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Posting picture on facebook without my consent

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Thickasabrick89 · 18/05/2025 21:20

Maybe I'm blowing this out of proportion i don't know.

I requested at the start of a weekend city break not to post any pictures of me on Facebook.

I mentioned it a few times throughout the trip to my brother not to. I don't give consent.

Tonight i noticed that he had put up a 'facebook' story and i am in a group picture.

I managed to get him to remove it immediately (although had been up for 5 hours).

My mum had explained he asked her first and she said do it as it is a nice family picture and will be up for only 24 hours as a result he put it up.

I'm feeling upset that my wishes were ignored. For reference we are in our 30s not 12 years old.

Whilst i shouldn't really have a reason as to why i don't want my pictures on fb etc. The main reason is for work as my job is sensitive. My profile is locked down, privatised and not used but I can't guarantee the same for close family and friends..

There is more. Such as my mum gaslighting me and saying I'm showing signs of a personality disorder and that i must be ashamed of my family for not wanting my picture up but not sure if relevant. I did offer to get it printed and framed as an alternative so she can see it every day which i felt was a fair compromise but no.

Reading it back it sounds like a stupid minor thing but has totally wound me up.

OP posts:
Wavescrashingonthebeach · 19/05/2025 08:53

I'm on your side op.
And you should be able to trust your family to respect your wishes but sadly they can't so I agree with pp that unfortunately it may be best to duck out of family photos in future.

WellINeverrr · 19/05/2025 08:55

FedupofArsenalgame · 19/05/2025 07:57

So how do people prevent that if they go to a tourist attraction for example and caught in the background of someone else's pic ,( random person)

You'd have to wear a balaclava in public

Risk mitigation isn't about elimination every single risk that may exist, it's about lessening the risk as much as possible.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 19/05/2025 09:12

WellINeverrr · 19/05/2025 08:55

Risk mitigation isn't about elimination every single risk that may exist, it's about lessening the risk as much as possible.

Exactly and a crowd background pic is totally different to a posed family pic

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