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Advice after upstairs neighbour arrested at 4am by 5 police officers

79 replies

Lulabelle25 · 17/05/2025 13:13

I'm worried about my security and safety after 5 police officers came to the house at 4am and arrested a man living in the flat of my upstairs neighbour . Before they took him away i heared them say it was for failing to attend court. My neighbour herself tried to assault me last year and I do not even know if the housing association know the man who was arrested yesterday is living there. My neighbour and i share a front door on a street property. What can I do to ensure my safety and security now?

OP posts:
Dontletthebedbugsbite2 · 17/05/2025 13:13

Nothing. Mind your own business and carry on with your life.

Cherry8809 · 17/05/2025 13:16

Dontletthebedbugsbite2 · 17/05/2025 13:13

Nothing. Mind your own business and carry on with your life.

This.

Are you always this dramatic? Stop making it about you 😂

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/05/2025 13:22

If you're in a housing association property could you see if there's a swap list or if they have any other properties you could move into?

You could ask if you can put a ring doorbell up.

Someone at your neighbour's home getting arrested isn't in itself a risk to your safety .

InfoSecInTheCity · 17/05/2025 13:22

In what way do you think you are at risk?

A man living in a different property close to yours was arrested, why would that change your risk profile in any way?

Jeezitneverends · 17/05/2025 13:26

You’re safer than you’ve ever been now he’s been arrested 😂

Deerrobin · 17/05/2025 13:29

He’s been arrested so you’re likely a lot safer today than you were yesterday.

Evaka · 17/05/2025 13:31

People are so fucking weird and mean on here.

OP shares a front door with a woman who tried to assault her and a man who was arrested in the wee hours by five cops.

They sound like scumbags and I'd be trying to move OP. In the meantime, make sure doors locked and yes get a ring doorbell.

Jeezitneverends · 17/05/2025 13:33

Evaka · 17/05/2025 13:31

People are so fucking weird and mean on here.

OP shares a front door with a woman who tried to assault her and a man who was arrested in the wee hours by five cops.

They sound like scumbags and I'd be trying to move OP. In the meantime, make sure doors locked and yes get a ring doorbell.

But strangely enough she waits till the person’s been arrested and is in custody for at least the weekend pending a court appearance, before asking for advice…

WinterMorn · 17/05/2025 13:35

The drama! It’s nothing whatsoever to do with you.

MasterOfOne · 17/05/2025 13:39

I disagree with a few of the posters above.

On Monday contact the Housing association and speak to the antisocial behaviour unit and share a report as to what has happened.

The housing association has a duty to all residents for safe and quiet environment.

It starts to build a picture of the tenants and if it gets out of control, they will have more authority to act.

Report it all.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 17/05/2025 13:40

It's none of your business, there is a variety of reasons he may have been due in court and not attended.

You can tell the HA he is there, but your neighbour is allowed a partner to live there and not be on the tenancy. Chances are, the HA knows the door has been stoved in as police would tell them so they can replace the door.

If your neighbour assaulted you, I hope you logged a police report.

MounjaroMounjaro · 17/05/2025 13:41

Some people on here are just nasty. Of course she's concerned.

OP, speak to your housing officer and tell them everything. Is the woman still there today?

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 17/05/2025 13:41

MasterOfOne · 17/05/2025 13:39

I disagree with a few of the posters above.

On Monday contact the Housing association and speak to the antisocial behaviour unit and share a report as to what has happened.

The housing association has a duty to all residents for safe and quiet environment.

It starts to build a picture of the tenants and if it gets out of control, they will have more authority to act.

Report it all.

Edited

The housing association has a duty to put a roof over their head.

The police has the duty to keep people safe. Given he's been nicked, they seem to have upheld their part of that deal..

IberianBlackout · 17/05/2025 13:44

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 17/05/2025 13:41

The housing association has a duty to put a roof over their head.

The police has the duty to keep people safe. Given he's been nicked, they seem to have upheld their part of that deal..

They also have a duty of welfare and safeguarding

ZepherinDrouhin · 17/05/2025 13:44

So you're more concerned about the man who has been arrested rather than the woman who tried to assault you? Did you report the violent woman to the police?

IberianBlackout · 17/05/2025 13:45

@Lulabelle25 they won’t do anything but report every single antisocial incident to build up a file

In the meantime your only choice is trying to move. In my experience, unless they try to set the building on fire or something the HA won’t do anything.

butteredradish1 · 17/05/2025 13:46

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 17/05/2025 13:41

The housing association has a duty to put a roof over their head.

The police has the duty to keep people safe. Given he's been nicked, they seem to have upheld their part of that deal..

HA still has a duty

CremeEggThief · 17/05/2025 13:47

Eh? I think he's the one who is more in need of advice than you tbh if that's how he lives his life! 🤔

Allschoolsareartschools · 17/05/2025 13:49

So easy to sneer when you aren't living in this situation.
Definitely report OP.

ArtTheClown · 17/05/2025 13:51

My neighbour herself tried to assault me last year and I do not even know if the housing association know the man who was arrested yesterday is living there.

For those that missed this bit, someone at the same flat has already attempted to attack the OP - of course she's concerned.

WinterMorn · 17/05/2025 13:54

ArtTheClown · 17/05/2025 13:51

My neighbour herself tried to assault me last year and I do not even know if the housing association know the man who was arrested yesterday is living there.

For those that missed this bit, someone at the same flat has already attempted to attack the OP - of course she's concerned.

It’s an entirely separate incident though

ArtTheClown · 17/05/2025 13:55

It’s an entirely separate incident though

It's the same flat though, of course OP will feel even more concerned the more dubious, potentially violent people are there.

butteredradish1 · 17/05/2025 13:56

ArtTheClown · 17/05/2025 13:51

My neighbour herself tried to assault me last year and I do not even know if the housing association know the man who was arrested yesterday is living there.

For those that missed this bit, someone at the same flat has already attempted to attack the OP - of course she's concerned.

Wouldn't she have a disly concern about that

Ihad2Strokes · 17/05/2025 13:59

Evaka · 17/05/2025 13:31

People are so fucking weird and mean on here.

OP shares a front door with a woman who tried to assault her and a man who was arrested in the wee hours by five cops.

They sound like scumbags and I'd be trying to move OP. In the meantime, make sure doors locked and yes get a ring doorbell.

I agree! This place is getting more shitty posters by the day. I don't know what they get out of it,....

@Lulabelle25 I'd contact the HA. Remind them that she assaulted you, tell them about last night &ask what your options are.

i don't know what your options are re the various checks you can have done, but ask the police.

id put a ring type door bell up (there are stick on ones) so I wouldn't even ask HA.

you should be safer now he's gone anyway.

i presume you already have good licks & a chain on your door? Keep it locked when you're home.

im dirty you're living in this stressful environment 💐

Horses7 · 17/05/2025 14:02

YANBU - especially as neighbour tried to assault you last year. Report it and try to avoid your neighbour.