What is your threshold for blocking someone?

[WhereIsMyJumper]

I always used to think you only use it in extreme circumstances- such as harassment.

I know there is a trend of some blocking others as a ‘fuck you’ in the heat of the moment.
To me, it seems like an extreme step to take but then I am not known for being great at putting boundaries in place with others.

I have never been blocked (that I know of) and have only ever blocked one person because of unwanted advances.

To me, blocking someone is final. If I took that decision, I’m saying I don’t want you in my life now or ever again. But I wouldn’t want to regret it, either.

Well i unfollow people on twitter and FB if thry are narcissistic or over repetitive but i can't remember what i use that block is a method

But there would lots of reasons as above or rude or offensive i guess for randoms i don't know of any people in real life i would need to do that as if I thought that in real life I wouldn't have added them in the first place

No idea if anyone has blocked me that is their business if they have

I’m very pro blocking, but it honestly doesn’t sound like you needed to block her. She wasn’t communicating with you or engaging with you in any way. It’s possible she didn’t even notice.

So wish I could be like that, I really do instead of being so bloody soft and giving everyone more chances.
Do you block them permanently?
Do you feel guilty after a bit ?

That's very true,but I can't stand snoopers. Blocking seems better than unfriending imo. They can't do a search for you then it saying "Add friend" so it's saves any awkwardness later on.

Fair enough!

Yes blocked permanently. And no I don’t feel guilty. These are people who have hurt me badly. I see it as a way of protecting myself. It ensures (for eg on Facebook) that I won’t get them as a suggested friend which then triggers anxiety and stress. One in particular put me in therapy for 6 months because of their actions so it’s just self preservation to a degree!!!!

I’d like to know the answers to these questions too 😂
I am way too bloody soft and then I berate myself for it afterwards

You are allowed to do what you need to do to protect yourself.

I blocked my ex because I don’t want to be disturbed by him texting me once I’m healing / over it. I don’t want to keep in touch and I don’t want to think about him. I didn’t block out of anger or upset.. it was just because I chose to move on and don’t want any further communication ever. He probably hasn’t even tried to reach out, he ended things so I probably didn’t need to. But just incase.
Sometimes you can stay friends or be amicable in years to come and sometimes you just want to be completely detached.

So you have just explained exactly why I was thinking of doing it. I need to get over him and that’s not going to happen if I keep hearing from him. I don’t think I am strong enough to ignore the next “can we talk” message. So perhaps I need to just remove the option of speaking to him at all

I’ve done it

I 100% understand this.

I'm very much still in love with my ex, but she has moved on, she messaged me out of the blue after nearly 2 years this easter but i had to reply and tell her that i think it's best if we don't speak again because of how i feel about her (she lives on the other side of the planet and has been seeing someone for who knows how long now, so, it's not like we can just be "friends")

I regularly think about dropping messages, but, have been really good with just trying to get on with my life, but have considered blocking before, just to add that extra barrier to doing it in a moment of weakness.

Its a coping mechanism, I don't hate her or anything

Blocking on what; social media or a phone number?

The thought of blocking someone never enters my mind, it’s a hugely foreign concept to me. I do my human interactions in person (or on the phone with family from abroad). If I have an issue with someone, it is dealt with by conversation, not by text. Blocking to me is like a childish act of saying I don’t want to speak to you or deal with you, but I’d rather not tell you that so I’ll just show you by blocking you. Blocking creates unnecessary drama and leaves things unsaid and un-dealt with. I would not do it.

Phone number
I don’t use social media

I cut off my childhood best friend (age 11-20ish) when she got hooked on drugs and used me to facilitate her abandoning her kids with her mum (who I was extremely close to, she was like my second mum) so she could run away with a bloke.... she tried to contact me a few years later begging for money so I blocked her number and Facebook account

Sad, but I can't have smackheads in my life/around my daughter

I would honestly usually completely agree with you on this.
But when you’ve already tried to explain to someone that it’s best if you’re not in contact, and they respond to that by pulling you back in, and you’re not strong enough to say no to them, it feels like the least worst option

Temper. I don't tolerate it

I think you have done the right thing. It sounds like you need to take space to recover from a separation without wondering if you’ll see their name pop up on your phone. Or noticing that they haven’t reached out. It will help you with moving forward. Detoxing from their messages and the situation. Self preservation!

Onwards x

I have blocked a few football fans on facebook because i have been sworn at and called names. I honestly don't mind if a person disagrees with me but i am not prepared to be called names either.

Well done OP. It sounds like the right thing for you to do in this instance. Put yourself first. Good luck!

I think in that case you just need to do what's right for you and deal with this in your own way. Best wishes to you and I hope you're able to move on quickly.

I agree. Blocking someone (unless they really harass you or are abusive) is so rude and mean.

I was recently blocked by a chap whom I dated for 6 months. He claimed undying love and wanted to marry me, but when I got upset he completely failed to reassure or comfort me (which meant I got even more upset). He ended our relationship by telling me he hates me and that I am "disgusting", and then he blocked me. It was just horrible. It felt so devalued – it seemed cruel and immature on his part. I accept his decision to leave if he feels I am not right for him, but blocking me is just so hurtful.

I don't understand why it has become a norm, it should only be done in extreme cases. Just my opinion though...

Seeing as this thread has been resurrected…
He remained blocked
I do not regret doing it
I feel so much better now than I did then. Stronger, higher self esteem. I’m 90% back to myself now. It feels good. He wasn’t good enough. I gave future me a little present by taking that step. It was really hard and took a lot of strength but I’m so glad I did it.