“You’re never going to lose weight if you eat like that”

[Ploverz]

I have done very well and lost 25 pounds. With more to go.

I am away on holiday with brother, SIL, my husband and kids. We get on well (most of the time).

On the first night I had a little bit of a moan as the way I had lost weight had seemingly stopped yielding results. So I mentioned I am probably going to shake things up when we get home. I was directly asked by brother. I know not to talk too much about weight as it is one of those topics most find very boring. I told brother and SIL that I probably need to add more calories as the 1000 calorie diet plan seems to have randomly stopped working. Once again I shared this info when directly asked.

So today I ate:

• veg green juice
• 1/3 Boursin, veg sticks and maybe 4/5 crackers the size of a Jacob’s one (this was pure gluttony as it was next to me by the pool. In the past I could’ve easily put the whole thing away)
• cornetto (chosen because I didn’t know how many calories were in the ice cream from the icecream parlour)
• small burrito (no cheese or sour cream)
• Stuck to Diet Coke over wine

When sil saw me tucking into the Cornetto she made a very snarky comment like “I don’t think too few calories is your problem, Ploverz! Hahaha”. Bloody cackled

What a horrible thing to say! I obviously don’t eat like this everyday.

I just need to vent! All things considered I don’t think today was totally unhinged like it would have been a few months ago. SIL is a size 6 and it’s just left me feeling sorry for myself.

Hand on my heart I have been doing 1000 calories at home.

I’d say, I’m on holiday, kindly fuck off - I wouldn’t say that out loud but my death stare would have given that vibe.

Just stop discussing your personal eating habits/weight problems with other people.

It doesn't matter if they did randomly ask you.

She was bloody rude though.

Yeah gloves are off. Definitely tell her to fuck off with her bitchy comments! Who the hell would say that to someone?? I'd distance myself from her after this.

Why do people choose to go on holiday with people they don’t really like?

Depends how long your 'little bit of a moan' about not losing weight was. If someone complained about not losing weight then the next day was eating cheese and ice cream I would also be quite sceptical about their calorie counting.
Depending on the size of the portions that days calorie intact would be about 1200-1500

Why do you care what they say? You've made brilliant progress, and your sil's opinion is irrelevant. Just change the subject and move on.

And be vague if they ask anything else.

"why, how many calories have I had today?... Oh you don't actually know. Pretty rude and nasty either way."

It was around 1300 calories.

On no planet can that be seen as over indulging.

I maybe spoke about my diet for a minute/two at a push when asked by my SIL and brother on the first night. SIL was the most engaged in my WL out of everyone! SIL and brother said I look fantastic. I was very conscious of the fact it’s tiresome to go on about dieting.

I also said I was going to slightly loosen the reigns whilst on holiday. Which I did.

So not sure why I deserved the rude comment

I’m a human with feelings. It felt very dismissive of my efforts. Like SIL didn’t believe I’ve committed to quite a strict regime

You say she is a size six - she might feel threatened by the idea of you joining her as a slim person; she's probably got used to using you to prop up her ego because she thinks slimmer = superior.

This, it's hit a nerve with you as you are justifying it to us, a bunch of randoms on the internet. If she would deny herself the Cornetto to stay a size 6 then it will have hit a nerve with her as well . No diet talk!

She may also think crikey this feels really counter intuitive to me, saying one is not losing weight and then having a Cornetto. Awful to say it out loud of course.

I’m not really justifying. I’m sharing my experience and what had happened to me

But I had 1300 calories on holiday! After saying I wasn’t going to be so strict. Obviously not stuffing myself silly.

The weight had fallen off prior to a week or so ago. I had been doing keto and IF. But then randomly stopped seeing such great results. Even though I was only eating 1000 calories.

My holiday eating is obviously not representative of a diet day. Who eats normally when on holiday? Let alone diets?

As much of a cow bag as she was, once you make your diet public (talking about it), people will see it as fair game.

stop talking about it!

On a nutritional side, 1000 calories is starvation mode at this point. And, I know you’re on holiday, but that nutritional profile will be doing massive hormonal damage to you, even if the calories are low. You can have a cheat day, not a cheat week.

Well done on the 25lbs. Sod your SIL.

OPs SIL can think what she likes but she has no right to say nasty horrible comments it's a Cornetto not a 1kg tub of ice cream in one sitting!

No reason not to have one if you are calorie counting - Cornettos come in around 200 calories and, exactly as the OP said, you know how many calories you are getting versus random scoops onto a cone. It's not the healthiest option whether dieting or not, but in the context of a holiday treat, it's a modest one.

That was bloody rude of her! You are doing great OP!

Enjoy your holiday and allow yourself some treats! I always find that if you deny yourself the odd treat, you'll give up on your diet much quicker, at least in my experience anyway.

The very low calorie diet was only short term

What an absolute bitch.

This. 100%.

Did she really sound nasty. Maybe she thought you all knew other well enough to have a wee dig and that you'd give as good as you got.

Regardless, well done so far. Just enjoy the break and ignore her.

This kind of thing that has ensured that I will never holiday with anyone other than my DP. (no kids). The freedom of not having to engage if I don't want to, not having to make plans to suit others, not having to engage in bitchiness, not having to pretend I'm having a great time and would rather be a million miles away .

Nope, it's not worth it. Ever.

This says more about you, than the person eating ice cream and cheese.

Don’t go away with her again