So mad at dh

[autisticbookworm]

Our son is autistic, he’s in mainstream school who are ok, he has a full time one to one for his processing and emotional regulation.
Every year school do a trip, i have booked annual leave and gone every year as he massively struggles with different/new experiences. This year they are doing two trips, I had an operation 6months ago that I’m still recovering from so I couldn’t go on the last trip. It went badly and ds ended up running off and was missing for fifteen minutes. School admitted that it was managed poorly. The second trip is coming up, I have asked dh to go as I am still unable too. Dh has said no as he thinks school need to just manage him, I think he just doesn’t want to go.
whilst dh is right school should manage the reality is they will struggle as there will be limited staff and his 1:1 will inevitably be called up on. I’m so pissed off that after 4 years of me going he can’t do 1 trip. He even suggested ds doesn’t go. Plus if ds does meltdown/run away regardless of any failings on schools part it will be ds that faces the consequences .
Aibu to be angry at dh?

If the unpaid overtime your DD is expected to cover takes her earning below minimum wage she should be calling ACAS. She can probably put in a claim for back pay.

I understand schools are in a hard place and staff go above and beyond in a lot of situations. But the implication in the previous post was that you as the parents should be managing the provision of your DS’s 1:1 entitlement to some extent and you can’t do that. You aren’t the employers here and cannot effectively manage the TA or their working conditions. The LA/school and the TA need to work that out between them.

She works 845 until 345 Monday to Friday term time only. How do you get £300 less? She is in a Sen school so maybe thry pay slightly better?
it’s rubbish wage though.

Yeah I’m mainstream - was working 8.45 - 3.00. Pay is shocking