would you want anything to do with them? Of course go no contact.

Yes. HTH.

Yes

I’m mystified as to any reason you would have any reason to not remove them from your life in every way possible.

Barring a child but they’d still be shown the door

Yes I’d cut them off - by ghosting them with no explanation.

Yes I would.

Yes, definitely.

If you don’t want them to continue treating you this way and they're not intelligent enough to know it's wrong it's the only thing to do.

Take control, walk away and don't look back.

Absolutely 💯 I'm very intrigued to know the relationship of this person to you

Definitely you shouldn’t be putting up with that. Is this person an adult? Just that if this person is actually your own child and not old enough to live alone you’ve obviously got a very difficult situation on your hands. If it’s an adult then definitely get rid of

Yes. Definitely. Only after I had slapped them into the middle of next month though. Fair’s fair.

Yes, don't waste another moment of your life on them.

1,000s of people all over the world now hate this person without even having to meet them, I hope that helps.

It would depend on the context and whether the person later apologised, but I would not accept from a relative behaviour that I wouldn't accept from anyone else.

Thanks everyone. So its my brother, he is 25, I am 27. Yet he speaks to me as though I'm younger and like a child. He's called me thick before too. Tbh he still lives with my parents so it's hard as obviously I go to visit them.

Is your brother insulting you in your parents' home? Are your parents tolerating this?

Yes they wouldn't be classed as family In my eyes anymore

Yes, of course. And if they think that’s acceptable behaviour I wouldn’t see them either.

Do your parents know what he says under his breath?

Yes. My sister was a horrible bully. She was six years older than me, and used to being the centre of attention. When I came along, her nose was put out of joint, so she would pinch me to make me cry, hide my clothes, so that I was late for school and lie about me to my parents.
I spent a lot of time with our farm animals and the people who looked after them. I read widely and voraciously.
I followed her into the local Grammar School and did much better than she did, both academically and at sports. I had an interesting and well-paid series of jobs.
She married a man who was identified as a paedophile. She stayed with him and was adamant that he wasn't. He was, as he'd tried it on with me, and I'd bitten him. He's still with her. They are now in much-reduced circumstances, and she appears to be in the early stages of dementia.

I'm sorry, that's awful. It's so often the case that the meanest people are that way because they actually feel so inadequate inside, who would stay with a man like that?

I wouldn't tolerate being spoken to like that by anyone. Can you invite your parents to visit you or meet up outside the home for lunch etc? I would limit contact with your brother as much as possible.

Can you visit when he's out or does this Neanderthal not socialise with friends?