Was this rude of BIL?

[Canc]

So I had my older sister and her husband over. Along with our other sister and parents.

Older sister BEGGED for me to make my spag bol. My version is her fav meal. I said of course. Now we in no way make authentic spag bol. We like it with a hint of chilli plus we add in two cans of chopped tomatoes but don’t like it too tomato-y. More of the meat flavour. I kind of cook out the taste of the tomato. Not a fan of that zingy flavour in spag bol. We also prefer cheddar cheese sprinkled on top (had Parmesan available for BIL).

Anyway, as it was reducing down BIL comes back from the offy. I was just adjusting seasonings. He takes a bite. Says it needs more tomato and chucks in a whole load of wine. Didn’t even ask! It was tasting amazing until he did that. So fucking rude. Who the hell does he think he is? We are friendly but not best pals or anything.

It was impossible to cook the alcohol taste out as he put in so much. BIL who is a know it all said that’s the authentic way so it’s fine.

People had very small portions and did not finish their plates. There was a lot leftover and usually there is not even a scrap left.

BIL always does shit like this

He's a twat.

Tell him that if he knows better, he can cook next time.

It was basically red wine pasta and reminded me of stomach acid/after taste of vomit 🤢

'Sorry it tastes f*ing awful, BIL decided to pour far too much wine into the pot while I was cooking it, for some very odd reason known only to him'.

I’d be fuming too. I hope you told everyone why it tasted like that!!

According to BIL Spag Bol should have a slight taste of alcohol….as if

I would have rapped his knuckles with the wooden spoon and shout "why the fuck did you do that you twat"?

Also who the fuck cares what is authentic. I make it to my family’s taste

He is a twat - I hope you made that clear to him and everyone.

You could also inform him that most people would say the authentic version involves white wine, not red, so he is not only rude but if he wants to be a pompous arse he should do better research. Actually that version uses white wine and milk, not tomatoes, so you might like it..

Put it in a Tupperware box and send him all the inedible leftovers and make him eat it like Ms Trunchbull did to that kid in Matilda. Teach the bastard!

That’s awful.

The is exactly what happened. No one else wanted it.

We had half a Dutch oven’s worth left. I have seen my sister’s fight over literal tablespoons of leftovers in the past. They will eat a whole plate of spaghetti with half a tablespoon’s worth of bolognaise

The best thing I read on MN was a woman who called her husband a "spoony fucker" for even daring to stir the pot of sauce she was cooking.

This is beyond spoony fuckerism. I'd be very very very cross with anyone who added something to a dish I was cooking.

Dutch oven?

What’s the question sorry?

It’s a big pot with a lid.

I had only heard of this as when you fart in bed and trap someones head under the covers, I did not know it was a big pot.
I figured it out from the fact that spag bol was cooked in one

He'd have been wearing it if he did that in my kitchen.

Was everyone aware of what he did? I hope they don’t think you put it in

Spoony Fucker 😂😂😂😂😂

Your BIL would not survive here messing with the gravy.

Justifiable homicide.

@Canc I hope you announced at the dinner table to excuse the spag bol not being up to your usual standards but cf bil decided to pour a bottle of wine in the pot before I could stop him!! I personally hate alcohol being cooked in all foods!! I think it ruins the taste and then it gives me indigestion!!

I would have tried chucking in some more tomatoes and cooked it for longer. The spoony fucker would just have to wait. A chef once told dh to put in some wine shortly before the spa bol was ready but I think he meant just a few mils and not a boatload of wine. Tbh I would have been incandescent with rage and would have thrown the whole lot out and made bil pay for a takeaway.

I agree that bolognese needs red wine - but you put it in near the beginning so the alcohol cooks out. And your BIL is still a twat for interfering.

Apart from agreeing that your BiL is an idiot, I’m just here to say that your Spag Bol sounds amazing…any chance of the recipe? X

I put a whole bottle of red wine in my spag bol , and it takes a long time to cook it down so you get the richness and not the alcohol flavour. I would never add to anyone else's cooking, I would just be grateful it wasn't me doing it for a change.

Your BIL is rude !