What is your threshold for blocking someone?

[WhereIsMyJumper]

I always used to think you only use it in extreme circumstances- such as harassment.

I know there is a trend of some blocking others as a ‘fuck you’ in the heat of the moment.
To me, it seems like an extreme step to take but then I am not known for being great at putting boundaries in place with others.

I have never been blocked (that I know of) and have only ever blocked one person because of unwanted advances.

To me, blocking someone is final. If I took that decision, I’m saying I don’t want you in my life now or ever again. But I wouldn’t want to regret it, either.

If it's someone I don't know it's usually because they're just scammers / spamming

If it's someone I know it's usually harassment.

The last person I know who I blocked was because he kept pestering me to find out why I'd unfriended him. (We don't talk)

I've only been in the situation to block someone twice... my threshold is quite high though, I don't have much of a tolerance for bullshit and if someone starts (being a CF, being irritating, being needy etc) I will ghost then if necessary block.
One person I blocked was a long term friend who turned utterly mental and I blocked her after she screamed at me in public. Bizarre.
The other person I've blocked is someone who got my number from a whatsapp group related to our hobby - she constantly messaged me yet never once spoke to me in person... I mean, constantly, in an hour I'd get 'hello, how are you, are you coming tonight, have I annoyed you, why aren't you answering, I'm really sorry if I've annoyed you' etc etc Not having that, tarra love!

My threshold is if you piss me off BIG TIME or hurt me or you make me cry (!) then you are gone. And I find it very easy nowadays to delete people from my life and not give a shiny shit - because I will not let people hurt me and have become professionally aloof!

I’ve never blocked anyone except spam accounts on various platforms. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t think I invite a lot of drama. I don’t even have my NC family blocked. They now only email me because they know I don’t respond or read any messages anyway, so I just don’t even open the emails. No need to block.

I think amongst younger people (my dd’s generation), it is used more passive aggressively. I’m not sure that’s a cultural shift though or just because they are immature twatty teens.

That's true, we have NC family who aren't blocked, just ignored!

Very low. I block someone when I want to block someone. Can't think of example as I havnt blocked anyone for years, no need, but wouldn't hesitate to do it if someone was even in the least irritating me and made me want to. I wouldn't over think it.

I have never blocked someone although it has crossed my mind at times. I have chosen to ignore them instead and find that works for me. I wouldn't know if I have been blocked and would assume it would also be the other way around. Blocking someone does feel very final as you say. It seems like you're considering blocking someone but don't want to regret it? You can always unblock someone so I guess its not final in that sense.

Interesting fact that I found out about blocking, you may never realise you've been blocked!

Apparently if you text someone when blocked it gets delivered to a remote inbox rather than their phone. So you see the message as delivered but they never read it. You may in fact have been blocked but assumed the person just didn't get around to replying and you drifted apart.

It seems a very drama llama thing to do, I can't understand people who repeatedly block and unblock once the argument has passed. People need to develop more resilience IMO (excluding cases of actual harassment obviously).

I've blocked people when they have crossed boundaries i have set.

I did once unblock when I was assured (by a flying monkey) they wouldn't do it again, they had changed; well that lasted about a week, Lesson learned, they crossed the boundary again and I blocked them again and they've stayed blocked ever since. The boundary is in place (enforced by the blocking admittedly).

The person I am considering blocking isn’t harassing me or annoying me. In fact, I feel very deeply about them. But they don’t seem to know what they want from one day to the next so I am considering doing it as a ‘line in the sand’ so I know it’s no longer an option and I can move on from it. I don’t want them to be hurt by it. But I also can’t explain it to them.

If I blocked, I know technically I can unblock but I would be too embarrassed to do so. Which is another reason for doing it. It’ll stop me contacting them as well.

It sounds like this person isn't bringing much to your life - based on the little context you've put. It also sounds like you're hoping this is going to prevent you from contacting them rather than them contacting you, so its a tad confusing. Blocking them might be helpful for you in this situation if it 'draws a line in the sand' and move on.

Yes it’s very confusing 😂
It is to stop us talking to each other I think.
I won’t ever unblock to contact him again and I don’t want to hear about yet another U Turn he has had I guess.

I think people are much too angsty about it and most would be happier if they blocked a lot more people.

Another 'U Turn'? You've been down this road before? In that case you already know what to do? As far as blocking goes, that's up to you. I thought this thread was about blocking someone who has done something wrong or harassing. If you are the one contacting him and then annoyed you're not getting the response you hoped for, that's a different topic in my opinion. Its not clear who is contacting who and he is not harassing you 😂

I did a lot of online dating and blocked some because the were inappropriate and some to clear the decks if I was certain I had no interest and they weren't the nicest.

Friendship wise, only one. I've been ill and she was a dipstick. I gave her chance after chance, didn't want anything from her but it was constant flaking and amateur dramatics.

Haha no, you’ve totally misunderstood.
He got back in touch with me. Said a whole lot of things. I already told him that we shouldn’t be in contact with one another and his response was to call me and talk me out of it. Then changed his mind back. And then back again “I want to see you but it’s not a good idea” and now we are back again. There isn’t any harassment from either side.

My threshold is low. I’m too old to care. Out of sight out of mind.

Sorry, I have misunderstood then 😂
I can see where you're coming from. That would annoy me. He must feel like he has control over you in the sense he can flip flop like that. From a male perspective this sounds like he is only after one thing!

I block people if I just don't want to interact with them on whatever platform it is.

Simple as that. Why overthink it?

I've only ever felt the need once, and that was someone on a group I followed who repeatedly posted views that upset me. Probably I didn't need to block him and there was another way to avoid seeing his posts?

I don't know who all these people are who make such a nuisance of themselves. I rarely get a message I wasn't expecting, let alone an unwanted one!

My friend finds blocking very childish. However I got block 2 years ago by a friend. Yes its very final. It hurt at the time. A bad time in her life. I couldnt go back being friends now.

I block people I don’t know willy nilly. As soon as I see a serial complainer, a political ranter or a scammer, I block. They all kill my mood and I don’t need to see their thoughts.

I don’t really block people I know, a couple of my friends’ exes over the years perhaps, but I usually go for an unfriending. Especially if we don’t interact at all or they don’t post anything for years. I think, what’s the point? And also I don’t like to have too big a friends list.

I only block spammers. If people I know annoy me, I just stop talking to them. A few people who particularly get on my nerves are silenced so messages from them don't come up. I find blocking a bit too melodramatic, at least for me. I think the blocking and unblocking is immature. But each to their own...

Spam and scam
anyome else I just ignore. Unless someone is actively harassing me or violent, blocking just seems childish.