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For me and my bf not bringing my 9 year old nephew with us to activity park with my daughter of 5 years and our couple friend and their toddler?

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Biggyteddy · 19/05/2025 16:05

Me and my friend went to an activity farm like with animals activity and food for $25 last weekend since we planned that for 2-3 weeks ago, with our partners and kids. Sooo.. what happend is that my parents where babysitting both of them at the same time (i didn’t know tho about my nephew being there). So when i went to pick up my daughter since we where going that day early i did kinda told my nephew that we all as family could go togheter next time. My mom was also being a lil pushy about it so it become a bit uncomfortable and told her that we all including my sister could go next time. my nephew is a god kid but he can get moody and very rude when he get told no or gets mad. so i didn’t want to prob deal with that while meeting up with our friends and kids. I think my sister got offended since She texted me that i was heartless since our kids play good togheter and that she would have taken my kid with her if it was the opposite. (Wich i doubt). But this time we where meeting with friends so i don’t think it suited to just bring my nephew with us. Idk if this suits but like there is place and time for everyting but it not this time.

OP posts:
Miltinathebubble3 · 20/05/2025 01:09

Nah ur not, i would not bring my nephew either if i was meeting up with friends and our kids. Your mom should not have try to push you by giving your nephew false hope to join as it seems even if they play good together, and your sister had litteraly no right in getting mad. You guys had plans that did not involve your nephew wich is okay!

Miltinathebubble3 · 20/05/2025 02:22

TaupeMember · 19/05/2025 16:23

Just tell her next time, and make sure you stick to it if you said it.

OP does not owe her nephew. And didn’t know he would be there

feelingbleh · 20/05/2025 03:47

Biggyteddy · 19/05/2025 16:40

@Springtime43 i tried my best english is far from my first language

Your op is fine it makes perfect sense.

TaupeMember · 26/05/2025 20:05

Miltinathebubble3 · 20/05/2025 02:22

OP does not owe her nephew. And didn’t know he would be there

She told him they could go as a family next time.

She doesn't ow him anything of course, but I'm a believer if you say something to a child you should at least try stick to it.

Kathrinebubble · 27/05/2025 17:24

ofc its okay Op ya all can go next time as family togheter. You can’t just invite people to other outgoings when meeting with other people. And. How much fun would a 9 year old have with a 5 year old and a toddler anyways?

@TaupeMember i think op said that this was the first time she made him a promise. So it wasn’t something she had told him before, but when she went over to pick up her daughter.

Throwmoneyatit · 27/05/2025 17:46

Biggyteddy · 19/05/2025 16:40

@Springtime43 i tried my best english is far from my first language

Most people understood perfectly, op.

Don't feel bad, you're not unreasonable. You weren't going out as a family, you were going our with friends and your nephew wasn't invited.

If you were planning on taking your nephew one day without friends, tell yous sister this and don't let it consume you!

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